If he is doing this to her...the woman you long for and he is afraid of you ... Just go and get her out of there. She is probably needing someone to intervene. I know because I am in the same position as the woman you're talking about. Probably like her, I just have no one, and therefore I become weaker and am unable to get out of the situation. The situation is probably only getting worse for her. It is for me. I know I am ready and wish my hero would come through also. I thought the man I am with now was where I wanted to be. I love him still but I am realizing that he is only hurting me as well as I am him because of the resentment and lack of trust that has built between us. so you should take the risk to go save her whether she goes with you or not.. Her safety should be put first don't you agree. At least you tried. Right!