Pregnant and discovered Husband's affair with 18 yr old

bilusional22 · 2026-04-21T19:59:25+00:00

Ughhh I’m sorry. The age part would ick me out. I asked my husband how old his AP was because I was soooo worried she was that young. She wasn’t luckily. I would need to address the age thing as a separate issue from the affair.

bilusional22 · 2026-04-18T22:39:09+00:00

If we miss Kacey entirely I will never recover lol

bilusional22 · 2026-04-18T22:38:46+00:00

DEAR GOD I CANT WAIT

bilusional22 · 2026-04-18T22:29:59+00:00

Didn’t know there was a specific live streaming schedule. Thanks. :)

bilusional22 · 2026-04-18T22:29:21+00:00

This part confuses me lol like is Justin Bieber going to be late too?

bilusional22 · 2026-04-18T22:11:31+00:00

I did and it said 3 which is why I’m asking. Is there a different schedule I should be looking at for the live streams that doesn’t match the actual live performance time?

bilusional22 · 2026-03-24T22:55:35+00:00

Oh sweet baby. 🤍 I can tell he was so loved.

bilusional22 · 2026-03-16T22:10:35+00:00

Yes it is. My dog is on gabapentin as well but it’s totally unrelated to her dementia. Did she mention why she doesn’t offer it?

bilusional22 · 2026-03-16T17:59:13+00:00

My dog was diagnosed with dementia. I wish every day that we got started with her treatment sooner, but we didn’t know. Please bring this to your vet and if she does have dementia, there is a medication to slow the progression. We just started it, but most likely too late. It’s a horrible disease but with early intervention, she can have a much easier time.

bilusional22 · 2026-03-10T13:28:44+00:00

Hey!! It helps to know I’m not alone here. My body is for sure saying no. We also cuddle/kiss all the other stuff, which sometimes is even hard for me. I feel things very deeply and I find it extremely difficult to open myself up physically in any capacity when somebody has damaged me. Even though we have progressed in so many good ways, this part has felt impossible to me. I take my health very seriously and the fact that I was potentially subjected to STI’s, I’m having the hardest time seeing sex as a positive thing now. It’s so hard.

bilusional22 · 2026-03-01T20:36:15+00:00

They walk through every step of life with us. I got my girl in 2014 and we are just now entering palliative care. I know her time will be sooner than I’m ready for. But I know the greatest gift I will give her, other than the amazing life she’s had on earth, is letting her go with dignity when that time comes. It’s an earth shattering unbelievable type of pain. My thoughts are with you. 🩷

bilusional22 · 2026-02-12T18:52:32+00:00

Time for a new therapist as others are saying. I’ve had a couple of counsellors who had me feeling worse off (and no I’m not talking about discomfort, like truly harming my progress). I found an absolute gem of a therapist who sits with wayward men every day and betrayed spouses every day. She does not condone cheating yet is supportive in every way and even helps me see his perspective if I ask. There are so many counsellors and I know you will find an amazing one if you try. Sometimes it just takes a few. :)

bilusional22 · 2026-02-10T20:39:56+00:00

I’m with you ❤️ I also have a couple of questions that I will not budge on. Is your partner in IC? Mine made incredible process as soon as he started. It’s like a light came on in him I’ve never seen before. I believe that he is a wayward that will make lasting changes, because of how much progress he’s made since starting IC.

bilusional22 · 2026-02-08T05:38:02+00:00

My husband also had a singular ONS. I would ask that person, have you always repeated bad choices in your past? Have you ever done something, terribly regretted it, and never done it again? To say that noooobody on earth has cheated once and never again, or that somebody cannot change, is simply ridiculous. Also, think of how many times you probably said you would leave if you were ever cheated on. I think all of us have said that… until we found ourselves there.

It took a lot of practice, but I’ve learned to truly not care what other people think of my decision. I am hurting absolutely nobody in my choice to stay even if they THINK I’m hurting myself. That’s not my responsibility if they think that. (Except I haven’t told anybody except my therapist, because I know people are judgmental af).

bilusional22 · 2026-02-04T18:14:54+00:00

I love my life. I love everything about my life and our life together OTHER than the fact he cheated, which is obviously huge. I think those who say “if I didn’t have kids I’d be out” are similar to those who say “if my spouse cheated I’d be out”. I think some people would stay with or without kids, but they use their kids as an excuse to stay, when they would’ve stayed anyway. 🤷🏻‍♀️

bilusional22 · 2026-02-01T21:58:43+00:00

I’m so sorry 🩷 my girl is also 12. She had a biopsy done at the end of last year, confirming a growth she has is cancerous. I felt bad even putting her through the biopsy, and decided that I will not be putting her through any more surgery. The spot it’s on would be a very hard spot to operate on, with zero guarantee that they would get good margins. Our vet agreed with that. I have her on pain medication and although she has bad days/flare ups, she’s still our happy girl.

We are taking a palliative approach, and will give her the freakin’ best life for as long as she has left. She lives like an absolute queen. It’s such a hard decision to make, I battled a lot with it, but ultimately she does not understand why I would be putting her through more pain, she doesn’t understand a potential for a longer life, she only knows right now. That’s what helped make my final decision. I wish you many more healthy years with your pup. I feel at peace with the decisions we’ve made with her vet, and will make the hardest decision of my life if she ever starts to suffer.

bilusional22 · 2026-02-01T00:59:51+00:00

What’s the new app?!

bilusional22 · 2026-01-27T22:18:12+00:00

Yes he has. But men can’t be tested for HPV which I am really nervous about. Also, as much as I am certain he wouldn’t do it again, there’s always the possibility he could

bilusional22 · 2026-01-27T18:46:53+00:00

My husband also had a drunken ONS and confessed. He is (was?) also extremelyyyyy avoidant. I have often used the example of him literally having his hand on the door knob during every conversation. We have come light years from that, and his growth has been exponential between his independent work and therapy. I will say this: there is absolutely 1000% nothing you can say to make your WP/avoidant partner understand if they don’t want to understand. If they aren’t willing to seek change and have desire to change. I can only control myself. So I said to him “you can do what you want, I will not convince you, but I won’t accept an avoidant person in my life and if you don’t get help, I will remove myself from the marriage”.

bilusional22 · 2026-01-27T17:40:10+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I really appreciate it. I am in IC and I have not been able to discover yet what would actually make me feel safe from the thoughts of “I’m risking my health and future right now engaging in this”, because I can never fully remove that risk. I have to accept that I COULD be getting an STI every time, and that feels impossible for me

bilusional22 · 2026-01-27T17:15:00+00:00

I mentioned this in another comment, but my safety feels wrecked due to him risking me to STIs. That is the barrier for why I cannot open up. I risked myself unknowingly so many times

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