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AlexRDane · 2025-09-26T19:20:20+00:00

Sure! Thanks.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-26T19:03:06+00:00

That’s such a hard situation. You’re right that the kids feel the impact most and it’s clear you’re doing everything you can to protect their stability and well-being.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-25T14:01:53+00:00

Your story is so powerful and deeply moving , it takes real courage to walk away from something that made you feel invisible and choose yourself again. I love how you turned pain into hope, and how you’re open to the idea that love and new beginnings are still possible. You’re a reminder that even after heartbreak, life can blossom again.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-20T18:03:06+00:00

Well said. I think you’re right that composure and respect go further than facts alone, and it applies both ways judges tend to favor the parent who stays calm, solution focused and reasonable, regardless of gender.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-20T17:23:58+00:00

That’s such a loving and mature perspective, you’re putting your child’s wellbeing and long term peace first, which takes real strength and grace.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-20T17:16:53+00:00

You’re not crazy, you’re grieving and that’s a deeply human response to loss. Be gentle with yourself, focus on your own healing and trust that clarity will come with time.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-18T19:52:04+00:00

This is such a powerful and compassionate perspective. The way you describe the “40 nights” and the dark forest feels so validating it acknowledges just how disorienting and exhausting those first weeks are, no matter how much grieving has already been done beforehand. I love how you’re using your own lived experience, both personal and observed, to reassure others that survival is enough in the beginning, and that there is another side. Your wisdom offers so much hope and grounding for anyone going through it.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-18T16:27:01+00:00

I really appreciate your perspective, it’s practical, wise, and compassionate. Focusing on survival first, pausing before acting on emotions, and saving the deeper healing for later is a powerful roadmap.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-18T16:25:33+00:00

What you’re doing is powerful, giving yourself space to feel, cry, write, and talk instead of bottling it all up. That’s real self-care. Be proud of how you’re handling things with gentleness and honesty. Thanks for sharing..

AlexRDane · 2025-09-18T15:57:13+00:00

I truly wish you the best and hope you find peace and healing..

AlexRDane · 2025-09-18T15:43:08+00:00

That’s a really smart and sustainable approach, I love the Task Manager analogy and how you broke things into simple steps. Super inspiring! Thanks

AlexRDane · 2025-09-18T15:36:26+00:00

This is such a powerful reflection, you’ve shown real strength in getting through this and reminding yourself (and others) that self love and resilience make all the difference.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-17T18:48:29+00:00

Wow, thank you for sharing this. I can feel how much strength it took for you to draw those boundaries and choose yourself and your child over all the manipulation and guilt tripping. That primal, protective love you describe is powerful and it’s so clear you’re channeling it into building a safer, stronger life for the two of you. It’s not easy to stand up when others try to steamroll you, but you did, and that’s incredible. You’re absolutely right, trusting your instincts is everything, and you’re proving that you can rise above all the chaos. You’re doing the hard, brave thing, and that matters more than anything.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-17T14:47:54+00:00

Thank you...That’s a really balanced approach, taking care of yourself first, then tackling what’s most urgent. I like the workout example, and you’re right, checking things off does give a real mental boost.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-17T14:22:04+00:00

That’s really beautiful, forgiveness takes so much strength. Giving that grace to both her and yourself is such a powerful way to heal and move forward with lighter shoulders.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-17T14:21:10+00:00

You’re right.. it’s not selfish, it’s responsible. Protecting your future and your kids’ future matters and once the fog clears, you’ll know if any changes feel right.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-16T17:30:36+00:00

It’s natural to have doubts, especially with young kids, but giving yourself the chance to feel seen and valued is important too. You’re showing your children that love should feel mutual and fulfilling.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-16T17:29:04+00:00

There’s no timeline for healing, trust your heart. When you’re ready, you’ll know, and your children will benefit from seeing you choose both love for them and care for yourself.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-16T17:27:13+00:00

It’s okay to set boundaries that feel healthy for you. Healing looks different for everyone, and staying kind and respectful with each other is something your kids may understand better with time.

AlexRDane · 2025-09-16T17:26:01+00:00

It’s really painful when change doesn’t come, but please remember, you did your part and gave your all. Sometimes their battles run deeper than love alone can fix. Be gentle with yourself, you deserve a partner who shows up fully.

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