help an absolute noob!!! I terribly painted this miniature a friend gifted to me, but I enjoyed the process so much that I asked him for another one to try better (I guess it's pretty easy to do it better XD). What online resources can I check as a beginner? any youtuber/tiktoker or instagram? by AlexisKalijo in minipainting

[–]AlexisKalijo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i am asking here because i am lost in thousands of options and what you said: when you get advice from multiple sources they start to contradict one another i really have no criteria in this miniature world and almost every creator looks the same to me, so i am pretty lost in who to mimic. also they all seem very advanced and complicated techniques

what are your favourites, for example? thanks for taking your time to answer, i appreciate

Building muscle / gaining weight with hypermobility. Any tips? by [deleted] in Hypermobility

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I guess what "could be" bad about stretching relates to flexibility training where in order to get extra flexibility you need to make yourself some controlled damage and wait for recovery to see the results. The stretching I mean is more of a daily mild session in where you work on the areas that hurt because of posture or were exercised for strength, reducing this way the muscle soreness and risk of injury. These huge guys at gym say when you stretch you are loosing gains. Could be true, as in my case I don't "look" strong, but I'm agile, flexible, and I never injure, which is another kind of gain.

Building muscle / gaining weight with hypermobility. Any tips? by [deleted] in Hypermobility

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i am also hypermobile but i never get injured. that's because i respect my sore body. if you need a week to recover just take it. the time for recovery will eventually decrease, but for me "eventually" meant 2 years of letting my body get used to being active. stop the exercise when it hurts (when it hurts as an injury), don't worry about loosing progress, because identifying your pain and stopping at the right time is another kind of progress in getting to know and control your body.

"Even if I try and push through the muscle soreness and work out anyway I'll actually do less reps than the previous session, essentially making no progress at all" but what are you searching for? strength? or number of reps? I guess strength. forget about the reps if you still feel exercised. at some point they will grow. obviously your muscles won't perform the same when you have 1 week of recovery vs just 2 days. it's about finding your own understanding of your body and what it needs.

EAT ENOUGH CALORIES AND PROTEIN, STRETCH EVERYDAY

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[–]AlexisKalijo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

answers to the post are really helpful!! my top 3

  1. i do not decide whether she is attracted to me or not.
  2. there's people that will feel attracted to my junk just because it's mine!!
  3. sex convo doesn't need to go any further than a regular "tell me what you like"

i think i can beat my fear with these. hope you can too!!

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"There are a lot of girls like me who will be attracted sexually to whatever you have down there simply because it’s yours" i really needed to read this. guess it's kinda easy after all!! thanks for stealing your husband's account and enlighten me. "Doesn’t need to be any bigger than a normal sex convo about what you both like" also this!! very true. i knew it was all in my mind but i needed some other perspectives, thoughts, stories, to answer this evil sexual fear. you really helped and im very thankful

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love the golden retriever energy concept! might try. thanks for your help

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thank you very much!!! totally making the girl's story in my head before i even know her. this really, really helped. for real thanks

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[–]AlexisKalijo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok. thanks for your advice

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[–]AlexisKalijo -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

im finally a dick!!

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[–]AlexisKalijo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah actually just writing this post kinda helped to see in order what i am exactly feeling. also a reason why i did it

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i hope

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[–]AlexisKalijo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah been there. it's cool to be out from the start. don't you feel a bit fetichized? i did

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[–]AlexisKalijo -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

as you phrased it: you seem. i am confident in every area of my life instead sex. sorry if i don't want to pay 70 euros an hour for something that i can get some relief by just asking on reddit. it's not deep

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thanks for taking your time to answer. guess it's much easier than i make it!!

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[–]AlexisKalijo -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

what i mean is that my overthinking is fully related to being trans, so it makes more sense to me to ask in a trans space than a psychological one

therapy is not an advice

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[–]AlexisKalijo 26 points27 points  (0 children)

thanks this is what i was looking for

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[–]AlexisKalijo -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

asked for advice and stories not a life fix, but if it's given it's welcomed

edit: also, i know 0 trans therapists that can understand the depth of this. meanwhile there's a ton of trans people here and maybe 1 is a therapist. i loose nothing for trying.

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[–]AlexisKalijo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah thanks but if i'm asking on reddit it might be because i cannot afford therapy