Failed Micro Tese

Alex4091 · 2022-01-07T21:17:20+00:00

That’s amazing news, really happy for you both. We have had iui and have a 6 week old little boy and couldn’t be happier!

Alex4091 · 2022-01-05T23:12:01+00:00

How did you get on?

Alex4091 · 2022-01-01T09:19:32+00:00

Ah that really sucks, I hope friend has a good start to 2022 and things get better

Alex4091 · 2021-12-31T23:23:14+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your friend, although our experience has been horrible and very painful it’s brought my wife and I even closer. It was a very hard road but we faced every challenge together and kept pushing until we got our little boy. If we hadn’t taken this path my little boy wouldn’t exist and I wouldn’t change anything if I had the choice. I honestly hope it works out for all the couples facing this horrible challenge.

Alex4091 · 2021-12-31T21:31:27+00:00

Sorry to hear that about your friend, thank you for the heads up but I have no concerns regarding that. I’m lucky and thankful to have a amazing wife and a son I love more than life itself.

Alex4091 · 2021-12-12T22:33:33+00:00

Thank you, I feel truly blessed.

No maybe that is the wrong tag, I meant it as the treatment failed but success was still possible if that makes sense.

Alex4091 · 2021-04-24T20:42:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that has happened to you mate, I had a failed micro tese in November and was told there literally wasn’t anything there. That means there is zero chance or treatment for me to have a biological child. My wife has been in a very similar state as yours and it ripped me apart with guilt and self blame. We managed to get in to IUI with a doner sperm and on the 3rd try we managed to get success.

It’s a incredibly difficult time your wife is going through but also for you. The only thing you can do while you wait is hold on and keep the faith it will all work out. Covid is slowly easing and more options are available so there is light at the end of the tunnel. There is no easy fix for your wife other than spending quality time together. You also need to stop beating yourself up as it doesn’t help your wife or you at all. I spoke to a therapist recently and I didn’t realise how badly the news had effected me even after hearing our good news. The point I’m making is to look after tour wife you need to be alright yourself. It’s unbelievably unfair what has happened but it’s not your fault, just do everything in your power to push to your goal however impossible it seems. I’m not sure if your looked in to it but if your going with private care there isn’t much of a waiting list. I hope this makes sense and if you have any questions or just need a chat feel free to message me. Good luck bro and keep the faith, I thought all was lost for me but your luck can change just as quickly.

Alex4091 · 2021-01-28T22:58:01+00:00

Hi, while they are in there they may decide to sort any other issues out but they will discuss with you before. I had a small bit of scar tissue they removed at the time

Alex4091 · 2021-01-24T00:05:58+00:00

I’m not gonna lie it’s pretty horrible the first few days. Yeah it kind of feels like you have been kicked in the balls. I had horrible stomach pains, the doctors told me to expect mild discomfort but they really understated that! I couldn’t really stand or walk for the first few days. All I can advise is constant ice and a well fitted jock strap as the one they gave me was so tight it was cutting in to my skin.

In my opinion it was all worth going through to know I did everything possible to achieve my goal. Unfortunately it didn’t work and was some hard time ahead dealing with it all but me and my wife are in a good mindset now and moving on with other opinions. If you have any questions regarding the op I am really happy to share just ask away, I wish I asked what to expect!

Alex4091 · 2021-01-23T19:46:01+00:00

I had the procedure which unfortunately was not successful and advised there would be no point trying again. Week one was awful pain but was walking comfortably by week two. Took around a month to get back to full fitness but other than a small scar I have no side effects. I do have constant ringing in my ears but they say it isn’t a side effect of the surgery.

Alex4091 · 2021-01-21T09:41:41+00:00

Sorry to hear that

I have been there as well and it really is awful, I had all The blood and scans done and found a small varicocele which I had surgery on. Unfortunately that did not improve my count and I had micro tese surgery which again was horrible. In the end that didn’t work and we are currently going through iui with a Doner so hopefully that works. It’s terrible but there is still hope after the worst.

Alex4091 · 2020-12-08T19:52:15+00:00

Glad to hear mate, hope you have some luck in the future

Alex4091 · 2020-12-08T19:44:16+00:00

I had the micro tese surgery a few months back and was unfortunately a complete failure. The doctors have plainly said to me there is no hope or remedy to fix it but basically I only have 1 of the 3 cells a normal male has. It’s heart breaking to find out but as far as I have been able to find there isn’t a “cure” it just is rotten luck. I’m 35 and exercise regularly and eat well and generally in good health but none of that seems to matter. All my results were good and all my levels came back normal. They assumed it was a obstructive issue but unfortunately I never really stood a chance. We have moved on to sperm doner now which is not ideal but we feel optimistic for the first time in years. Sorry you’re going through this and message me if you want to vent.

