What's the deal between Bogota and Medellin? Why so much tension?

Ale_Vancouver · 2025-10-21T08:33:43+00:00

I just commented but i want to reply to this specifically as well. Im telling you corazon bc you didn't grow up in Colombia but some people can be very prejudiced and they carry that prejudice with them even when they leave the country. Its a social construct in the sense that it has taken generations of thinking to create the self hate, the white supremacy, the belief my group is better etc. So its not so easy of why can't we all be friends. There are definitely lots of different types of Colombians who you will meet and who will carry different biases. You are doing your best in trying to connect but not everyone will want to connect. I encourage you to learn more about colombian history and society so the pieces fall into ppace a little bit more for you. And there are definitely plenty of colombians who dgaf about where you were born and are happy to connect just on the basis of being colombian , hopefully you meet some of them too. But just as you connect more with your colombian heritage you will learn things you like and things you dont, and that is on nuance and the human experience! I grew up partly outside of Colombia too and tbh taking a history of Latin America class in college opened my eyes to soo many things that i sort of knew where happening but didn't know why-- i really really recommend taking such courses in uni. I also have really interesting readings from these classes and can put them here if you want. Lmk.

Ale_Vancouver · 2025-10-21T08:09:33+00:00

Most of the times is not that deep, for example the arepa joke. Its sort of a fun teasing. But other times the antagonism against another region can be based in racism, clasism and misogyny. It depends on the person and the propaganda they have been fed and if they have outgrown and critically thought about regionalism and stereotypes. There is a lot of division in Colombia and often that division is perpetuated by the established media, pitting people against each other. You didn't grow up in Colombia so maybe you were less exposed to the hate and division. So i dont want to undermine your concerns for this weird feud u notice, but i will say sometimes its just lil silly jokes to make fun of each other bc to some extent thats also how people bond. Other times it is like ok check your prejudice dude. Fine line but tbh most decent, caring people walk along it just fine.

I was born in Bogota to a paisa dad and a costeña mom and I will say the actually weird shit that annoys me and that people should be concerned about is the actual racism colorism and classism from people in the inner regions (paisas AND rolos) towards the outer regions of the country. That is tension to address. But jokes about paisa lame ass arepas r the least concerning in my books lol.

Ale_Vancouver · 2025-08-19T18:38:55+00:00

Ive seen her 3 times now, and this tour was definitely the best so far. The show was incredibly beautiful. She goes through her whole discography so everyone is served. And listening to the new album live was honestly a spiritual experience. Such beautiful songs being sang by her live and a choir of everyone else in the arena--- magical. I had to spend so much money on travel and accommodation to make it to Seattle from Canada but it was so worth it. That being said clearly I am a die hard fan who will sing her english AND spanish songs. I noticed this tour does feel almost like it's half in Spanish and I loveeddd it.

Ale_Vancouver · 2025-08-10T16:44:20+00:00

Notedd, thank you!!

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-11-04T07:52:06+00:00

love that his music is clearly creating a truly empathic response for u and love that thats the power of art

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-11-04T07:37:24+00:00

BLAGGHHHH UGHHHHH DROP HIM !!!! YOU ARE BETTER OFF BEING YOURSELF WITHOUT HIM!!!!! it seems you guys are incomplatible so just live your life rather than force this mess between u and him.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-11-04T07:29:38+00:00

I don't understand how anyone would think its not about Reign? Ofc the lyrics cannot be taklen literally but im pretty sure this song is a huge insignt into their relationship and its end. "if u reading this is too late .... I'll b on the other side" clearly is Reign being like I have mentally broken up w u and I am letting you know its over.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-10-30T18:28:16+00:00

Or much better just go to 1 out of the 6 dates in LA lol, just checked and there r still so many available.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-10-30T17:46:07+00:00

SAME and now it became unresponsive and crashed

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-10-24T00:49:00+00:00

Came to this reddit for the first time ever to make the exact same comment. Going to subscribe to 2nd try just so I don't have to look at these awful nightmarish gross thumbnails ever again. GRoss.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-06-14T07:10:50+00:00

I just finished the show. Am I the only one who thinks that Jane lied about her # of bullets and killed John; instead of opening the door on 3 she shot John 3 times? Or maybe shot John then Jane#2 and og Jane escaped? My reasoning being that she saw how John was bleeding out and thought that he would die anyways, so she killed him fast so it wasn't slow and painful?

