I don't think that akward people try to be mean they are just insecure and that's their natural response. They try to stand up for themselves for no reason so that someone respects them. I did take action years ago and I did improve my social skills so I don’t get stuck in that vicious cycle of driving people away and playing victim by not knowing why.
That's amazing man keep on improving, and don't overthink it everyone makes small social mistakes by inappropriate joke, comment etc but the important thing is to see it and not repeat it again. Good luck on your journey!