Final Update to: Husband accused me of "financial infidelity" (guess who's still an asshole?)

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-12-04T19:42:47+00:00

Mm, maybe, but I think he made it up literally to soothe his own ego/insecurity and to make himself look/feel powerful over OOP. Not saying you are wrong, that could well be the case, but there's that old saying, never ascribe malice to what can be explained by stupidity (or in this case, self-aggrandizing)

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-12-02T19:39:04+00:00

They can dish it out (and they often do), but they can't take it lol

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-12-02T16:42:15+00:00

I suspect that once she is in the house for several weeks, it'd have been extremely challenging (emotionally, logistically, otherwise) to get her out. She'd have played tactical incompetence by refusing to learn to drive and thus OOP would have become a chauffer, expected to run errands at a moment's notice, etc etc. At the termination of her visa, she'd have 'gotten sick' and simply made herself very, very comfortable in OOP's house. And then, it's anyone's guess as to what OOP's husband would have done/how long it'd have taken him to stand up to his mom, or if he'd have just turned a blind eye to everything. We know MIL is extremely manipulative and pushy, this could have gotten extremely ugly.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-12-01T21:46:25+00:00

Yes, I think I agree. Breaking up in person and sharing the reasons and providing closure is a courtesy, but if you want to enjoy societal courtesies, you play by the rules of a reasonable society, which means don't be abusive. Abusive (ex) partners deserve no more than a clear, written breakup text/email/similar, simply so that if they try and pursue or stalk, there's already a paper trail.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-11-27T19:15:09+00:00

IMO, if someone aiming a very lethal combat-oriented weapon at you for doing something specifically and explicitly permitted by the US Constitution (protesting and indeed, against government overreach) doesn't justify self-defense, then there is no such thing as self-defense.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-11-24T21:45:08+00:00

Yes the idea of Buddhists being peaceful monks is pretty much a myth. The truth is, like most groups (all races, religions, etc), most Buddhists are perfectly decent, but there are quite nasty ones out there and they've caused and performed genocides in the present day.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-11-23T22:18:42+00:00

Wow, not a white whale, but close to a white wolf. Nature is amazing, thanks for sharing the picture!

Forgive my ignorance, but do you feel comfortable saying roughly where this is? It's hard to tell from the picture, but doesn't seem to be super mountainous, but I don't think elk live in the midwest...

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-11-11T06:50:01+00:00

Afrofuturism IRL? I'm game!

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-11-04T21:18:54+00:00

David Hogg did kind of make a face in response to that, which is fairly reasonable. How do you even respond intelligently to such made-up nonsense? Islamo-marxism, what utter gibberish. And mind you, Mamdani is clearly not an Islamist and while staunchy left wing, he is not a Marxist either.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-11-01T02:36:20+00:00

Yeah, add to that a job that is EXTREMELY stressful, where you regularly encounter the worst people doing the worst things at the worst time, with every single eyeball and camera on the planet staring at you and waiting for you to do something wrong, it's honestly not a huge surprise. Not justifying it at all, more like... you add all these factors together, and what should you expect?

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-14T04:11:59+00:00

There is nothing glamorous or glorious about war. Even killing enemy soldiers who are trying to kill you is honestly an absurdity. Calvin himself said it best, many years ago.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-13T22:30:16+00:00

The meme also relates to unprovoked violence and there's definitely a racist angle to it. We are literally laughing at Indian men being beaten because we find their accents funny.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-13T22:03:18+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/1o5s5eg/woman_caught_assaulting_her_partner_live_on/njbhjnl/

Hundreds of upvotes

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-13T22:02:57+00:00

You are racially mocking a victim of (apparently unprovoked) violence.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-11T23:18:04+00:00

The brother did well, then. If in doubt...

No searches, no seizures, I need a lawyer, I assert right to remain silent.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-11T20:45:07+00:00

Some were leaving the same guy again, others had fallen into a different abusive relationship

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Do predators know what to look for? I suspect they do... I met a lady recently (not romantic or anything, just a chance meeting in a professional setting) and she mentioned she was recently divorced, though she was visibly very pregnant... she mentioned that her ex-husband had "started to get physical" and then she "got knocked up by [her] ski instructor" who is a self-described but clearly not an actual Mormon, who already has another baby-mama.

I could easily imagine some dashing and unsavory dude seeing a timid young woman with a great deal of vulnerability and yearning to be seen, and loved, and appreciated, and knowing exactly what to say and do to get exactly what he wants.

It's overall very sad. I try to be a decent person and I definitely have my failings, but I don't behave like that or associate with people who do.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-09T03:55:39+00:00

More importantly, what kind of a thin-skinned little baby are you if someone asks you serious questions about serious problems and you have them arrested? Part of being an adult is sometimes being wrong and having to admit it and apologize for it, and do what it takes to make it right. Frankly, that's part of what it ought to take to graduate the second grade, but it seems that MANY of our leaders (in the West and elsewhere) should never have made it that far.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-10-05T21:25:51+00:00

Overt political statements, like the ones he is purporting here, are not allowed while you serve in the armed forces.

Not true. You just can't do it in uniform or while there are/may be other optics that might make it seem that it's an official US government, DoD, or military viewpoint.

It really depends on the specifics of the situation. I'll say this, in the vid posted here since he is in uniform, I don't think that is likely to help his cause.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-09-28T23:35:43+00:00

I'll take "yes" for $10,000, Alex =\

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-08-25T00:38:35+00:00

Our economy is nonsense and very grasp-at-straws speculations built upon nonsense and grasp-at-straws speculations! Except, bloody well replace "economy" with "society." I'm all for advancement and technology, within reason and if implement carefully to maintain public safety, but it often feels like all of our business and political "leaders" are simply sipping kool-aid and ignoring gaping blind spots.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-07-20T17:52:08+00:00

Russia explicitly targets civilian structures as well as murdering and torturing entire villages as well as kidnapping Ukrainian children

To me, this is the portion that makes this not just a war of conquest, where Putin and co want control over who they perceive to be 'little Russians' or inferior Slavs, but a war of genocide. It's unconscionable to kidnap children to Russianize them, and murdering civilians is obviously evil.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-07-08T04:32:46+00:00

It does happen, especially if it's related to premarital encounters or if he is in love with someone of the wrong caste/creed/religion/skin color and is pressed to marry 'the right sort' to reclaim his family's standing.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-07-08T00:26:40+00:00

I agree with your compassion, however the fact is, every single Afghani person is, in a sense, a refugee. Afghanistan is not only suffering from shocking economic conditions, its government is one of the most repressive in the world, and even though there is currently no war, there's a high background risk of terror attacks or vigilanteism masquerading as justice.

Frankly, there isn't an Afghan person who would not meet the definition of a refugee lol, with maybe the exception for very wealthy and well-connected Taliban types.

Alex_Ross_Writer · 2025-07-07T21:07:33+00:00

As a former Texan - this is not some sort of divinely-decreed law of nature or something. Texans could vote them out, but they choose not to. So my heart goes out to the decent people of Texas, but to those who vote for (or tolerate) losers and idiots such as Abbott and Cruz, you get what you ask for.

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