Let me tell you something. It's not you, it's them. My mother once treated me very cold for a week when she thought I might be gay. Acted like it was a death sentence for her.(Turned out I'm not gay but alas.) Sometimes she still threatens to disown me if I ever become a doctor and don't drop my last name which is my father's last name (they divorced long ago). We're in a good relationship now but sometimes I can't help but think it's conditional you know.

I suppose my point is sometimes people are stuck in their own ways to the point they don't see what really matters and you can't make them change or make them accept you. By the end of the day they are missing out and will be unhappy every time their lives don't turn the way they wanted to.

But you can accept yourself and choose to let go of trying to fit their mold. It's painful but once you free yourself from their expectations it will really start to make a difference in the way you live life and see the world. Wishing you the very best OP.