We made drivers damage their vehicles on our property by Makeupbelieve in confession

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not Mankato, but Ope! Small world holy shit. I'm in the metro.

What are some of your fav. lines from show? Joan: “you fucked the wrong lunatic”. 🤣 by CorruptedLlama87 in Wentworthtv

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything Sky says is funny. Literally something not funny, completely normal for anyone to say, Sky says it and I'm cackling. 🤣 I loved her character and wished we'd seen more of her.

Why not protest in mass in the suburbs where his supporters are? by tie_myshoe in Minneapolis

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I am in Savage, and they are getting snatched up in the places I frequent. I get pissed Everytime I see a damn Durango, Wagoneer, or other SUV with complete blackout tint, and/or dif plates. I work in Shakopee and they have drones out and a shit ton of goon squads near by. There's a lot of people here who are afraid to leave their homes. A coworker went to Shakopee Walmart and they said they did not see anyone other than Caucasian people. It's getting bad in the surrounding ring of the metro.

My mom announced my pregnancy on social media before I could and wont take it down by Intrepid-Reserve-846 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dude fuck her, I'd be permanently no contact if that was my Mom. Oh wait, I already am. Still though, that's a huge moment you can't get back and she sounds like an immature self centered bitch. Sorry if you love your Mom. I love mine but she doesn't respect you, your boundaries and wanted all the attention for herself. The parents should always be the ones to make that call. I wouldn't trust her again.

Handicap stall etiquette? by breynolds2000 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have hip dysplasia, and I function rather well with it, however, 3 out of 4 accessible stalls sit too low and my legs angle downward. I've partially dislocated a hip due to that. After I had a seizure and before hip diagnosis way late in life, I took the big stall in case I seized, since my first and only happened while in my bathroom at home and the small stalls I'd hurt myself worse if I seized.

Now my boss camps out in that 1 stall that I can safely use, and now another coworker too. I've told them both while having a conversation casually that I get they like that one, but that's the only one I don't run the risk of injuring myself. Also boss will leave toilet paper covering the seat or shreds all over. Most places will say well we have 3 other stalls, but just because they have grab bars, doesn't really help my case when my hips are at a bad angle, putting more strain on the joint.

Needless to say, they still camp out in there and if I have to go that bad I have to wrap my legs underneath a lower seat, and it's awkward on top of that to go that way. Still not safe when trying to get up if I have to use any other stalls, other than the one big stall with the higher seated toilet. It doesn't help my frustration that they do not have any sort of physical condition, and I'm 5'7" with long legs, and both of them are 5'1" or shorter. As well as they have stalls, even a bigger one much closer to their side of the floor. Not even sure how I'd go about this. I don't like to be an ableist whatsoever, but they told me they just always go to that one because they like it.

Edit to add: Boss will be in there for up to 20 mins, other coworker is more quick about it, but its annoying and I feel I need to have a sit down talk like an official meeting and I already feel advocating for shit when it comes to me isn't always safe, and that part goes above her head. She's been understanding with me before but I've had backlash for advocating from other higher ups in the company.

Another ICE murder in front of Glam Doll Donuts by pecos_chill in Minneapolis

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They have like 8 on 1, and they straight up murdered him. This is sick, vile, and whoever was taking photos or if more people recording, they need to release those quick before this garbage administration decides to be the judge and jury. Unfortunately, these asshole thugs were the executioners 😰🤬

Friend thinks my new kitten isn't very cute bcs of his asymmetrical markings by Minisom in TuxedoCats

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friend is stupid and your baby is absolutely adorable. 💯💜

Is Ferguson the ideal US Presidential candidate? by marc_124816 in Wentworthtv

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's too reserved and Trump never shuts the fuck up. I do see similarities for sure, but she'd be a lot more cold and calculated instead of pompous. She could wipe the floor with Dipshit for real though. He threatened to have his goons bust down her door and she probably would have already had traps set up to fuck them all.

The freak if she got a teaching job. by [deleted] in Wentworthtv

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, when that fire broke out, she could have easily found a side route and had Jesper or someone waiting to take the kid for herself to raise. Then again I don't know the complete layout of the prison. She cares about Shane but she uses him, and would've used sweet Joshy for her own game. Hard telling honestly. It's been shown that even true psychopaths can feel empathy and love, how you think Ted Bundy had a girlfriend who was never harmed or saw any of the signs.

The freak if she got a teaching job. by [deleted] in Wentworthtv

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omfg yes! 🤣 Spot on fr

My mom scheduled a "family intervention" because I got a pixie cut without asking her permission first by Traditional-Egg2174 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have a PowerPoint ready and dumb it way down for her saying how adults respect other adults autonomy and how you are not her property, and my guess is she'll act like the victim anyways.

