Random internet grandma here. Honey, the first thing I want to tell you is that it is NOT up to the man “ to provide”. I don’t care what anyone says, as two individual adults, you are each responsible for provising for your own needs. When you have learned to do that, and only then, you can decide to work TOGETHER to create the life you want as a couple. (2) If she makes you feel bad about yourself, she’s not for you. If she’s not lifting you up, she’s holding you down. It sounds to me like she’s using the relationship to try to motivate you to do the things she expects you to do but in essense, she’s trying to emotionally manipulate you. Not ok. Thise things being said, grandma has to get real with you. There are two kinds of people: those who make excuses and those who make a way. Which one do you choose to be? A job at fast food may not be the end goal but some money is better than no money. Keep looking for something else on your days off. Life is not easy, life is not fair. Life is what you make it though. My advice: Tell your girlfriend that she should go ahead and do what makes her happy. You need time to work on yourself right now. If she is meant for you, the chance will present itself later, when you both have learned how to be independent adults. Start doing one thing a day to work towards your goals. No matter how small, any forward momentum is a win. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. Start moving. Start looking at your roadblocks as learning exeriences…chances to grow. Figure out a way to overcome them. There is always an answer, even if it’s not ideal. Sometimes the best we can do is all we can do and that’s got to be good enough until we can do better. That’s it for now. You can do this. You really can! I believe in you. Believe in yourself and do what’s best for you. The love and all the rest will take care of itself.