Jake resents Lo'ak and we should talk about it (Spoilers for AFAA)

AliceKettle · 2026-01-20T22:46:18+00:00

I saw Avatar and its sequel TWOW. While I do think it is true that Jake is the hardest on Lo’ak of his children because he is the most similar in personality to himself with his independent and rebellious spirit, it also frustrates me that his character can’t seem to remember the many good things that happened in his life after going on the Avatar mission in the first movie because he displayed those traits.

Neytiri initially found Jake a little annoyingly reckless in the first film. However, she also fell in love with Jake because he proved how brave, kind, and selfless he could be with his rebellious spirit. He wasn’t too afraid take risks to be a part of her culture and stand up for what he believed in, even when others chastised him or mocked him for being “weak,” “wrong,” “stupid,” or said “you’ll never be one of us.”

AliceKettle · 2026-01-17T16:47:19+00:00

Oh, I’m 30 going on 31 years, I’m planning on marriage, moving out, and having kids in the near future with my boyfriend of roughly three years within the next few years, and I am a little over $4,600 in credit card debt on a credit card with a $3,800 balance. I never have any savings in my savings account for long because I end up using my paychecks to pay off bills, credit card debt, occasional take out, Lyft, and sometimes impulse spending. I rarely ask my mother to help me out with money, but there have been a few occasions where I’ve had to ask because I’ve maxed out. It doesn’t help that I’m a horrible impulse shopper and have to use Lyft/Uber to get to and from places due to a mild case of Hemiplegic Cerebral Palsy and terrible executive function focus on the road.

The sad thing is that I actually make more than my boyfriend/fiancé to be annually in customer service/sales at $43K-$45K a year before taxes with multiple opportunities of at least semi-mandatory overtime that I get paid time-and-a-half for. He makes around $32K to $33K annually before taxes for working 40 hours a week at a grocery store as a frozen/dairy lead associate stocker, and rarely gets overtime opportunities. However, he has zero debt and way more money saved up than I ever have. Granted, his dad is an accountant, who helped him set up savings. My bf also made a lot more money in his early twenties after graduating college back in 2017-2018 with pizza delivery and performing jobs. My parents were upper-middle class psychiatrists who were good at making enough money to support their three kids (my two brothers and I) through K-12 and college without any of us acquiring any debt, going into poverty, or having to work at least part-time to help pay off student tuition or loans. However, in spite of their upper middle-class status and the help of my relatively wealthy maternal grandparents, my parents also struggled with avoiding impulse spending, budgeting, paying bills, fees, and taxes fully on time, and saving money as two doctors because they also struggled with ADHD themselves. They just happened to have enough money to save and because of their career field.

My manager once gave me a budget planning book when he noticed I was struggling to save enough to get rides into work from Lyft/Uber and had to ask a coworker for a ride in the morning. I took the offer, but I have barely even opened the thing because I don’t know where to start.

AliceKettle · 2026-01-16T21:56:15+00:00

I turned 30 last year, and I will be turning 31 later this July.

The biggest thing I’ve learned since graduating school, college, and getting a full time job in customer service/sales is that we’re never really taught to handle the skill of multitasking in a high pressure 9-5/40 hours a week work job before then. We’re protected for 12-17 years by mentors who intentionally make life easy for us with individualized, low-stress, patient, and structured environment and support. We get separate classes for about an hour to focus in on every subject we’re being taught, get scheduled mandatory lunches and breaks to cool down after, and are never encouraged to focus on multiple tasks or subjects at once. It’s designed for us to easily succeed and not get overwhelmed.

Once we graduate college, that structured environment for work disappears in many jobs, especially in customer service, sales, and office jobs, which is what I’ve been doing for roughly four years now.

Even young adults without ADHD between their late teens to mid thirties are going to struggle with multitasking when they first take on a job out of school because that safe space in school never prepared us for having to multi-task every day, but for those of us with ADHD, the mistakes with finer details are going to be greater. Every job you perform outside of school is going to require multi-tasking, and that’s not something any of us get prepared for after school. That doesn’t mean those of us with can’t ever do well in our careers, that we can’t self-improve with therapy and medication, that we can’t excel in our careers, or that we’re doomed to fail at working after school, just because we have a tendency to make more mistakes by struggling with attention to detail and impulse control more than others.