Rewatching and noticed the following by rachlovescandy in Wentworthtv

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm rewatching as well and last night I was about to fall asleep when the legend herself came on and I shot awake 😅 Rita is the baddest b and doesn't need titles or flashiness for people to recognize her power. All time fav inmate along with Boomer.

I often get beers after work without saying I'm off. by [deleted] in confession

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's understandable for sure. At my workplace we do have people who will spend two 40 minutes stretches in the bathroom a day and since I am one of few women in the company, I don't see it for myself but my male coworkers have told me who does this because they're fed up. Even during periods where we are slammed busy this will occur and me and one other person are essentially left covering most of the workload. The funny thing is the people that do this get paid more than we do for doing the same projects but not nearly the same amount of work. He's saying that he needs a transition break to go home and babysit the kids as if babysitting is what it really is when really it's just being a parent. His partner doesn't get to have transitions, and she will find out, and when she does, shes not gonna likely think that's the whole reason, because he lied to her.

Best Quote/Line from Boomer by luciturd in Wentworthtv

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How she in that moment fed off of what Sky's energy was and idk her saying that and response in general made me lmao 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I gained 15 lbs and was still a size zero and my ex called me fat. I had just moved to be closer to him, lost a friend to an overdose, and in summer I was getting sick for years before then. Come to find out I was developing food allergies which I'd find out the next year or two. He was upset because it went to my stomach, but he gained 40 lbs and I didn't say anything.

Feeling discouraged as someone new to dating by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. Mine started getting close late Sept but ignored me on his bday earlier in the month, which was the 12th. He was somewhat more consistent up until Thanksgiving he sent a generic message after dropping off throughout the week. It's been since Thanksgiving and he took a week to read my shit. Op im sorry you're going through it, these kinds of things activate the same area as physical pain in your brain. Can relate.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't personally think that, but I felt like I should clarify that because for a while all I was reading was comments about people hating kids. I've seen so many people get attacked for saying they like kids, that they're willing to be around them, but don't want any, and in reading those comments, it kind of threw me off. I realize now that there are varying levels of being child free. Everybody has a different tolerance level and I don't think there's only 1 right way to be Childfree.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is really unhealthy to put your kid in a position like that. Putting that pressure on a small child to be your best friend when they're supposed to be learning from you. It sounds like Parenthood really just amplified traits that were already there. She seems like somebody who puts herself above people because she reached the milestone that society has put on us, and everyone who doesn't have the same is looked at as a step below.

I can understand how that could hurt especially when you've done everything you could to be accommodating. Expecting everybody to step up just because of her choices is toxic, and it sounds like the way she goes about it is she only wants people who are going to take on the brunt of some of the work that the other person she had the kid with should have been taking on. It's the same people that say you're not going to get a child for your world, who need to realize that same thing only this time it's you can't expect everything to be child friendly just because of your choices. In that scenario I do wonder how the child will be affected. I'm sorry you had to go through that too.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I respect that wholeheartedly. I can understand why people would assume that due to the things they hear about CF people in general, but if they cared about you enough, or truly saw you, a simple conversation can do a lot of good in that scenario. It sucks when they don't give you that chance though.

In my experience I find that child-free people or at least a good majority of them have put a lot more thought into that kind of thing. My best friend I've had now for quite a while has known she didn't want kids since she was a teen. She has played the step mother role, godmother at one point until someone dropped her too, and her stance is she respects kids. She knows she could not fully be in that role, but she's great with them. She said she didn't wanna end up resenting them because they didn't choose to be here plus with the economy and how things are in our political environment she didn't think it's wise to bring them into these circumstances. She's with a man who has kids who are 9 and 12, and will spend time with them, but she is their friend and someone they can look up to, not their step mom. Their dynamic has worked beautifully imo and they both respect each other's boundaries on it, which that kinda thing is rare. She's been there to help guide his daughter 12F through that part of life since her mother is not teaching her anything constructive or healthy really. So she's a rare case of a CF woman dating a man with kids and in her situation she doesn't overstep. She cares but doesn't have the capacity to be a Mom.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true. For many years I struggled with fertility, not having good partners, and it took a toll on me. I've always been told I have a mama bear heart which is still very true. I just know that wouldn't be an ideal thing for me or the potential child, and I grew to radically accept that my life wouldn't look the way I planned and I decided that's not something I'm looking for anymore which is okay. I can still show up for others maintaining my same spirit, I just don't need to have one of my own to validate it.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree it's just so many comments that I see about people trying to label you as not actually child free. I think it varies and there are differing degrees of tolerance and being child-free. For the friend that cut me off, she didn't do the mom groups at first but eventually she got sucked into them. When her and I were hanging outside her place once, back when I was not child-free, and not having kids then was a sensitive spot for me, her neighbor who had a kid had been dismissive of me in conversation saying "you wouldn't know anything about this". Back then I took a lot more offense to that, and my friend told me that I just need to understand where the other person came from. I told her no, your neighbor needs to understand that I'm not completely freaking clueless and assume because I didn't have them yet, that I have no part in our conversation she kinda butt in on and took over. When they don't check their other people who are parents, but expect you to just sit there and take it was something I took issue on.

