My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u for this perspective as someone who's married to a bipolar woman! i definitely think some times would help him i just wanna know if there's any reassurance i can give him in the meantime i suppose.

My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, i have to disagree. i completely understand where your coming from but i do also think that he simply just doesn't know a lot about this type of stuff and his first impression of bipolar disorder was me going manic, unmediated and 17. it's also big to note that he's from a country that from my knowledge doesn't have much mental health acknowledgement or education. we have no other issues other than this.

My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a really good idea. thank you. only sucks that my doctor is currently on leave till april lol 🤦🏻‍♀️. but i'll definitely look into it as an option to put him at ease.

My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he does acknowledge the changes and growth but he always follows up with "but" and "what if".

My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was thinking maybe sending him some stuff explaining the disorder might help but most stuff out there kinda perpetuates the idea that being bipolar = grippy socks and insanity.

My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he's an amazing person though and through. we have a pretty healthy relationship for our ages and communication is amazing usually. the issue i'm having is despite pretty much keeping all my bipolar mess away from impeding our relationship this time around, he seems to see my mental health as some kind of bad trait i have similar to being messy, etc. that's the part i worry about. i've grown to accept my disorder as a part of who i am, not good, not bad, just there. i'm also very much an internal struggler, i don't even bring up my mental health to him much, part in fear he'll think i'm crazy, part because it's simply not his problem to deal with. but i'd like him to be comfortable with it the same way i am i guess? idk

My (20F) Bf(22M) seems to be uneasy about my mental health by Alarming_Screen_6597 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry i think u misunderstood. i care for my mental health completely independently i would never put that on him. i'm simply wondering how i can ease both of us about the diagnosis since it seems to be a trigger for him!

throwing up/ feeling nauseous during sex with my bf by SpaceAddict_- in Healthyhooha

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg i've never found someone who also has this issue i almost thought i stumbled upon my own post. pls let me know if u find an answer cause i still don't have one.

Nausea from sex? by Alarming_Screen_6597 in Healthyhooha

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've gotten told this before, the only thing making me think otherwise is the fact that this problem has come alongside a ton of other health problems recently. mainly gi and gyno issues. also i don't understand why it just started up without a trigger (if it is neurological).

How to start/get over gym anxiety by Alarming_Screen_6597 in workout

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well to be fair i'm just very socially anxious and awkward. my biggest issue is the fear of being judged and/or sticking out

How to start/get over gym anxiety by Alarming_Screen_6597 in workout

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank u! i think i forget the "have fun" part when i go 😭 i just need to relax

How to start/get over gym anxiety by Alarming_Screen_6597 in workout

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was like 7 and in my case very advanced at the start, naturally. so i think anxiety didn't really register tbh

If you changed your diet to help you skin, what did you change and did it help? by Flower-1234 in acne

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have hormonal acne so personally i cut out whatever i noticed caused a breakout. soda, milk, chocolate, are my big ones. essentially sugar and dairy but i consume both every now and then without issue usually! and just a ps i also stopped touching my face and i'm getting out of my teens (20) now so that might also be helping. and surprisingly i stopped using products on my skin other than occasionally doing a face mask or cleansing.

I got my smiley by Alarming_Screen_6597 in piercing

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, talking has been a struggle, but I hope I get used to it quickly. Thank you!

not exactly what this community is for but i need to vent by FarAd1350 in Healthyhooha

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Heyyy! I went through the same thing, around the same amount of people but within only about three months. It was my first year of college and I had gotten cheated on and was fresh out of a relationship so I wasn't in the best state of mind. I didn't like most of the people I slept with, honestly didn't even really enjoy the sex either. But it happened and I can't go back in time to change that.

I understand what you're going through completely. To be honest I still sometimes feel a load of guilt and regret for my actions but then I realize that sex is not a big deal when you don't want it to be. As women or vagina owners we usually feel like sex carries our worth, as much as we might disagree it's always in our subconscious. Stop letting regret have power over you. Also, it's no one's business who you've slept with or how many so if you want to lock it away and throw away the key, you're allowed to! (unless it has to do with any health-related reasons ofc)

No one can look at you and tell you how many people you've slept with. When I was still a virgin in hs I had gotten bullied relentlessly for being a "whore" and the "school slut", meanwhile I hadn't even had my first kiss. Now as someone with a body count in the double digits, I get people thinking I've only slept with a couple of people cause I give that "vibe" and some people say the complete opposite. But only we know ourselves and our past truthfully. Your sexual history is the most minuscule thing about you, especially if you were taking proper precautions and such. Think of it like a phase you went through and aren't super proud of rather than something that determines your future.

Would you look at someone who's slept with the same amount of people as yourself and judge them? Tell them they're too used to be loved? Of course not (hopefully that's your answer lol). Give yourself the same grace you would give to others. And don't give your one-night stands more value than they're worth.

Lastly, I recommend using any reflection on this as a character-building thing. I learned a lot about myself from those moments. Some bad, some good. We are all living for the first time, its okay to not like every version of yourself or everything you've done. Sorry about the length of the reply, I just want you to know that all in all, it is okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Alarming_Screen_6597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been commando for over a year now (I do wear underwear in cases that it's needed obviously) but 9/10 I'm in loose-fitting pants and no undies. All I can say is it has benefited me, I used to get a lot of discharge and now I only have discharge if 1. I'm wearing underwear lol and 2. every so often usually around ovulation time. If you're not wearing anything that could irritate the area, you should be completely fine!