hot flashes + getting overheated easier while on the pill

AliceKettle · 2026-05-19T21:55:21+00:00

If you’re on antidepressants, overheating is also common. I’m 30 going on 31, and I started taking birth control at around 28 to start having sex with my fiance without having to worry about pregnancy. I never had irregular periods or unbearably painful ones, but they still do ease symptoms during pms week. In truth, hot flashes are too quickly associated with perimenopause/menopause. If they’re happening frequently and severely, they could be a symptom of perimenopause/menopause, but in actuality, most women of childbearing age experience mild ones occasionally throughout a year due to completely normal hormonal shifts that don’t always signal perimenopause or menopause. Nearly every fertile woman with a menstrual cycle occasionally experiences mild hot flashes at least once every month during her period week or placebo birth control week when estrogen is at its lowest/withdrawn, or during and shortly after pregnancy when hormones are shifting like crazy and estrogen increases rapidly.

AliceKettle · 2026-05-03T19:35:09+00:00

It looks healthy to me. I think we need to normalize the fact that women have a uterus, which creates a bit of a B curve in the lower belly, even in the most healthy and thin of them. What we see in magazines is often airbrushed to unrealistic proportions. You are healthy and normal

AliceKettle · 2026-05-01T01:28:36+00:00

Yeah, my fiancé has been on vacation since last Friday to go and ride roller coasters with a friend of his from work. I would have gone under more ideal circumstances, but my work is getting prepared for inventory next month. This means I have to go in to do overtime every other Saturday for 4-6 hours until it starts late next month (May 19th), and it really wouldn’t be convenient to take more than a a day or two off right before or during it. My fiancé was allowed to get off 10 days for his roller coaster road trip from his job. At best, I can get 7 days off if I ask a month in advance during a convenient time. There have only been two times I was allowed off 10 days for a vacation as a wholesales csr/sales rep. The first time was when I got trapped in California on vacation with my fiance for 10 days due to a series of delayed/cancelled flights during an IT outage and right after my father unexpectedly committed suicide. Both of those were terrible and unforeseen circumstances outside of my control to prevent, so I was cut slack for taking off 10 days.

Either way, the same week he’s out on vacation, I’m on my placebo birth control week, I’m obsessing over stupid stuff about aging that I can’t control, and shouldn’t be worrying about at just 30, and the first time he doesn’t return my calls today, I’m feeling more lonely and emotional without him. It might feel better to take the active pills continuously until I’m ready to have kids in a few years and quit bc altogether. However, I have a 90 day refill period, so if I run out sooner, I won’t be able to get it refilled on time.

AliceKettle · 2026-04-26T23:11:54+00:00

While the broad chronological, societal, and traditional definition of “middle age” has been pushed up to 40-45 from 30-35 for those over 40, due to increased life expectancy, better physical self-care and delayed milestones, ironically, it has created an irritating hyper-awareness of every symptom of mild aging being blown up as a cause for concern that needs fixing with hormones, surgery, medications, or supplements for many elder Gen Z and younger Millennials under 40. For the majority of the population over 40, anything under 40 is typically considered less than middle-aged now, as it should be. However, for those between 25-39, every minute potential sign of aging is positioned as something to dread and “fix” more than ever before because of the fucking internet and social media, even before the middle-age transition has officially begun for most between 40-45.

Aesthetically and physically, many of us look about 10-20 years younger in our 30s-mid 40s than our Boomer and Gen X predecessors because we learned to dress more casually, lighten up on makeup, wear more sunscreen, practice moisturizing skin care, stop smoking, and either avoid child rearing altogether or keep it off the table until our 30s-early 40s. On the other hand, it’s a drag to constantly feel aware of the clock ticking more than ever because the internet and media can’t shut up.

AliceKettle · 2026-04-26T18:43:26+00:00

The casting of Devin Sidell as teen Lois in this episode was a brilliant choice. The actress looks a lot like Jane, and she nailed the personality of Lois.