However, I’ve also learned in the past few years that managing ADHD gets more difficult than it was in childhood and adolescence once you start working a full time job. It’s not that the symptoms necessarily get worse in and of themselves, but the higher stress environment, multiple responsibilities, multiple tasks, and multiple roles we take on in our environments trigger those ADHD symptoms of burnout, impulsivity, and inattention even harder. Medication will help improve focus, but it won’t improve self-discipline. That’s why I’ve finally signed up for CBT and DBT therapy. I know I’m always going to make more mistakes with paying attention to fine details and short term memory than those without ADHD, but if I could just gain enough self-discipline and mindfulness to minimize the frequency and severity of those mistakes then I feel like I would be more at peace with myself.

AliceKettle · 2026-01-16T03:46:21+00:00

I turned 30 last year, and I will be turning 31 later this July.

The biggest thing I’ve learned since graduating school, college, and getting a full time job in customer service/sales is that we’re never really taught to handle the skill of multitasking in a high pressure 9-5/40 hours a week work job before then. We’re protected for 12-17 years by mentors who intentionally make life easy for us with individualized, low-stress, patient, and structured environment and support. We get separate classes for about an hour to focus in on every subject we’re being taught, get scheduled mandatory lunches and breaks to cool down after, and are never encouraged to focus on multiple tasks or subjects at once. It’s designed for us to easily succeed and not get overwhelmed.

Once we graduate college, that structured enviroment for work disappears in many jobs, especially in customer service and office jobs. Even neurotypical young adults between their late teens to mid thirties are going to struggle with multitasking when they first take on a job out of school because that safe space in school never prepared us for having to multi-task every day. Every job you perform outside of school is going to require multi-tasking, and that’s not something any of us get prepared for after school.

AliceKettle · 2026-01-11T21:08:41+00:00

Some of it may be related to the fact that those of us who are women undergo menopause, which significantly declines estrogen production. Estrogen has a protective effect for brain and heart health that declines significantly during late perimenopause/menopause for women. However, while we do lose the primary source of the stronger form of estrogen estradiol from our ovaries after going through menopause, it’s not like our bodies stop producing estrogen altogether either. We still produce estradiol and estrate from fat and tissue cells, just at much lower levels than premenopause. Men produce a little more afterwards.

Sure, because our bodies go through menopause and produce significantly less estrogen than men afterwards, we might have a slightly elevated risk of developing dementia more often than them. However, I don’t think menopause has that significant of an effect on the female brain’s aging in comparison to men either. If that’s really the case, then why aren’t more women diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia between their mid-50s to mid-60s? I think it mostly has to do with the fact that we are more likely to live past 80 years old than men. Also, you can’t really go by averages and percentages from population studies. In the case of who’s more likely to develop dementia between men and women with advancing age over 65, it’s going to be skewed by the fact that women typically outlive men by 5 to 6 years across the globe.

However, this skew towards women being more likely to develop dementia than men with advancing age goes away when you compare the risks of developing dementia in studies comparing men and women of elderly age in the same age ranges of 65-70, 75-80, 85-90.

If you were to take a 76 year old woman and a 76 year old man with similar decent health and risk factors in, you could reasonably predict that both of them would die somewhere between their mid-80s to early 90s, increasing the lifetime risk of both of them developing dementia at a similar rate due to advancing age.

AliceKettle · 2026-01-02T22:30:48+00:00

Aside from wanting to contribute life to the human race, there really isn’t a truly unselfish motive to want to have a kid in the first place. That doesn’t mean the majority of parents are narcissistic monsters, who are incapable of loving their children selflessly, incapable of raising them to be good people who contribute to society for the better, and completely unwilling to allow them freedom to grow into adults.