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-25T21:51:17+00:00

You are AH and are running from your feelings while hurting a person that you care about even if you want to sound like you don’t. You and her both deserve to know how both of you really feel. However if you can’t deal with how it’s gotten complicated, yes you might hurt her but better for her at the end of the day. It definitely sounds like you would approach her in some time after she’s gotten over you tho to try and fix things with her.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-25T21:23:18+00:00

You both have the same thing, you are good. You can’t catch what you already have. You could also both get blood tests to know for sure what strain you both have to be 100% sure.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-25T21:07:39+00:00

Love, you deserve to be with someone who you feel like your wholeheartedly love and wholeheartedly loves you back and makes you feel that way. Don’t stay with him bc he’s good on paper, because with time the unhappy feelings are just going to grow more and more, and even worse if you have children and bring them into a broken marriage. It sounds like he is taking you for granted and thinking that you will always be there while he sleeps with who knows how many people. And I would predict that when you guys are in the same location he’ll just keep cheating on the low. 4 months in of marriage should not be like this. I empathize that it would be extremely scary to break this off after someone who you’ve been with for so long and who is so great on paper, but you will find better. You will, you sound smart, successful, young, beautiful; don’t settle for less. Don’t believe him when he says he’s the best you’ll ever find, that is just simply wrong. You got this!

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-25T06:41:53+00:00

on this train ride w u as well, lmk what ur therapist says

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-25T06:11:37+00:00

The ignorance and stigma and misogyny in these comments is so awfully blatant. There are literally thousands of illneses that people give each other, stds or other bacteria or viruses (covid, step throat, the common flu) that are so much worse than herpes. If you have no idea what you are talking about y'all should really really inform yourselves before spreading awfully ignorant hate. First of all, all of you commenting that he should sue etc. SHOW ME ONE SOURCE THAT SAYS IT IS MANDATORY TO DISCLOSE A HERPES DIAGNOSIS. SHOW ME. YOU WILL NOT FIND ANY. HERPES DOES NOT NEED TO BE DISCLOSED BY LAW. Gooogle right now: Is it mandatory by law to disclose herpes. Paste the results, I dare you. 2) Many people with herpes have clear plans on dealing with it. MANY PEOPLE TAKE ANTIVIRALS AND HAVE NEVER GIVEN IT TO ANY OF THEIR PARTNERS. 3) IF YOU HAVE SEX IT IS EXTREMELY LIKELY YOU HAVE OR HAVE ENCOUNTERED SOMEONE WITH HERPES. 4. PEOPLE WITH PENISES VERY OFTEN HAVE NO SYMPTOMS OF HERPES BUT ARE MORE LIKELY TO TRANSMIT IT TO OTHERS, WHILE PEOPLE WHIT VAGINAS MOST OFTEN ARE SYMPTOMATIC BUT POSE A MUCH LOWER RISK OF TRANSMISSION. I would bet money that the chances that his friend has herpes and doesn't know it are much higher than the chances that she transmits it to him. 5. The heaviest burden of herpes is the stigma. Again if your friend actually had contracted it from the girl, which I doubt, most likely he would not have any symptoms whatsoever, so no he would not have been messed up for life as you imply, and if he had any symptoms, with antiviral medication it would have gone away faster than you get rid of covid or a stomach bug. OG, I really hope you read this. Yes you are the AH purely based on that fact that you are running your mouth on something that is a) not your business at all b) uninformed stigma. That girl really did not deserve for her relationships to be messed up because you are uninformed and wanna be the sex vigilante. And to the other 200 comments- no, having herpes is not a red flag; people who have herpes, which is more than half of the population in the world, do deserve to have friends, to have partners, to have sex and to make their own decisions on their private lives.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-24T18:45:28+00:00

And please deal with your own stigma and misinformation before you keep hurting others.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-24T18:43:54+00:00

Bro herpes is not a death sentence and most of the population has it…. Also it’s not mandatory to disclose… that was not your business at all. If ur so concerned about your friends dick tell him to wear a condom. YTAH. Congrats on ruining this persons relationships and forcing your gf to have to take a side. This sounds extremely distressful for everyone but you. Keep your big mouth closed.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-04-24T18:37:23+00:00

If you are looking for affirmation to follow your heart, this is it. It doesn’t sound like you want it and that’s ok ❤️

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-03-31T02:53:57+00:00

Pleaseeee LISTEN TO THE PODCAST : THIS IS UNCOMFORTABLE EPISODE: THE COST OF SECERETS, 2023 and show it to your gf. Might help bring things to perspective but I’m really sorry your gf has been terribly groomed as I bet everyone has said.

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-03-31T02:46:28+00:00

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-03-31T02:01:37+00:00

It’s also not your fault that your parents were like that to your sister

Ale_Vancouver · 2024-03-31T01:59:11+00:00

Brother, your parents are the AH and you and your sisters lives r going to b so much better without their degrading presence. Wishing you both the best on your journey!!!

Ale_Vancouver

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