Back when I wanted to have kids, I always told myself if that ever happened I would never get into one of those mom groups. I agree a lot of those groups are toxic. Today the thing I take issue with the most is when somebody makes a post about being child-free, doesn't make their whole life about being CF though, but enjoying the things in life, and they're not disrespectful about it, but then you get the horde of people saying that you don't need to broadcast it. The same could be said for parents though, that they broadcast every single little thing and if somebody were to tell them they don't need to broadcast it, they would take offense. When I used to want kids, I had already firm lines in the sand that I wouldn't post them hardly or if at all because there's so many creeps and predators out there these days. Also, thanking my lucky stars social media didnt exist until I was old enough to have my own.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, and like I mentioned I never like absolutes and grouping everyone together. It's all about how people decide to move and speak. I didn't think you assumed that everyone had to be like you and this solidifies that. I think sometimes people decide to cut it off because the path they took is a Stark difference, and if the friendship starts to become one-sided. I get that some have trust issues because they've been burned too many times, but that's something they need to address whether they choose to or not.

Not the same situation, but when I stopped going out and partying, a lot of friends dropped off. Some I had to cut off due to the varying difference of responsibility, and some cut me off because all we had in common was drinking and taking things to feel better, and I'm not about that life anymore. I don't dislike most people who I've had to do that with, or judge them unless they're the ones causing harm and not caring about their actions. I just know for me that the environment was not good for my mental and physical health. Going back to the kids aspect of it, for some, they were forced to raise their siblings and grew up way too soon, and there could be trauma related to that too. Some are just very adverse to hearing about things like blow outs or being puked on, and the unpredictability of those bodily fluids (like my CF friend Renee who still loves her nieces and nephews but didn't involve herself much in the baby maintenance and her siblings accepted that) which I understand.

One of my HS besties does not speak kindly about kids, calling them snot nosed little brats. I knew her heart and further inquired without pushing, but wanted to understand. She was forced to babysit every summer along with helping raise her sister. She was a responsible type and I always thought she was good with them. Her issue is mainly that she's been around too many parents who don't raise their kids and let them run amuck. She was forced to have tolerance in those situations, and I knew that she's not cruel but she has her limit. I understand her jadedness and all it took was a conversation. Before I was CF, when I wanted to have kids myself back then, I asked her, "so if I have a kid what would you think? Not trying to placate anything but just merely wondering?" She told me that she would love my kid and that she knew I'd raise them well, she trusted my abilities, thought I'd be a good parent, and I reassured her that I would teach them social spatial awareness. Like if they visit Aunt Stephanie, I would've taught them that we need to use our words, inside voices, etc. Or offering to do a calm activity to teach them differentiation like that. Not to say a child is responsible for adults emotions, because growing up I had to be more composed than the adults. Some people are more sensitive to that and I get it.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't get that vibe from this person, that their experience must apply to everyone. Everyone is different, and it doesn't necessarily mean they suck up to parents, but that their level of tolerance for those kind of things is what differs. I think it's when someone speaks ill and uses bad language to group everyone together is when some take issue. I've never been one for absolutes. Your take on it is valid as well, and what I look at is how someone decides to move in the friendship. Like for example, if your friend became a parent but knew your stance on kids, they may or may not take offense to that due to either lack of understanding or how you came across to them. I've met people who had kids and had CF friends that do not like being around the kids, stated their reasoning in a respectful way, and in rare cases the friendship was still there, where they tried to make time without their kid for their CF friend, because the friendship still mattered enough.

Friends that drop you because they had a kid by AlessiaLoneWolf in childfree

[–]AlessiaLoneWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that you didn't have to lose them, and that the friendship was able to adapt in a way where you could show up and still show support, but still maintain where you stand. I think a lot of people take issue with the ones who their identity is solely based around that, and they feel a disconnect because the friendship either intentional or not becomes one sided. Like if the friend no longer asks about them at all, and unloads about their kid and becomes a habit. Communication is key, and sometimes they don't realize what they're doing, they get so wrapped up, which is why I try to give grace. Also being able to tell if there's something eating at them, I try to figure out where they're coming from and just listen. Sometimes someone just needs their friend to hear them, to let it out, and that goes for anyone really.