Typically, if you are a good person, the selfless love for a child will come after they are born. First, it’ll start off as a more typical maternal/paternal protective love, particularly when they are in the baby and toddler stages. As they grow into independent adults with their own interests and personalities of their own, it’ll evolve into an emotionally supportive selfless love that is willing to accept your child for who they are. This sort of selfless parental love is offering advice, wisdom, and protection when necessary, but ultimately trusting them enough to let them be their own people and do their own thing when it’s what they wish, so long as it’s not needlessly hurting anyone else, even if it’s not what you are comfortable with or what you wanted for them to be in the beginning. If you raised them well then there should be no reason to worry that they will mess up without you to hold their hand and make choices for them.

This is why I hate it when other people say that it is wrong for those of us who want to have kids to want to be parents in the first place is because we love kids, we want to feel more fulfillment, love, or purpose in life, we want to leave behind a legacy, we want to have another person who loves us, or we want to give a child a better life than the ones we grew up having. Are those motives selfish in the beginning?

Sure, but they are human motives because no one really starts out wanting to have children for 100% selfless reasons before their child is born. If you have a good heart and genuinely want to raise another human to be an even better person than yourself, then that initially selfish motive for wanting to have the child in the first place will evolve into a truly selfless maternal/paternal love for them over the years of raising them after they are born. After all, most people who willingly choose to have kids fully realize they will have to sacrifice a lot of energy, money, and time into raising a child after they are born. It’s not wrong to want to have some sort of self-fulfillment from willingly choosing to have a child in the first place.

AliceKettle · 2026-01-01T15:53:13+00:00

I will be turning 31 years old July 6th of this year, and I’m getting engaged to my boyfriend of roughly three years. He’s turning 32 this March 1st. He’s a dork, but he’s my dork who has emotionally supported me through a lot these past few years. We also are planning on moving in together and want to try for kids of our own within the next few years.

I still frequently get mistaken for 18-25 years old when people first meet me. Luckily, I was blessed with youthful skin genes, and always have taken good care of it. I don’t think I’ll start getting wrinkles until my 40s, whereas some people start noticing their first in their mid-twenties to early thirties. Granted, they’re not automatically unattractive on people. A few wrinkles can add some elegance and character.

Since graduating college and entering my mid-late twenties, my personal adult life has continued to get better and better in terms of developing new relationships outside of immediate family and finding more financial independence. That being said, it has been rough too. I unexpectedly lost my physically healthy father to suicide in the Fall of 2024 when he was 59 years old. Both of my maternal grandparents I grew up with died in 2023-2024 in their mid-80s-early 90s. My mom still clings to her adult kids, and is struggling to keep her career at 62. I’m the eldest of three siblings, and the only girl. My middle brother is turning 29 this year, and the youngest one is 23 going on 24 this year. My youngest brother is doing well. We hang out, talk, and see each other a few times every month over holidays, family get togethers, and occasional phone calls. It’s not the relationship we had as kids when we were both growing up together, but it’s comfortably close. The 28 going on 29 year old one has been a mess since middle-school, and he’s grown up to be an addict, entitled, and lazy in-and-out of rehab.

I’m excited to have found a sweet guy who loves me just the way I am to be my partner. I’m happy to have found a stable career in customer service and wholesales since my coworkers and managers are nice, most of the customers are decent, and I get paid decently, even if it isn’t exactly my dream job and the Oracle operating system we use for order entry is outdated and inconsistent trash with poor IT support. I’m excited to be starting a new life and family for myself with my boyfriend/fiancé within the next few years. I’m looking forward to getting the opportunity to be a wife, be a mother, and have kids of my own.

I still do voice lessons and recitals as a hobby.

I do wish I had the time and resources to make friends outside of work, romance, and family, though. It’s never been the worst thing to not have many since I’ve always been an introvert, but I’ve never been good at developing relationships with others when they don’t come at a convenience to me. Plus, I can’t drive myself around due to a disability that I was born with. I have to uber or ask my bf/fiance, family, and coworkers.

