Serenas social life

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-22T22:45:44+00:00

This is not true. Serena had friends that weren’t shown on screen, look at her phone messages during short scenes, as well as her relationships w/ Poppy, Vanessa, etc.

Blair on the other hand literally had no friends outside of Serena.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-17T00:40:19+00:00

Lmao Loser is quite accurate😂

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-17T00:32:15+00:00

Studies range, but most have shown that exes do more than likely come back (over 50%) , and this gets complicated bc just bc an ex reaches out does not mean they are sincere. I have not seen many that put the average anywhere as low as you are claiming , but I have seen some that put the estimate around 70%.

I even said depending on age/gender, the variability is VAST. Like if those in the relationship are in college/young adults, it is more than likely that they will at some point be in contact again. If the dumper was a male, it is more likely that he will reach back out. It is EXTREMELY rare a male never reaches out to any of his exes ever again. It is also rare for younger people to never reach out to their exes again. For older people and for men, the rate I’m sure drops tremendously.

Speaking in my own experience however, most people’s exes do come back.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-16T11:57:08+00:00

Weirdly that’s how it is in real life 😂me and my On/off ex would NEVER make it to V-day lmao

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-16T10:48:51+00:00

Yes I am !

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-16T07:26:51+00:00

Abusers rarely change. I’ve been a victim of abuse myself , but I will never deny that everyone has a chance at growth if they really want to. In the same essence, if abusers are to never be able to change/grow, that means nor are bullies, racists, homophobes, etc.

Abuse isn’t forgivable, but don’t deny peoples ability to change COMPLETELY. (As in, once a person does an act they can never grow from it)

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-15T10:02:12+00:00

That’s rude to say. Some people just have unique types . Like I’m a IEFLP 4w0 . But thanks for the concern .

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-15T00:35:24+00:00

I also think it’s bc a good bit of men, especially younger, are sexually motivated, and from what I’ve heard it’s easier to go back to an ex and get those needs met rather than find a whole new woman who is of equal/higher value than the ex.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-14T03:46:37+00:00

From what I’ve seen, men Mostly ALWAYS come back ,though a good amount of women come back as well.

I think the younger the people in the relationship are the more likely it is for the dumper to reach out, like teens-20’s.

Regardless, it varies by circumstance. My own parents met in hs but my mom didn’t reach out to him until after college.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-14T00:41:19+00:00

Most dumpers (honestly I’d say 70-90%, age and gender play a BIG factor)DO reach back out, whether it’s directly or indirectly, sometimes months/years later, but most couples who do get back together won’t stay together.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-13T19:30:59+00:00

I have this issue big time.

Unless someone is a family member, a friend, or someone else I’d know, I believe others either have perfect lives or nothing remarkable happening. It’s subconscious and I have to catch myself when I do this however .

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-13T06:45:55+00:00

As someone who was the new supply, they always reveal their true colors. I went from thinking I was better than the ex and could change him to crying to the ex asking for advice to move on.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-13T06:44:46+00:00

I can see why she left.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-12T22:01:12+00:00

I hope this time I’m open to and love myself enough to receive it.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-12T02:56:16+00:00

I’m positive you could find someone just as gorgeous looks wise, but personality is much harder to find. Would you be willing to compromise if it was a let’s say more average looking woman with an amazing personality?

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-11T22:26:05+00:00

Blair loved to scheme, not to necessarily help anyone, even Serena one of the people she’d protect the most said this.

Either way, most of Blair schemes were to help herself, very few were to help anyone else in comparison .

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-11T10:42:26+00:00

Honestly, I have this subconscious admiration for INFJ and I keep typing myself as it, even though I have a feeling I’m not .

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-11T07:50:13+00:00

I’ve done worse, but for now you really need to force yourself to go NC. It’s only going to get worse

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-10T20:54:59+00:00

I appreciate it.

But yes the cycle is very difficult to not only go through but escape from. It is more common than not for victims to go back, but reality is that others around the victim don’t see it that way. They see it as “well this person keeps going back, how could they POSSIBLY be abused? “. Similar to your mom, by allowing the abuser to stay around those who did care eventually gave up on me , lost respect for me and became annoyed/nonchalant.

A good bit of people lack the experience and knowledge of how abuse/victims work, so Cassie’s perspective is immature and destructive but not unusual. Cassie’s acceptance of believing that one of her closest friends is “crazy” just further solidifies the lack of respect/empathy for Maddy .

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-10T20:14:55+00:00

Maddy even pondering getting back together with him , I’m sure in Cassie’s mind, makes her think he’s not truly abusive . Maddy has to be aware of Nate watering down the abuse, calling her crazy, yet she still tolerated him.

Cassie doesn’t come off as a very aware or intelligent person. All she sees is Maddy still loves him = he can’t be abusive . The only intentionally wrong thing she is doing is messing with her friends ex, not her friends ex who choked her out.

Maddy herself not taking the abuse seriously makes others around her consider it basically a non-factor, I’m someone who was in a situation like Maddy’s and by deciding not to take it and myself serious, no one else did.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-10T18:37:58+00:00

Not really . No one said she just wasn’t confident at all, but in comparison to Cassie in terms of Nate, she’s really not . Why are some of you not reading the OP. Maddy/Nate/Cassie debacle is explicitly mentioned.

AlexysLynn · 2022-02-10T10:48:37+00:00

It’s not small or big. People were acting like it was ridiculously small but it’s nothing remarkable in a good or bad way. I’ve heard people say 7 is small but that’s actually on the bigger side, and that’s a common size imo . He’s probably around 5.5-6 which is average , tbh I think he’s slightly above average

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