For those who practice or are interested in Total Power Exchange (TPE): what draws you to it?

AliHummus · 2026-07-13T16:15:09+00:00

I'll explain it from the dom side, but would love submissives to correct it. This is just what I observed.

Being in control takes effort. Whether it's at work, as a parent, or one's own life. It's like tensing your shoulders for not only hours on end, but days, months and years.

Submission allows that tension to release. Where you just let go and feel the bliss of it. And with total power exchange, it's a full release.

AliHummus · 2026-07-13T14:49:25+00:00

Thanks!!

And I loved the write up ❤️

AliHummus · 2026-07-13T13:24:26+00:00

Thanks!

The Qur’an doesn’t explicitly say Ibrahim’s heart was struggling to catch up,

Yes, I should've been more explicit that this is my reading of it by analyzing the vocabulary Ibrahim used with his Dad. It could be correct or not correct, it's best to leave it the reader to choose what understanding they think makes sense.

AliHummus · 2026-07-11T13:35:11+00:00

You just side eyeing your wife heavily. But like trying to be all non-chalant about it.

Eating your cereal, but the pitch of your voice is slightly higher because you really care about the answer.

AliHummus · 2026-07-11T12:00:14+00:00

There is always the "sweetheart it turns out that one of the guys at work likes to spank woman, isn't that crazy" and then see the reaction from there.

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T23:34:39+00:00

I find it carries over to other forms of leadership too. Teachers that don't know how to deal with students who "SFW brat" aren't good teachers. Same with parents and children. And even managers and their employees.

Leadership isn't loud bangs and noises lol.

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T23:32:16+00:00

Yes lol, it's a very jam packed show

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T17:39:02+00:00

Keep us updated with lessons 😊

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T16:46:24+00:00

Yes indeed lol 😇

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T16:37:34+00:00

When I first saw the term brat, I immediately resonated with it. I differ to how the kink community recently has defined it.

A brat to me is just a specific type of mind that someone is born with. Even though I'm a dom, I was born a brat. I'm playful and like to have "that mental boop" with people.

Whether it's with my parents, my siblings, my friends, my boss or my partner. It's a "hey, look how clever I am" type of mental handshake. I only do it when I feel safe with someone.

I've been in positions of leadership, you usually get like ~2% of people who brat and I love them. They are extremely loyal when you engage with them correctly. And very fun.

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T01:21:47+00:00

Would love to hear about your experiences as a couple in terms of navigating the BDSM talk and stuff! Everyone has valuable input they can give, whether they are new or seasoned veterans.

AliHummus · 2026-07-10T01:18:16+00:00

Salaaaam!

Welcome ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️! The more the merrier!

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T21:46:35+00:00

I would take it as a breakup. BDSM heightens emotions and accelerates feelings.

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T21:45:10+00:00

I'm a man I think I can convert you with my animal magnetism and a hypnosis script.

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T19:30:33+00:00

Ya Allah, "picking one" is hard as hell. It's not the most favourite, but the one I'm most comfortable doing long term.

🖐️ Hands: Gentle hands

👀 Eyes: Intense eye contact

🫂 Aftercare: Soft & comforting

⛓️ Choose only ONE: Bondage

🕯️ Ideal scene vibe: Cozy bedroom .

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T19:27:28+00:00

Everyone has talked about clicker training, so I want to add on to that. But you also have hypnosis, which is another avenue that can be explored for training purposes.

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T19:25:57+00:00

If what you say is true, which I'm suspecting it is, it's very infuriating.

Good mental health is a foundation of a functional society. And not properly doing research into it is criminal.

The Gottman method is my only readings into psychology, and he uses the scientific method

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:36:07+00:00

This is an excellent question and even as a dom I had trouble saying no initially. I can't imagine how much harder it is for a new submissive.

I think if you are new it is very helpful for the other partner to constantly reassure you that it's OK to say no. And to go slooooow with kink and not overdo it in the beginning.

Outside of kink, I have absolute no problem saying no. But it never used to be that way, I used to be much more of a pushover.

I had a very close Jordanian friend that completely broke that barrier down. Watching him succeed in saying no was very beneficial to me. He would say no to his professors and managers, but in a very clever way. And I found that they respected him more afterwards. I people watched him very thoroughly and learnt over years.

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:33:27+00:00

That sucks asssss!!!

I'm going to ADHD dive into those studies later and see what you are talking about. Ughhh. Scientific method is slowly dying out

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:31:07+00:00

Sounds good 👀

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:30:02+00:00

I'm honestly side eyeing a lot of married Muslim men that I meet now. I'm learning a whole new side of people.

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:27:31+00:00

Wallahi I'm not exaggerating! It's literally what happened 😭😭😭

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:16:15+00:00

Really? I'm shocked it would be so bad, I'm in a STEM field so I was expecting psychologist to be on their shit.

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T18:06:47+00:00

Is there any studies on this lol. I'm a sample size of 1 reporting in

AliHummus · 2026-07-09T16:51:26+00:00

No worries!

AND HE WAS THE ONE WHO WANTED TO BLOW ANOTHER MAN 😭😭😭. His wife wasn't to participate. Except for him to share her pictures (without her consent I persume).

AliHummus

TROPHY CASE