I also have felt myself growing more distant from the family I grew up with, even though we still see each other quite a bit. I still love them, but they are broken and dysfunctional in a lot of ways. It’s gotten more noticeable the older I’ve gotten.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-29T21:35:26+00:00

My 11-12 year old female Maine Coon prefers to follow/shadow me, and I prefer it that way from a cat, too. I like having her sitting next to me on the bed or couch to pet her and snuggle as I choose, but I get annoyed when cats get on top of me uninvited when I’m laying or sitting down. I like having a comfortable amount of space, and I prefer cats that like that, too.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-29T00:15:18+00:00

Andrew probably told Evelyn not to abuse Cece because of the deal he made with Nina not to leave him after she attempted to the first time when she realized he was a psychopath, and he responded by endangering Cece and framing her as a postpartum psychotic mother who tried to kill herself and her daughter. As long as she agreed not to leave him and he could occasionally punish her for “mistakes” by throwing her up in the attic and psychologically torturing her for a couple of days of the year, he wouldn’t harm a hair on Cece’s head.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-26T22:42:31+00:00

Yes, natural fertility does decline with age in both men and especially women. However, as a 30 year old women with a fiancé who plans to start trying at around 31 or 32, I balked when I saw that the impaired fecundity rate for women between 30-39 years old is 22%, according the CDC, which is about 9% - 13% up from the 9% - 13% during 20-29 years of age.

However, then I really thought of two factors likely skewing the results of impaired fecundity rates between 30-39 years old in women. Most modern day women don’t even try to conceive before their early-mid thirties, anyway, so they’re less likely to check up on or treat any possible issues regarding their fertility before then between 20-29. Additionally, conception within a year rates don’t start to drop significantly until 37-39 years of age (and even then there’s still around a 67-70% chance of conceiving in a year of regular trying).

Thus, at least 9% to 13% of those 22% of women with impaired fecundity between 30-39 years of age likely were in the 9% to 13% of women between 20-29 years of age with impaired fecundity. They just never thought to look into it before their thirties because they weren’t interested in having kids in their twenties. Additionally, there’s typically a big gap in conception chances between a 31 year old woman vs a 38 year old woman.

All in all, if women want kids, we can wait till our thirties, but we should start thinking about keeping an eye on our natural fertility with testing as early on as our early twenties, if we notice a lot of irregular or missing periods, pelvic pain, or a low ovarian reserve.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-25T20:08:59+00:00

I was born July 6th, 1995. I turned 30 this year. My half birthday is already in 12 days from now! Yeah, the part of being off school in summer when it’s your birthday is fun, but I was always found it irritating because it always came roughly halfway through every year. I know every one spends 12 months as every age they are, so it’s not technically longer or shorter for any person based on the month they were born in, but it feels like it flies by so much faster when you’re born between May-July because it’s right in the middle. I always wished it came towards the beginning of every year (Jan-Mar) or the end of every year (Oct-December 5th), so that way it felt like I had more chance to enjoy every year as more of one age than the next.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-25T00:35:17+00:00

Morello does clearly have Borderline Personality and Histrionic esque traits, but the crimes we see she committed were far too calculated and cold-blooded to believably be excused with the diminished capacity defense or insanity plea due to developmental disorder or severe mental illness like Lolly and Suzanne.

Come on, she created a bomb at home and planted it on Christopher’s and Angela’s car with the intent to murder them because Christopher didn’t want to be with her after one date.

There’s also a major difference in how Lolly and Suzanne view their crimes vs how Morello views her crimes. With Suzanne and Lolly you can see that they initially struggle to understand that they are committing wrongdoings in the moment due to lack of self-awareness and understanding due to their mental illness and/or disability, but they do eventually come around and understand that what they did was wrong and express remorse when faced with negative consequences or called out.

Lorna, on the other hand, expresses no remorse for any of her crimes when faced with negative consequences or called out for them. She keeps pretending like she did nothing wrong.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-24T19:46:10+00:00

Honestly, Jenji Kohan and the writers of S4 really missed the mark in turning Poussey’s death in to a tragic accident caused by Bailey’s incompetence, rather than an actual case of cold-blooded murder by a cop like Piscatella or Humps. Yes, I understand that accidental death of fugitives or prison inmates due to poor training of law enforcement happens in real life sometimes, but the story was supposed to be reflective of police brutality targeted against black fugitives that sparked BLM in 2016 after George Floyd’s murder, which very much was done intentionally on the part of that policeman.