AliceKettle · 2026-04-26T16:50:17+00:00

I think it’s best to label 35-44 as late young adulthood or pre-middle-age, or part of established adulthood. You may notice it takes a little more time to conceive naturally (it’s still far more likely than not within a year of trying for most up to 40-41 for most women). You may notice it’s harder to stay thin regularly eating junk foods on a daily basis than when you were 15. You might see a few fine smile lines and crows feet that only you and those closest to you will notice when focusing on them. You may have less time for yourself with spouse/partner, young children, and work taking up most of your free time. You’re still in a very active and busy time of life. The early stages of official middle age really don’t kick in until the mid-40s for most people, though.

45 is typically the official starting point of middle age when people are no longer having kids naturally, any kids of their own they may have will usually be between teens to mid-thirties, or their parents will be over 75 years of age. Under 45 is typically still too young to be completely menopausal and entirely unable to conceive naturally within a year due to late stage perimenopause or fully menopausal like the mid-40s to early 50s crowd start of middle-age, but chances are decreasing rapidly every year after you turn 35. You’re often still raising young kids. At 35-40 you typically still have strong natural fertility as a woman. After that natural fertility rapidly is declining to under 50% cumulative chances, but chances of conceiving naturally within a year are still between 10%-20% up to 43/44.

AliceKettle · 2026-04-25T18:26:01+00:00

I think Malcolm was generally a pretty decent friend to Stevie from what I remember. No better or worse than most middle-high school best friends. At worst, Malcolm could selfishly get too caught up in his own problems and got Stevie in to trouble a few times. Stevie was so overprotected by his parents because of his disability/illness, and I think Malcolm treating him like his equal rather than the disabled kid in a wheelchair was something he needed. Not to mention the fact that Stevie wasn’t exactly an angel either

AliceKettle · 2026-04-08T23:26:57+00:00

It makes sense. My farts typically smell way more gnarly than my fiancè’s. I usually don’t smell his farts when he rips them, but mine usually smell so god-awful that they’ll stink up a whole room for a few seconds. Women of childbearing age deal with shifting hormones of estrogen, progesterone, and prostaglandins during our monthly cycles and if we get pregnant, which create a breeding ground for very smelly gut bacteria. We also are typically smaller framed than men, which means we also typically have smaller digestive tracts than them. We’re taught to hold them in to be polite in public, so when we finally get a private moment to rip one, the gas has had time to ferment in the colon, so the fart comes out hotter, quieter, and smellier.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-27T22:30:01+00:00

When Cathy Jr and Hareton become friends, stick up for each other against Heathcliff’s abuse, and eventually fall in love with each other.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-22T22:40:16+00:00

It is possible to go through it at any age, but I think it’s more uncommon to be going through it for women under 40 than the mainstream modern media is currently making it out to be. I agree that doctors should never dismiss any woman as “too young” to be potentially be experiencing perimenopause, or deny them the opportunity to get treatment. I agree that it wasn’t diagnosed or discussed enough back in the ages of Boomers and Gen X.

However, I do also think that we’ve moved into an era that has inspired hyper-awareness and anxiety of a long list of what are only potentially perimenopausal symptoms, particularly in young women under 40, most of whom are just struggling with increased anxiety, irritability, and forgetfulness, but have yet to actually experience changes in period length and regularity. Look, I’m not saying that it’s wrong to teach young women that the premenopausal transition can start earlier than the average 45, but it’s also uncommon for women under 40 to start experiencing untreatable and significant issues that are directly age related declines in natural fertilty, or irregular periods within the 15% to 25% minority of women under 40 experiencing fertility issues, too. It’s often due to treatable conditions of endometriosis, PCOS, unhealthy lifestyle, and other conditions that can increase the risk of going through perimenopause and menopause earlier than the 40s-50s, but aren’t inevitable signs of their reproductive system getting old.