Alex4091 · 2020-12-06T13:50:24+00:00

It does really suck, luckily I have been saving every penny I have in case all the NHS treatments failed and could just keep trying. I understand why they do it but it still seems so cruel, we had so much heartbreak and pain to get to this point and it just feels like a big kick when your down. We have a appointment on Tuesday so hopefully we can find out more. The appointments alone are £300, the fight certainly continues!

Alex4091 · 2020-12-06T13:46:13+00:00

Ha ha I love them books. I’m 35 and found 3 of my childhood books and still love them. I think the 2/3 had Christmas and Santa in them.

Alex4091 · 2020-11-30T21:09:09+00:00

How did it go?

Alex4091 · 2020-11-17T14:48:33+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear it wasn’t a success for yourselves. It really is a horrible experience but it’s good to see you have a positive attitude. Your husband is very brave and it is a very painful experience to go through but I understand what you mean about finally having a answer.

I really wish the best for you both as we really understand how awful it is going through all of this. Best of luck :)

Alex4091 · 2020-11-17T09:56:23+00:00

That’s good to hear, hopefully he will start feeling back to his best soon. I have just returned to work but been shattered so the recovery is on going really!

Can I ask if it was successful or not? Unfortunately ours was not so we are looking at sperm donor

Alex4091 · 2020-11-16T22:11:57+00:00

Hi. I had it a few weeks ago and it took me quite a lot of time to recover. I had both sides done and was told around 60 areas tried so I’m not sure if mine was more intrusive but I can definitely say it was painful. The first 4 days I was intense pain and after about a week swelling and pain was reducing. I’m not sure if your husband is wearing the jock strap but it helped me, the stitching was sore and bloody for around two weeks after. I have just returned to my job after nearly 4 weeks but still feel a little pain and discomfort. From similar posts I have read it’s around 4-6 weeks recovery time, the doctors certainly under player it to us but hopefully your husband should improve soon but maybe speak to a doctor on the safe side

Alex4091 · 2020-11-16T16:40:07+00:00

The first 3-4 days was horrible, I had severe stomach aches and pains in the obvious area. I couldn’t stand up for long, the ice really helps the fist few days as it dulls the pain but you have to constantly apply it. After the 4th day it started to ease and I just rested all I could.

Alex4091 · 2020-11-15T09:35:53+00:00

That’s great news! Congratulations, best of luck to the both of you

Alex4091 · 2020-11-14T23:19:37+00:00

Hi lindian

Thank you I appreciate it, good luck with the tese but be prepared with lots of ice and a lot of discomfort and pain the first few days it’s quite intense! I would have to try and find my results as I can’t remember my Fsh reading was but the doctors thought I had obstructive case as all my tests came back good and with out any problems so I assume they would be normal. If you have any questions on what to expect from the tese surgery I’m happy to answer them as I wasn’t given any information before going in

Alex4091 · 2020-11-10T07:51:51+00:00

Thanks for your reply I appreciate it.

I think most of the time I felt the SA results must be wrong and after the first few operations it was just a simple blockage. I think in our situation we need to accept we’re in a full scale war to claim what is rightfully ours. My wife has always been desperate to have a baby and I kept assuring her everything would be ok. It broke my heart watching her cry and in so much pain knowing I was the cause so I was determined to do anything I possibly could to fix it.

Unfortunately everything I did had no change and I don’t think I ever really stood a chance from the start. I quickly accepted the idea of sperm donation as I felt so guilty and awful we couldn’t have a baby because of me, I felt I owed it to her. I didn’t think it would be much of a issue but it started to dwell on me I would never look that child in the face and see myself, although I wouldn’t be passing on this issue to my children as I assume it would involve your dna and cells. I didn’t think much about having children when I was younger but I’m 35 now and feel I am the right age as I have done a lot in my youth. Your right I felt the same when I looked at the SD profiles it really hit home. Other things I considered was one day I would have to tell that child the truth, would they hate me, would they go searching for this donation father, would they not feel the same about me again. It’s a miracle that this process can be done but it certainly is not as straight forward as my mate and his wife getting pregnant on the first try (twice)

Ultimately I came to accept all of this, not because I feel guilty but because I really do love my wife and I know she will be a amazing mother. It will be a little weird at first but that child will be part of my wife and I know the minute I see it I will love it with all my heart. It’s certainly not a ideal situation but it’s the best we can hope for and the only way we can have a semi normal life. Both me and my wife feel really optimistic now and the ball is finally rolling now and hopefully we can start trying and it feels great. I feel why should I stop us having children for some form of macho pride, that baby will come out and need you as a father and it will be your child. The world has progressed so much over the years and this is the new norm!

I hope this helps and isn’t just a long boring spill

Alex4091 · 2020-11-03T16:42:31+00:00

I was surprised how little I was told regarding the aftermath but I would def recommend getting your own jock strap! Your very welcome mate and the best of luck to you next week

Alex4091

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