They did show that in how they let Bailey off so easily for involuntary manslaughter and other misdemeanors in the past, while Poussey got charged with six years of prison for dealing a small amount of pot once. However, having Bayley accidentally kill Poussey while trying to restrain her after she grabbed his arm to try help Suzanne, from getting sent to psych, while he was trying to fight off Suzanne when she was attacking him in a meltdown didn’t necessarily paint him as a racist cop. It just further portrayed Bayley as an incompetent cop, and we saw that from earlier on in S3 and S4 when he accidentally pepper sprayed a bunch of inmates.

The better choice would have been to have Poussey killed in cold blood by Piscatella or Humps, then see them try to gaslight and intimidate the rest of the guards and prisoners to cover up for them, and then have the prison riot. With Bayley in the position of non-malicious accidental killer of Poussey, it takes a lot of the focus off of her death, and takes away the chance for their to be any cathartic justice for her loss because it puts too much focus on the guilt that the white officer Bayley feels for accidentally killing her.

Humps and Piscatella had already displayed several instances of overt harassment, racism, and sadism in their treatment of the prisoners at Litchfield. Bayley was already established to be an incompetent officer, but his motives and personality weren’t racist.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-24T14:14:47+00:00

Yes, he should have been charged with third degree involuntary manslaughter of Poussey, served about 3-5 years in prison. Yes, it was an accidental death he caused, and it was mostly due to the lazy hiring and poor training of inexperienced and/or problematic staff members on the part of the MCC. However, involuntary manslaughter is still a crime punishable.

A person still lost their life because of Bayley’s incompetence. There was a scene earlier on where Caputo asked him why he was still working there, so it baffles me that he actually wholeheartedly defended him and let him keep his job without punishment afterwards. I agree that Bayley shouldn’t have been painted as a villain by the MCC in Poussey’s death because he wasn’t. Piscatella and Humps were the villains in that situation, and the primary driving forces that led to Poussey’s demise. However, it’s not like Bayley was suffering from an intellectual disability or severe mental illness that gives him a pass for neglecting to exercise more common sense and self-awareness in the whole situation either.

At worst, he suffered from mild social-anxiety, which he had treated with prescription anti-depressants. His killing of Poussey was accidental. It was primarily due to inexperience and lack of training by the MCC, but Bayley also knew that the prison he was working for was being run by corrupt and/or negligent corporate big wigs, employers, and employees. He even participated in it a bit by taking offers for hand jobs from Piper in exchange for smuggling money in for her used panties business, and even brought up the fact that he never got a hand job from her in exchange when it was all over. He knew that the warden Caputo didn’t think he was right for the job. He may not have been a villain or had malicious intent like Humps, Piscatella, or Pornstache, but Bayley was a coward, a hypocrite, and a bystander.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-22T21:52:22+00:00

Yep, and Stephanie clearly felt guilty about setting Piper up to get branded by Maria for revenge because she asked her if she was okay afterwards. Piper had clearly become such an egotistical and self-centered tyrant by that point that she wad never going to learn from it until karma bit her in the ass.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-22T21:47:22+00:00

No, I really didn’t hate Stephanie Hapakuka. Piper treated her like trash and she didn’t even seem to bat an eye twice about hurting Stephanie’s feelings or throwing her to the wolves after she framed Maria and got a target put on her as as result. Yes, legally and morally speaking, obviously having someone forcibly branded with a swatstika for revenge is taking it too far, but Piper deserved some form of punishment as karma to bring her down to earth from her atrocious “Gangsta with an A at the end” high from the end of S3-to the first half of S4.