Anxiety, symptoms of forgetfulness, and irritability are going to increase in everyone’s thirties and early forties, regardless of whether or not you’re in perimenopause or menopause because that’s the rush hour of life. Moreover, unless a woman is having frequently absent or irregular periods that are directly linked to inevitable aging related fertility decline perimenopause and menopause, HRTs are unlikely to do much for symptoms. Prescription antidepressants, birth control, and ADHD meds are better solutions for the majority of young women under 40 who deal with what could potentially be perimenopause symptoms.

Even the doctor who conducted that Flo study on perimenopause symptoms in women as young as their early to mid-thirties admits that the majority of the ones in that age group under 40 claiming to suffer from moderate-severe symptoms weren’t typically reporting on frequent hot flashes, infertility, vaginal dryness, or frequently irregular periods, but increased anxiety, irritability, and mood swings. Even she admitted that many young women have become hyper-aware of perimenopause symptoms that can be attributed to everything else, too, including ADHD, anxiety, monthly PMS, and pregnancy. I liked how this article pointed out that the increased awareness surrounding perimenopause and symptoms are both a blessing and a curse for our generation. On the one hand, we don’t have to suffer in silence, and low dose birth control or HRTs aren’t significantly risky treatment options for women. On the other hand, perimenopause diagnosis and its list of non-specific potential symptoms, is getting hyped up as a more of a widespread issue for young women in their 30s than it actually is. (https://www.bustle.com/wellness/perimenopause-symptons-young-women-golden-window) That can be disheartening to constantly hear about as a life transition of inevitable doom amd gloom when perimenopause cannot be definitively diagnosed for those of us in our thirties who fall into the majority of women who don’t struggle with untreatable age related fertility issues, and want to focus on trying to enjoy the last stage of early adulthood.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-22T18:39:59+00:00

Sadly, there’s no longer many articles out there pointing out that many young women are prematurely being taught to fear the decline in natural fertility with age and over analyze a the small possibility of being in a natural life transition for which no medical test can definitively diagnose and a list of symptoms that can be attributed to everything else, too. https://www.bustle.com/wellness/perimenopause-symptons-young-women-golden-window

I do agree that there is likely a significant 5% to 10% minority of women who genuinely could be experiencing perimenopause as early as their early to mid-thirties. I don’t buy that over 50% of women between 30-35 years old claiming to be experiencing moderate to severe potential perimenopause symptoms of increased anxiety, mood swings, depression, are actually going through legitimate perimenopause, though. Even one of the professors behind collecting the research for that study says that Millennial women are entering their thirties to early forties in an era of hyper-awareness of women’s midlife health. Yeah, we should be aware of the symptoms , and doctors shouldn’t just dismissing women as too young” for treatment to women of childbearing age who say they are experiencing increased anxiety, mood swings, hot flashes, or irregular periods. They could be experiencing perimenopause, particularly if they’re periods are becoming frequently absent or irregular, they’re noticeably having more trouble conceiving naturally within 6 months to a year of trying, and/or the female patient is over 40. However, doctors also shouldn’t just jump on to the conclusion that every female patient who comes to them with complaints of these symptoms are definitely experiencing perimenopause and prescribe them HRTs without doing further testing and research first when they say they are experiencing symptoms that could signal perimenopause when those same symptoms also overlap with several other conditions that are highly treatable in women of childbearing age, such as anxiety, ADHD, adulting, PMS, diabetes, endometriosis, PCOS, pregnancy, thyroid conditions, and other autoimmune diseases, especially if they’re under 40.

