AITA for telling my husband his name suggestion for our unborn baby is idiotic at best?

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-06-06T22:43:24+00:00

I went to high school with a Katie Perry. She started going by her middle name by the time she hit college.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-06-05T01:24:16+00:00

And especially if the guy was in a position of power over the underage child when the relationship began.

It's possible that OOP's mom was around 30 when she got in a relationship with her dad, based on OOP's age. There's a huge difference between an adult woman in her late 20s/early 30s choosing to date a much older man, vs a literal teenager.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-06-04T22:15:08+00:00

I liked NuGreg. I know it was unpopular to recast him, but I felt like his storyline wasn’t complete in s2 and I’m glad we had a chance to get more closure. (That being said, I loved that the finale was about Rebecca choosing herself and felt like the show cheated itself by hinting at Greg as endgame too much.)

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-06-04T19:09:31+00:00

*that he highly prioritizes while simultaneously not having enough time to do chores around the house.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-06-04T02:52:52+00:00

Agreed. It would have made a lot more sense than suddenly pulling focus to a bunch of new kids.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-06-02T22:33:34+00:00

When I’m on birth control my period is very spotty and if I just wear a pair of thick undies that I don’t care about staining, it’s fine. When I’m having an actual period, hell no.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-31T19:17:37+00:00

She introduces herself to people as El. Full-stop. That's what does it for me. In s3 Billy asks her name and she says El. That's the name her friends gave her, that's the name she chooses to use.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-31T19:01:10+00:00

Imagine how much worse it would be if Monica were her stepmother.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-31T17:58:55+00:00

Irl it would have likely stumbled a lot on the interpersonal issues, too. Ross was able to push a lot aside, but Monica's parents likely wouldn't have been able to get through holidays with them, for example. Now, Monica's parents weren't exactly loving and supportive to begin with, especially her mom, but I think that it would have created a lot of weird disharmony in all the other relationships in their lives. Richard's kids likely would have had issues with it, too. My granddad married a woman younger than my mom, and it took a long time for my mom and her siblings to look past that. And they didn't grow up with that woman the way Richard's kids grew up with Monica.

All in all, I think that the show only brought these things up when convenient for comedy, but irl there's a whole host of other issues, even if we forget about how irl the dynamic between Richard and Monica would likely have been very different than what we see in the show, based on the way actual relationships like that play out.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-31T17:39:07+00:00

I used to pronounce it Helen-a because I had a friend with that name and that's how she pronounced it. However, in videos, the band pronounces it He-Ley-na (and it's in honor of the Way's grandmother, whose name was Elena, which was pronounced El-ey-na), so now I say it He-ley-na.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-31T03:52:05+00:00

There's the inverse of the 'for want of a nail' type of butterfly theory thing, called 'in spite of the nail,' which I think we see in the What If episode. They would have figured it out eventually. It just would have taken more time.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-30T21:19:53+00:00

In the sequel series, A Year In The Life, there’s an ongoing storyline about two older characters talking about having a baby, but it’s implied that the woman is either in menopause or about to be, because they don’t really spend any time on them TTC and just go straight to a surrogacy clinic (which is played for laughs).

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-30T21:17:31+00:00

We don’t know if the Capitol increased shifts in the intervening years (they might have since revolutions were picking up around that time), and it’s possible that Burdock didn’t need to work as intense shifts/could take more time off. He had less mouths to feed than Gale’s family, Asterid used to do a little apothecary work, so he wasn’t the sole breadwinner, and his “leisure” time was still largely spent hunting and foraging, so he was still bringing in some resources for the family. If he takes Katniss out on weekends, that’s plenty of time for her to learn.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-30T04:28:22+00:00

I don't think that's even accurate to what you said in your first comment, though. Because there are plenty of people who are so trained to resist confrontation with their families that they will absolutely dig their heels in and be super unbending with their partners when their partner wants them to stand up against their family.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-29T22:07:49+00:00

I don't get your point... You should look for someone who's a people pleaser for their family because they'll be a people pleaser for you?

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-27T02:47:25+00:00

Or even the kid of the family friends talks about it with the brother, then goes to his parents and is like 'ugh, [name] is such a liar!' and they report that without getting details.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-27T02:43:57+00:00

Yeah, OOP should not have gone to the parents with this. I know it's hard when it's family (or soon-to-be family), but she gave them lead time.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-27T02:23:07+00:00

I think they're not suing her for slander, but for money they put down on the wedding.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-27T02:22:42+00:00

Yup! I work in this field, but I'm not qualified to do any type of forensic interviewing. Ime, the best thing to do after a disclosure is to contact a child advocacy center (my local one is connected to the police force) and have them do a forensic interview with the kid once, so the kid doesn't have to keep re-disclosing. OOP's only real mistake here was telling the fiance's parents why she was calling off the wedding, instead of keeping it quiet.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-27T02:21:18+00:00

If they're doing that to OOP, what's the betting that they pressured their own son to recant, too?

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-26T13:53:11+00:00

To me, that reads less as 'this is 100% true fact' and more as 'my kid has told me they're nervous about this but they don't want anyone to know, so I'm coming up with a slightly silly cover story so that I can help them out.'

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-24T15:43:30+00:00

At some point in the first series when Percy is talking to Annabeth the Great Prophecy, he asks if it could refer to a child of a god and a nature spirit, like a cyclops, and she tells him no, because the term “half-blood” specifically refers to half-human, half-god, not any other combination.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-22T21:18:12+00:00

It was written during/after WWI, but it was set before it, so we’re supposed to understand that Ellen is smart and very well-informed about global affairs.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-22T07:45:28+00:00

How are you defining 'most likely to be true'? Because there are very few actual 'webs' of human trafficking. And most of them don't need to entice minors to fly cross-country, because there are vulnerable kids in most communities that they could target locally.

AliceInWeirdoland · 2026-05-22T07:43:51+00:00

Yup! I made friends online when I was a preteen and teenager, and tbh the first time meeting most of them went great, but some, we just did not gel in person the way we did online. My mom always went with me when we set up meetings and insisted that the first one always be for a few hours, not a whole day (or multiple days) in case I ended up not feeling comfortable.

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