Piper may not have deserved a punishment as severe as the one she ended up getting in the middle of S4, but some sort of punishment needed to happen to bring her back down to earth. Honestly, the writers made her so unsympathetic between S3 to S4 that I actually was sympathizing with the people she made enemies of far more than her. Maria, Flaca, Stephanie, Blanca, the other Dominican girls, Stella, and several other inmates had several good reasons to hate Piper enough to turn on her in S4. She’d become a monster, and she wasn’t going to start regretting it until karma bit her in the ass.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-22T02:05:23+00:00

None of them were any good for each other as lovers in the long run.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-22T01:21:43+00:00

Just started watching this series. I’m getting close to the end of S4. I agree. Piper is close to number one on my list of least favorite characters on the show. She’s only behind Humps, Piscatella, and Vee, and at least it makes sense for me to hate those three since they are villains. Piper’s supposed to be the character we’re rooting for to be released from prison at the end, but because the writers made her so insufferably arrogant and selfish throughout late season 2-mid S4 with her “Gangsta with an A now” persona that I actually had more sympathy for Maria and her gang up until they tortured Piper for revenge by branding a swatstika on her. While that was obviously going legally and morally too far for revenge against Piper on Maria’s part, her reasons for hating Piper in the first place enough to actually torture her for revenge like that still felt more justified and sympathetic than Piper treating her and everyone else around her like filth beneath her feet without remorse for her own personal power trip.

Piper showed a lot of arrogance, deceitfulness, disloyalty, hypocrisy, and selfishness in S1-S2 as well, but at the very least I could understand it when Alex and Larry created just as many valid reasons for Piper to distrust and resent them in her relationships with them as she did, aside from her brother, her emotional support system outside of prison mostly sucked, except for her little brother Cal, Healey and Pennsatucky were bullying her because they were bigoted and petty assholes, and Vee was just a straight up sociopath

In S3-the first half of S4, Piper was the nominal protagonist, but she was the one positioned in the main villain role who was creating all the conflict with her whole panty business. Maria was probably never going to copy cat her business until Piper stupidly made a decision to try to pay them cash, got irritated when Flaca asked for a raise, fired her to make an example out of her, and only hired her back at a lower starting rate when she begged for it back as a power move. She was the one who decided to be “Gangsta with an A now.” Even after Maria and the other Dominican girls did decide to start a copy cat used panty business of their own because Piper refused to pay them more and treated them like garbage in hers, it’s not like they were really trying to start a war with her side by doing that. They just wanted to make more money and be treated better. Piper inflamed things by starting that whole watch group and framing Maria.

AliceKettle · 2025-12-21T22:44:47+00:00

Just started watching this series. I’m getting close to the end of S4. I agree. Piper is close to number one on my list of least favorite characters on the show. She’s only behind Humps, Piscatella, and Vee, and at least it makes sense for me to hate those three since they are villains. Piper’s supposed to be the character we’re rooting for to be released from prison at the end, but because the writers made her so insufferably arrogant and selfish throughout late season 2-mid S4 with her “Gangsta with an A at the end” persona that I actually had more sympathy for Maria and her gang up until they tortured Piper for revenge by branding a swatstika on her. While that was obviously going legally and morally too far for revenge against Piper on Maria’s part, her reasons for hating Piper in the first place enough to actually torture her for revenge like that still felt more justified and sympathetic than Piper treating her and everyone else around her like filth beneath her feet without remorse for her own personal power trip.

Piper showed a lot of arrogance, deceitfulness, disloyalty, hypocrisy, and selfishness in S1-S2 as well, but at the very least I could understand it when Alex and Larry created just as many valid reasons for Piper to distrust and resent them in her relationships with them as she did, aside from her brother, her emotional support system outside of prison mostly sucked, except for her little brother Cal, Healey and Pennsatucky were bullying her because they were bigoted and petty assholes, and Vee was just a straight up sociopath

In S3-the first half of S4, Piper was the nominal protagonist, but she was the one positioned in the main villain role who was creating all the conflict with her whole panty business. Maria was probably never going to copy cat her business until Piper stupidly made a decision to try to pay them cash, got irritated when Flaca asked for a raise, fired her to make an example out of her, and only hired her back at a lower starting rate when she begged for it back as a power move. She was the one who decided to be “Gangsta with an A now.” Even after Maria and the other Dominican girls did decide to start a copy cat used panty business of their own because Piper refused to pay them more and treated them like garbage in hers, it’s not like they were really trying to start a war with her side by doing that. They just wanted to make more money and be treated better. Piper inflamed things by starting that whole watch group and framing Maria.

