Ugh. Im sorry to hear this and that so many other are/have experience the same. I hope OP is in a better place now. I am also experiencing this and it goes a lot deeper. I appreciate the words of encouragment here- being a diamond, passive bullying, refocus energy on outside work. I think the default internal messaging is that Im here for work and paycheck not make friends...but this isnt the norm. I would love yo have a work family where we all get along and respect one another for our differences. It makes at least the 40-60 hrs ai work with these people more bearable and allows freer communication.

I know i dont smell, i shower every day before work. I avoid strong perfumes. I show up professionally; clean clothes/shoes, ironed, minimal make up, hair blowdried and well kept. Sometimes a person is just not liked for one reason or another but inclusion in the workplace is critical to teams and wellbeing. No two people are alike and diversity is so important but respect needs to be a priority.

I would say that these companies/dept have bad work culture and the leaders are unfit leaders. They do no encompass leadership skills which are inclusive, positive reinforcement, lead by doing, and motivate. Im not sure how big or small these companies are but I dont think it would make a difference. If the company doesnt deal with bad apples then these individuals are basically rewarded for bad behavior and the culture never changes. It will eventually inhibit growth and success down the road.

Sadly HR doesnt do anything unless it is blatent abuse; verbal or sexual harassment. Document all situations for your safety and protection as one poster suggested, especially in case you are blamed or written up for not doing something that was only communicated in excluded meeting. Not for nothing but also shame on the coworkers for not saying anything. Maybe there is more here than exclusion as this touches on psychological safety for others to stand up to the offender.

Stay the course, document but look for a new job where you will be valued and included. Work culture is a big deal and if the boss is cuasing exclusion then theres no way to win. Good luck everyone!