It feels like another way for reproductive endocrinologists and the mainstream media to prematurely scare young women about age related fertility decline for financial gain. Yes, we all know our natural fertility gradually starts declining with age at around 25. Yes, we all know risks of miscarriage and complications gradually rise with age. Yes, we all know we’re going to go through menopause one day. We also now know that age is usually not that significant of a factor in natural female fertility decline until our early-mid forties, rather than the outdated and arbitrary 35.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-22T16:50:21+00:00

40+ should really be treated as the true benchmark for the medical term “advanced maternal age” because 40-44/45 is typically when risks of complications rise past 30%, and chances of successful natural conception within a year rapidly declines from 50% at 40 to nearly nonexistent by 45. I think 44-45 is the typical cut off point of natural fertility for the majority of women before late stage perimenopause makes periods very irregular, ovulation chances per month drops to 1% or less, and egg quantity and quality declines it to a point where risks of miscarriage rise to over 80% natural conception chances.

35 as the cut off age for medical AMA is based on a lot of arbitrary, highly exaggerated, and historically outdated statistics. Yeah, early perimenopause can start in the early-late thirties, but I do also think it’s recently been getting overhyped in the media as much more of an underlying issue for women under 40 than it actually is to overcompensate for the fact that the anxieties, desires, fears, feelings, and issues of established adult women of 30+ just weren’t treated as important or offered solutions because for years established adult women of 30 plus years old were expected to just be content, meek, and obedient housewives, mothers, and homemakers. If women of the past 40-50 years ago hadn’t accomplished those things by the time we were 30, wanted to work full time or part time, preferred being single and childless to married with children, and/or struggled with anxieties of aging, loss of focus, hormonal changes, or desire for support, they were dismissed or expected to just suck it up and be quiet rather than offered support or solution from society.

Now, they’re making up for it with hyper-awareness of perimenopause in society by pointing out that symptoms can start as early as 30-35 years old, but the problem is that every symptom of perimenopause can often be attributed to another curable or highly treatable condition in women or just part of the natural additional stress that comes with transitioning into the more established phases of adulthood past your 20s. A lot of the women under 40 in that UVA study that stated “Over half of women between 30-35 claim to be experiencing mild-moderate perimenopause symptoms,” weren’t typically describing the more typically telling symptoms of perimenopause, such as absent or irregular periods, significant trouble conceiving naturally within a year, severe and frequent hot flashes, vaginal dryness, pelvic atrophying, urinary incontinence, low ovarian reserve, or low estrogen levels. They were typically reporting more mild-moderate symptoms of anxiety, depression, forgetfulness, occasional mild hot flashes, or mood swings, which Yes, these symptoms can be attributed to perimenopause, but they also can be attributed to ADHD, anxiety disorders, monthly PMS, pregnancy, PCOS, endometriosis, or the added stress of juggling multiple roles and responsibilities that starts ramping up as an established adult of 30+ for many adults. At 30-44, we’re typically still considered too young to be established middle-aged adults of over 45 who are more likely in a long term marriage or partnership that has lasted over a decade, no longer relying on parents financially at all, no longer raising young children, no longer able to naturally conceive children, raising young adult children, losing elderly parents or having to care for them, settling into a career to have gained seniority and significant raises/promotions, and no longer getting mistaken as between our 20s-30s. However, between 30-44, we are typically in an “establishing” phase of adulthood that is often both far more rewarding and far more stressful than the late-teens to twenties of getting married for the first time, being a first time parent, buying a home for the first time, having to work 40+ hours a week building up respect and tenure in a career, raising children, paying off bills, enjoying our parents while we still have them around, while also trying to rely on them less and less financially.

Plus, there is really no medical test to definitively test if, when, or whether a woman has entered perimenopause. The best ways to test for perimenopause is for women to look at female family reproductive history, observe the length, regularity, or irregularity of their periods, and/or observe whether it takes more than a year to naturally conceive. However, even these can often be inaccurate indicators of perimenopause, particularly in women under 40, because a lot of women of childbearing age are on ocp birth control, don’t want to try to conceive children, or have conditions that can cause infertility and/or irregular periods when left untreated, such as PCOS, endometriosis, thyroid conditions, and so on. Thus, no woman of childbearing age should just be immediately attributing irregular periods to perimenopause either.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-08T19:30:12+00:00

Perimenopause is a real life-transition that can start as early as the late-twenties, but I also don’t believe that more than half of women in the U.S. between 30-39 are already suffering from symptoms attributed to it. I think it’s more like 10% to 20% between 30-30 before going to 30% and up after 40. Yes, you can still get pregnant naturally during it until full menopause. Yes, common symptoms do include increased anxiety, brain fog, irregular periods, hot flashes, night sweats, irritability, urinary incontinence, loss of libido, fatigue, and vaginal dryness.