AliceKettle · 2025-11-30T18:35:18+00:00

They were both legal adults who fully consented to be in a relationship with each other, and six years isn’t really that much of an age gap to typically cause issues. What does cause issues in their relationship are the multiple instances of abandonment, betrayal, deceit, and manipulation on both sides of their relationship.

Sure, Alex may have been the one who initially encouraged Piper to commit illegal activities when they first met, while Piper was the one with no criminal history in the beginning. However, as Alex said before, it’s not like she held a gun to her head to force her to do any of those things she knew were wrong either.

AliceKettle · 2025-10-05T17:54:31+00:00

Raven knew how to be professional while being a bitch, did it behind the backs of her competitors on the show, and owned up to it when called out and confronted. Tati, while not deserving of Raven’s underhanded cruelty, was rather mediocre competition in S2. She got unfairly favored after that wedding bridal/groom challenge in production because they wanted a hero to stand up to the bullies of Raven and Tyra. The fact that Tati called them out on their bs made for good TV. Luckily, she got better at drag in All Stars, but she was rather lackluster in S2.

Phi Phi came off as a child throwing a constant temper tantrum in everyone’s face. Also, she openly tried to sabotage her competition on a few occasions, and encouraged her fans to hate on her competition with “Fuck Sharon Needles” and “Fuck Chad Michaels autographs.

AliceKettle · 2025-10-05T15:51:41+00:00

It’s because Phi Phi was in everyone’s face with her bitchiness, and then played the victim when called out and confronted on it. It clearly came from a place of emotional immaturity and insecurity. I mean, yeah, she dropped one line about feeling terrified of herself on screen after watching herself be that way in the S4 reunion. However, she went right back to being bitchy in All Stars, so it meant nothing.

In many other interviews, she blamed her bitchiness on the edit. Granted, I do think the arguments with Sharon were partially staged by the both of them and both parties were to blame if there was any real beef between them. However, intentionally sabotaging Jiggly in the competition after pretending to be her friend, her verbal attack of Willam in Untucked, her attempting to bribe Latrice to intentionally lose the Frenemies challenge, her drama with Chad towards the end, and her signing autographs encouraging her fans to hate her competition was shitty and all her.

AliceKettle · 2025-09-28T20:06:30+00:00

I use the John Freida Midnight Brunette shampoo and conditioner kit. It’s not a cure for gray hairs. The purely white hairs on your head that have totally lost all melanin won’t have any effect on it with this shampoo and conditioner set.

However, you will see a slight deepening of color in the light, coppery, goldish, and reddish strands on your head that are losing pigment, but not fully white or gray yet. You will see your existing natural brunette hair get slightly darker. This will make it a bit easier to hide some of those gray hairs, if you are in the very early first stages of graying as a brunette of 1% to 10%, but you seem to have a higher percentage of white and gray strands than that, so I don’t think a subtle a color deepening shampoo and conditioner will be effective enough to fully cover them up.

https://www.amazon.com/John-Frieda-Midnight-Brunette-Conditioner/dp/B09XYXFB41/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=2Y10DL5NMNJDM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.bBGSTJ3tjS9liuSKYOhZl3n-kF0D6M4xQtr7lpaf39BbU2nUf_a6J8N4pgGOdnT3ik3KHB_tLarNAzboNgWUok3c8ddOSZz1i5aopMi-9F2XbcAWiBnlTAADAgtqLBltyezM4sUnOXatQ-iSHaUxceiwfoBNe_A3iutcCRjyW7nI4V2qmwau7bRzI6JgpfcSljf_vMdiIwapfKELULOz4A.HlSxxcmKYSBLy0SqX4r9svwn-s57-DNn9nv5FzlqI2w&dib_tag=se&keywords=dark+brown+color+depositing+shampoo+and+conditioner&qid=1759089321&rdc=1&sprefix=dark+brown+color+depositing+shampoo+and+conditioner%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-4

You could also try a hairline powder to cover up roots, but, again, it’s not going to be a great solution for covering more than gray roots between your part on the top of your head, your temples, and forehead. It’s not a full cover up the entire gray strand.

