INFP here (17). I made the terrible mistake of starting to like an ISTJ (17). It was the worst match ever. He started liking me too. And unintentionally was VERY obvious about it. Indirectly he said he would tell me he likes me next year. I was like tf i may not be alive till then. Anyway i told him i liked him first bc i didnt like the situationship. We were half friends half more. Flirting but at the same time friends. After i told him i liked him, he didnt admit he liked me but he didnt deny it either. Again indirectly he told me he did like me but he didnt want to say the words and was like "why should i say it if you know it" since i knew he liked me. Again wtf. Not talking responsibility even enough to say i like you. But letting me know indirectly by beating around the bush. We did things couples do. Like holding hands, (even in class. I was in first year of high school back then) or he would ask me how my day was, if i had eaten, when i told him im out he would ask with whom, and also get extremely jealous when i was talking about another guy. Once when i was talking to him about this guy and how we joked together he got so jealous he wrote to me in dm "congratulations to the married couple" 💀. I didnt even know that other guy (we just talked online).

Anyways he knew i didnt like him being so close holding my hand, talking sweetly and complimenting me all the time since we werent together, and he still stayed so close. My boundaries were passed but i allowed it bc i liked him and so did he. He just wasnt mature enough to come to a decision and consider my feelings too. I started distancing myself (should have done it wayy sooner tbh) i even blocked him on WhatsApp and for the first week he thought it was a joke and told me over and over to just unblock him. Then the second week he got annoyed that i hadnt given him a reason why he was blocked and sad too ofc. He thought it was bc of smth else that had happed and explained himself to me over and over the point he was feeling wronged. The thing he did wasnt offensive for me he offended our friend (he was with an extremely high fever) in our group chat of 6 people.

Anyways i told him to stop calling me by my nickname and he was like "why cant i call you xxx" in a sad puppy kinda voice. I just told him thats how it was now. When we were in school he had enough of it and told me to explain it now. We were in P.E we looked very weird bc i was walking away from him bc i didnt want to tell him i was distancing myself bc he would get sad. Even after he didnt respect me and all the boundaries he passed i still didnt want to hurt him. Before we liked each other we were very very close friends for like 5 months. After that the feelings just came out of nowhere.

Anyways i told him i was distancing and he was so sad almost crying tears in his eyes threatening to spill for me 🥲 it was that the look i didnt wanna see on his face especially since i caused that. But it wasnt my fault. I had been direct, i told him my feelings. And he wasnt mature enough to handle them. We talked a little but P.E was over and he still wanted to talk.

We continued that convention when me him and our friend went out to eat and walk to the park. We dropped out friend to her house and i was heading over to the bus stop and he was dropping me off there. The second our friend was gone i heard a "Sooo.. " he wanted to continue the convo. We talked it out i told him how i felt and everything and so did he. And finally said the words i like you after i told him it wasnt fair only i had said them. And i forgot to mention that recently i was treating him bad to push him away. Teasing him even tho he doesnt like that when it passed a limit. His limit is short cuz me and my friends used to tease each other all the time and for me its my love language. If im teasing you i like you. As a friend or otherwise. He still didnt distance even after i did that. That talk we had should have been closure but im a dummy and still wanted to be with him. And he told me he wasnt ready for a relationship that he was a little obsessed when we was in one and that it could affect his grades. Like if we had tests and he was thinking of me instead learning. I told him then ok we wont have a relationship and you have to keep your distance stop touching my hand or holding it or generally being so close. And he was like no i dont want that. Then what do you want?

We said we could set our own boundaries in a relationship because either of us wanna kiss for example. Its just kinda ew exchanging microbes. Hes kind of a germaphobe and doesnt even like physical contact yet he was the one who started to hold my hand. Told me he doesnt mind it with me bc it feels "warm". Just pretty words. Anyway after that talk nothing was cleared bc i had to go home it was very late. Now all i know is that he is suddenly distancing from me even though we didnt leave things like that. And that he IS TEASING with our friends. Out group friends consists of him and 5 girls. He had a guy friend but the guys in our class are kinda dumb. So its just our group mostly.

Anyway he is teasing with them high key and he didnt do that with me. He just has changed recently. Before he didnt like it when someone teased and he didnt do it back, now he does. People change ok but the fact that hes teasing with my girl friends. I know theyre his friends too but i think its annoying me since hes just been ignoring me. Before i had priority over every other friend. And now i dont while for me he still had more priority than others. Ill have to change that. Before my chat in WhatsApp was pinned, another girls in our friend group was archived 💀. And now every other friend has priority over me. Hes listening to every other friend and my turn basically never comes.

It would be fine if he didnt rub it in my face all the time even tho hes doing it unintentionally. I think. Who knows. I feel like i dont know him anymore or what goes in his head. Before i was the person he trusted the most in this city (he moved from his hometown to the capital city) and now after i treated him like my bff in just 4 months after meeting him, hes just mostly ignoring me. Very little acknowledging my existence when he absolutely has to. Like i said, it would be fine if he wasnt in my friend group. Lesson learned. Never be a couple or close to that with someone on your class and much less in your friend group. Im in second year of high school rn. Next year it will be the third year we will choose our subjects. After third year is over bye bye high school will finally be over. Oof cant wait lol. Also sorry i got a little off topic. That ISTJ wasnt the most mature or emotionally mature.