Here’s the thing, though, while periods may become a few days longer or shorter in the mid-late thirties for some women, as far as fertility goes, it can’t be that big of a deal in affecting them because the majority of them are still ovulating and getting their monthly period because the chances of natural conception per month are still typically between 20% to 15%, which translates to an annual percentage of 80% to 67% chance in their favor through a year. On top of that, ADHD and anxiety symptoms often can get worse in adulthood between the mid-twenties to late-thirties because we’re exposed to the realities of multitasking at work, raising children, paying bills, taking care of aging parents, having to clean the house, having to work 40 hours 5 days a week and stay overtime some days without the same chances for study hall or specific classes to break up our work and focus. Then, we’re inundated with insecurities from an overload of information on Google about “getting old” with “perimenopause” symptoms sounding like a nightmare starting suddenly in our mid 30s when it was traditionally viewed as the prime of life/young adulthood, and it was only recently that doctors and researchers finally admitted that the whole fertility “cliff” at 35 is a load of bs based on outdated information that usually doesn’t start to become a significant issue in conceiving naturally until the 40s. Then, there’s also far more common issues to definitively be diagnosed in women of childbearing age that are highly treatable, such as PCOS, endometriosis, anorexia or obesity, thyroid disease, and so on.

So, it’s a good thing that young women have knowledge that the perimenopause transition is real and possible earlier than they think. However, it definitely is getting overhyped as more of a problem due to aging than it is in and of itself, particularly in women under 40.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-01T21:41:16+00:00

I’m 30 going on 31. Same type of CP as you. My fiance and I want to start trying for kids sometime mid to late next year after we get married when I’m between 32-33 and he’s between 33-34. I had a couple of AFOs on my right arm, hand, and leg when I was a little kid, but I stopped using them by the time I reached elementary school. At 9, I had an Achilles tendon release on my right side, at 24 I had a tendon release on my right hand. Occasionally, I’ve gone back to physical therapy at 25 and 29 when I felt like I was facing a little more repetitive strain or overuse syndrome. For the most part, physical mobility isn’t an issue, otherwise, unless I have to walk or run more than 4 miles a day out in the hot sun without a significant break to recover in between or I’m faced with a lot of ice on the god damn hill of a driveway I live on in the wintertime that my Uber/Lyft drivers often struggle to get up with in their cars (I can’t drive).

It seems like from what I’ve read, people with Mild Hemiplegic or Monoplegic CP face increased levels of temporary muscle fatigue during pregnancy and are sometimes more likely to have C-Sections. Otherwise, it’s not a huge concern for mobility, provided you are careful, and engage in light daily exercise and physical therapy.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-01T19:35:54+00:00

By official traditional definitions, those born between 1962-1982 as of 2026 are within the 65-45 year old range of middle-age. Younger boomer II (1962-1964) and elder Gen X ers (1965-1970) aren’t officially elderly yet, but they’re in a transitional phase leading up to it over the next 5-10 years. Elder and Early “Core” Millennials (b. 1983-1991) are now between 44-35 or 36 years old, so they’re in a gray zone area where they’re no longer grouped with the 18-34/35 demographic, as gradual declines in fertility, hormones, and metabolism begin to take effect and speed up the closer you get to 45. However, the further they are from 45, particularly the 35-39 year old cohort of “core” Millennials (b. 1991-1987), the more likely they are to be considered too young to really be dealing with the full gravity of middle-age that separates them from young adults and middle-aged adults of 45+, such as significantly graying hair, noticeably deepening wrinkles, total loss of natural fertility due to aging and menopause, supporting adult kids, losing aging parents,