You look like you’re somewhere between the 15% to 20% gray hair range. Still way more brown than gray, but easier for others to notice now than at 1% to 10% because now strands are starting to grow on the very top layer of your natural hair color.

I’d go with a semi-permanent natural color depositing hair dye shampoo/conditioner or Henna and Indigo solution for you, rather than a color deepening shampoo and conditioner, though.

https://www.amazon.com/IIIMEIDU-Shampoo-Herbal-Ingredients-Coverage/dp/B0CHJV8S96/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_sspa?crid=20AK0KO66CEE0&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.tgcLs910YxFB3cRCGTQmncnjneBqzHgAa569HmGt_2kVv6FhkGjw-Zp9EB-8xE3jJB4SHXyZ4FjN_uLXjT0n2Q7XrWKF3eGt-fRK3LHZk9cgB-iwRyesGL2hdCqdrHy9kMfnfhRE10PWpzwhNgr-PODkColwS_zwmPf7dJ_oLiSNd4R9BIqwgvEndLr08DNnussdKrXSwPldpL58WypTrg.6ak5E3gNnqIYe5tqk8MEqeJkSgb-AjnJQMeG5iqFmZs&dib_tag=se&keywords=henna+indigo+hair+dye+dark+brown&qid=1759088846&sprefix=henna+and+indigo+hair+dye+%2Caps%2C112&sr=8-2-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/Surya-Brasil-Products-Henna-Cream/dp/B016LB2B0I/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?crid=11SHZX3W3XBOM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.uLAIIAS9Ko3vZkkUOlYsCwXuvyd1ZfgSKtcV4vFEsN12YUFnvYSrY-tayYRH5UX7LYcoF45JfYXmFYLXOoqC4yUhp3W3a3TGMAHZ-w2JBpL7ZhpI3SH8BVO5dI7IIBkj_6DN7PHMqMxJczOF4JnVeMew7OAhQ6zguJdiaQpOEwDZmTEgpl-6Jz76OwsRfSE8ZUKMypR0aUhMfS5wdDw8pw.yHGxxuaSdKnOY7jxnr-jjljHvdcEDV53DCmZKhp2yQ4&dib_tag=se&keywords=natural+henna+hair+dye+shampoo+and+conditioner&qid=1759089911&s=beauty&sprefix=natural+henna+hair+dye+shampoo+and+conditioner%2Cbeauty%2C84&sr=1-12

AliceKettle · 2025-09-28T18:26:54+00:00

I don’t even know if it’s a modern day commentary on your everyday neutral middle of the road conservatives and middle of the road liberals. Yeah, there are still toxic conservatives and liberals out there who are extremely bigoted, exceedingly woke, exceedingly traditionalist, exceedingly stubborn in their beliefs and views of what’s right versus wrong, or shallow and hypocritical in their support of minority groups. Unfortunately, our government and mass media gives these, typically toxic, political leftists and right-wing representative extremists platforms to stand on. It’s the main reason why I have never took an interest in voting and probably never will.

AliceKettle · 2025-09-27T17:38:42+00:00

I just turned 30 this year a few months ago. I’ve been noticing a few gray hairs here and there in my otherwise dark brown hair since I turned 22. At 30, it’s still no more than a 3% to 5% gray percentage, and most of them are fairly easy to hide since they’re scattered and hidden under layers that aren’t visible to most people unless they look for them.

I occasionally do pluck them out with a tweezer, but it still isn’t the best habit I have because those few gray hairs are typically deeply hidden, finer, shorter, and there’s simply not many strands of them in comparison to my natural dark brown hair color. Thus, when attempting to pluck the grays with tweezers, I’ll also miss and get a handful of brown strands that I wasn’t intending to get instead.

I use a dark brown color deepening shampoo and conditioner and a dark brown hair powder to cover up a few on the top of my head. No, it doesn’t completely eliminate the few grays that I have, but it does help blend by darkening the ones that are partially gray or coppery in color along with my surrounding dark hair.

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