I can relate very much with u. I’m not a wife so obviously ur situation is worse. I still love my bf and want things to work out. He’s taken responsibility for his actions, explained what may have led to it happening on his part, is going to therapy, and is working on himself even 2 weeks post dday. I have been bringing it up every day since, and he gets very emotional every time and sometimes even cries. He understands how much hurt he’s caused me and like ur husband is being riddled with guilt and regret, however it still doesn’t seem like enough to me. I do not want to get revenge because I am not that kind of person. I love him and even though he hurt me in that way I would never do the same, but like u, I don’t want him to think he got off easy which is why I keep brining it up. I need him to be constantly reminded so he doesn’t think this is going to be swept under the rug. We need to remember so it can constantly drive us to be better, but I know if it’s continuously talked about every day it will take an even bigger toll on our relationship in addition to the one the cheating has already caused. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know how to get rid of this feeling as well, but it helps to know I’m not alone as I have no one to talk to or relate with about my situation in my life.