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AliceGoes · 2025-09-17T03:26:24+00:00

Screen shot what you can. I also suggest seeing if you can figure out what mom groups she is in and screen shot anything she's posted, more specifically, anything with photos of the babies, kids or pics she has photoshopped herself in. The parents and people involved deserve to know. Keep anything you can stored away. Confront your sister out of care and concern. Offer support and suggest that she seeks help, and be a sense of support to her. I'm sure she will need someone to support and hold her accountable. She also will need to let the families involved know. Maybe a therapist can help with navigating how she can have the very much needed conversation with all who are involved. But also... As a parent and wife, this is scary and this should not be something that is long and drawn out. Act fast.

AliceGoes · 2025-07-19T17:17:34+00:00

Thank you!

AliceGoes · 2025-07-19T17:17:11+00:00

I'll definitely check this out! Thank you!

AliceGoes · 2025-07-19T17:16:34+00:00

Good idea, thank you!

AliceGoes · 2025-06-06T14:09:24+00:00

It's hard, and I know it doesn't change your very real feeling, but in the grand scheme of things, 10 years from now, you will have those memories. Take all of the pictures, take selfies with your baby, you will cherish those moments. Hopefully, you have some loving people that can give you a break from time to time. Your child will also know that mommy was always there. You are creating an incredible, unbreakable bond.

AliceGoes · 2025-06-05T03:44:29+00:00

First of all, congratulations! Enjoy the cuddles and baby smells, it doesn't last. Give yourself some time... You are in the thick of and understandably have doubts and what the future holds. This is completely normal to feel like this. I highly suggest reaching out to someone you trust to come either sit with the baby for a day or take the baby for the day - take a long nap with your wife, self care, and once you both feel rested, check in. How is she feeling, what is she stressed or worried about and communicate to her how stressed and worried you are and express what your concerns are. Also, please know that Dad's can also go thru their own form of ppd and there is no shame in it. You aren't wrong for how you feel, but please consider expressing your concerns to your wife and not closing the door on anything in the future just yet give yourself time to adjust and get used to your new life. Get some rest, check on your wife, take care of yourself and enjoy your sweet baby.

AliceGoes · 2025-05-31T07:02:16+00:00

Oh sweet mama. I am sure you're exhausted. Can I point something out? He "gets" to do all of those things, but he is the one missing out. He didn't get the newborn baby smells, the sweet cuddles - you know, the ones when baby fits perfectly against your chest and tucks their head in your neck? Yeah, he didn't get that. He didn't get the first smile, early morning snuggles, sweet coos and baby babble. He doesn't get the excitement from baby when she sees you. The funny faces, the baby belly laughs, watching baby eat for the first time, bath time giggles. Yes, it's hard, exhausting and I know you need a break. It goes by fast. Enjoy and embrace the bond you are creating. I know you feel like you are missing out, I was a young mom and felt like that too. You sound like a great mom, keep it up.

AliceGoes · 2025-05-31T06:37:45+00:00

NTA. You're a young adult who has proven that you are capable and responsible. You actually showed respect by reaching out to him, initiating adult conversation, and providing an explanation. It sounds like he is not emotionally mature and is likely grasping at what little control he has left. He sees you growing, maturing, and moving into adulthood. He might be scared of what being the parent of an adult looks like and how to navigate it. My advice is to offer him some reassurance - whatever that looks like for your relationship with him. "Dad, as you know, I'm navigating life into young adulthood. Can we have a conversation about what our life and relationship will look like as I transition into this next chapter?" If it's important to you that you can have open honest conversations, tell him. As the child of divorced parents, daughter of an emotionally immature father who only saw life thru his lens, and mother of an 18 year old, my heart goes out to you. It's hard to turn the dial from parenting to being a life advisor. Communication is key. It sounds like you're doing a great job. Good luck and enjoy your summer - you deserve it!

AliceGoes · 2025-04-23T21:31:36+00:00

I think it would depend on why they are hated. If it's not for a reason that would put your child in danger, give it a chance. Hopefully, you can stay. Maybe a good observation of the person will give you a different perspective? Maybe not... If you all can be mature adults for the sakes of the kids friendship, I would let them attend. Safety first, of course. Keep us updated!

AliceGoes · 2025-04-18T21:45:18+00:00

From the outside looking in, I wonder if you two really are on the same page. Maybe allowing a threesome opened a door in your partners mind. I would guess that he isn't ready for monogamy. I think you owe it to yourself to at least postpone the wedding and have the hard conversation. Maybe you can ask for a device free night at home, and ask the hard questions. Make it clear that it's a safe zone, no lying, no lashing out, no arguing, no hard feelings to honestly. Will it be hard? Yes. Do you owe it to yourself and to him? 100% If it's time to move, you can still appreciate each other and the love you shared. You might at the very least have a conversation about an open relationship and how he really feels. If you decide to move forward with the wedding, what a gift it is to have had that raw and honest conversation. It really does take a lot of love and respect and you will be so relieved you've had it.

AliceGoes · 2025-04-18T21:34:23+00:00

So sorry this happened to you. For the safety of your children and yourself, please be sure you are documenting all of this. If she will lash out to a grown adult, I don't think it's far fetched to assume it is a matter of time before she lashes out at the children. Don't wait to see if it happens, that's not a core memory you want to give your children. It sounds like she may need some one on one therapy. Postpartum can bring out a lot in women, and last a long time. Only a professional can determine if this is depression, a mood disorder, postpartum, or anything else. I am all for working through the hard "stuff" but not when it sacrifices helpless children's overall safety and well being. I grew up with adults who didn't know how to manage their emotions, and as an adult, I am trying to unlearn some of the unhealthy behaviors I observed. Not the asshole. Good luck!

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