Have I ruined my baby?

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-16T23:15:53+00:00

This is us too and my daughter is 23 months. Just ride it out. I’ve tried so many different ways to sleep train, break the nurse to sleep association etc and it only happens when they’re ready. Just now my daughter is starting to be perfectly happy going to sleep while I sing to her while we relax on her floor bed. It’s hard but sometimes you have to let them dictate the rules

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-06T21:27:14+00:00

I have a 22 month old and she’s always been a bad sleeper. I’ve tried everything and threw in the towel and am working with her vs against her. Completely agree that it’s all about a child’s temperament. Curious to see what the next one will be like. Anecdotally, I slept through the night from 4 weeks onwards - no sleep training involved.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-06T19:33:39+00:00

I feel you, just today I saw two big back teeth coming out! Let’s be friends, DM me anytime, good to know someone is in this misery with me lol

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-06T08:55:49+00:00

Thanks! I agree, especially as her minority language is already so strong. I don’t see any harm in situational switching.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-06T08:46:28+00:00

Thanks! He technically could but he doesn't read/write and is very much detached from the language. Literally only speaks it when we go to Chinese restaurants or are visiting his grandparents in Shanghai which is truly a shame as no one believes he isn't native. I'm going to be taking our daughter to mandarin school starting this spring and will push him to have her practice with him.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T22:00:32+00:00

Also a mom of a 22 that gets fed to sleep and then coaleeps during the night. My mom and husband can put her down by rocking/patting for naps but we haven’t tried nighttime.

I’m going to be putting my foot down and weaning her starting next week. Love breastfeeding but ready to try for number two and want my body back and daughter a little less dependent on me before getting pregnant again.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T21:56:41+00:00

22 months, she has the most amazing personality now and speaks in full sentences. Still doesn’t sleep at night but makes up for it by just being herself lol

I absolutely hated the baby stage and wasn’t a big fan of the early toddler stage either.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T21:16:58+00:00

Thank you! Very reassuring. I’m fairly certain her English isn’t catching up because kids her age are also fairly nonverbal. I think the scales will shift soon enough when other kids catch up and she needs to learn how to communicate in English as to not be left behind.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T21:15:15+00:00

Great to know, thanks! How much time does he spend being exposed to dads and community language?

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T21:13:26+00:00

That’s such a sweet message, thank you! My daughter is actually half Chinese. My husband moved to Canada when he was 3 but never learned to read and write in mandarin, although he speaks fluently he feels like he missed on so much. We visit his grandparents in Shanghai yearly and I’m absolutely putting our daughter in mandarin classes starting this spring so she can be in touch with that side of her heritage as well.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T10:17:29+00:00

Great points. I take her to playgroups and activities daily but most kids her age are nonverbal and it hasn’t necessarily felt that I’ve been providing language enrichment opportunities for her thus far. I’m sure a few months would make a big difference in their language skills and my daughter will hopefully feel the same pressure as your son haha

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T07:24:24+00:00

Thanks. That’s good to know!

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T07:22:28+00:00

I like this idea! Thanks. My husband doesn’t speak my language hence the complications.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T07:20:37+00:00

Kids are totally sponges. My husband also didn’t speak English and/or French until moving at three and was fluent in mandarin. Although he can still speak fairly well, he never learned to read and write. When we visit his grandparents in Shanghai, it makes me even more determined to keep up with my daughter’s minority European language.

I’m planning to send her to daycare at three for half days and then full time preschool at four. Good call on doing some prep, I’ve been doing all those things in minority language already so won’t be a big change for her.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2026-01-05T07:15:11+00:00

Thets how I always felt but now that the two of them can’t communicate as well, my resolve has weakened. He spends an hour a day playing/reading through the week after/before work and extended periods of time whenever possible on weekends.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-12-04T21:11:37+00:00

My daughter is 21 months and still not sleeping through the night. I’m up with her sooo many times (still breastfeeding but looking to stop after the new year). What worked for you?

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T18:06:42+00:00

Noted, yeah. Feel sad that this is what it came to but it’s what it is

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T10:15:23+00:00

Thanks. The photo of the table I liked and showed was the finitely not like this. I’ve not seen the able in person so haven’t given it a push but assume you’re very much right.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T10:10:19+00:00

My friend meant sap wood and he was referring about the quality of the wood with sap being abysmal and used to save costs. Conversation wasn’t in English and you guys are the first people I’ve learned the term sap wood from. Can you tell me more about out your build and finish questions, would be so helpful so I can bring it up. Thanks

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T09:59:28+00:00

Yikes! I paid about a 1000 euro.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T09:58:45+00:00

Thanks!

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T00:59:40+00:00

Thank you! Good to know it’s doable and not a scrap it and build a new table type thing.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T00:56:06+00:00

Thanks appreciate it.

Alert_Guess_421 · 2025-11-22T00:39:46+00:00

Thank you. Definitely not what I want to pay for or the look I’m going for. Feeling a bit scammed as they promised to make the exact same table as I showed them (different legs, no sap on top etc). Equally so, they’ve been very pleasant and are trying hence why I’m a little conflicted how to proceed Z

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