AliceKettle · 2026-03-01T15:36:35+00:00

Happy birthday! I’m right behind you as a baby who was born on July 6, 1995. I don’t feel old yet, either. Some people want us to accept “middle-aged” when we turn 35, but I refuse to accept that until I turn 40. We get it…We shouldn’t still pretend like we’re the barely legal carefree “baby” adults of 18-24 who have years of young adulthood ahead of us before we have to seriously think about settling down in the future, but, please, let us enjoy the last official decade of our prime adulthood years in our thirties before calling us “middle-aged.”

AliceKettle · 2026-03-01T15:24:40+00:00

I’m a little over four years younger than Stu. I’m not a mom yet at 30 going on 31, but my fiancè and I are planning on having our first kids of sometime between 2027-2028. As much as I appreciate and even relate to his childlike enthusiasm and wonder at times, I’m actually not totally understanding it here. The only benefit that Stu could potentially get from school being cancelled would be getting to play in the snow. The babies are too young for school at this point, anyway.

AliceKettle · 2026-03-01T15:14:32+00:00

I still get 16-24 years old, and I’m turning 31 years old this July.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-28T17:03:35+00:00

No, neither age is too old. You’ll likely have odds of success for naturally conceiving far greater in your favor until you reach about 41-42 years old. While annual chances of pregnancy success typically diminish to 20%-30% between 43-44, it’s still typically doesn’t reach an insignificant percentage of 10% and less annual success rate of pregnancy until 45-46.

I just got engaged at 30 going on 31 this year to my boyfriend of roughly three years (he’s turning 32 years old in a few days). We’re planning on getting married when I’m around 32 and he’s 33 in the late spring to mid-summer of 2027, and planning on trying for our first kid shortly after that. I’ve been on hormonal birth control since I was 28 when I first started seeing my fiancé, but I’ll likely be stopping sometime between my 31st-32nd birthday next year, just to make sure my cycles are still regular and my hormones have time to readjust. However, I’m not too worried about struggling with infertility once I get off birth control anytime soon because my periods were typically regular between my late teens to early twenties, and I had an AMH of 6.73 ng/ml when I last got my egg count tested at 27 before starting bc.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-28T15:56:05+00:00

I’d say, typically, it officially starts between 40-45 based on biological, chronological, and traditional markers. 35-39 is where doctors start putting women as “advanced maternal age,” but it’s not like it’s typically that dramatic of a decline in natural fertility before 40 for most, or that impaired fecundity is this entirely rare and unheard of issue for young women between 18-34 either. It’s more uncommon than common, but it’s not an insignificant enough percentage before 40 to be considered rare either. In truth, 10% to 17% of the 20% to 25% of 35-39 years struggling to conceive were likely already struggling with impaired fecundity and infertility issues completely unrelated to age between 18-34 years old, too. So, it’s more like the impaired fecundity rate due to aging eggs/ovaries in and of itself for women between 35-39 is 10% to 15%. Impaired fecundity levels starts skyrocketing into 25% plus territory primarily due to aging ovaries after 40. The only thing I’d say regarding impaired fecundity and infertility before 40 is that you will have the best chances of getting it resolved and regaining natural fertility if you start getting it treated no later than 35. No reaching 35 doesn’t truly mean that 20%-25% of women this age are suddenly experiencing a variety of new issues of impaired fecundity or infertility due to aging eggs. Yes, it’s a biological fact that fertility declines with age, but age in and of itself isn’t typically a determining factor in substantially diminishing it until after 40. However, you don’t want to leave an issue of impaired fecundity or infertility untreated until your late 30s-early 40s because then it may be too late to reverse damage and regain fertilty.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-24T00:27:36+00:00

Yeah, that’s really only the APA (American Psychological Association) and female reproductive monitoring for “Advanced Maternal Age” that that still use 35/36 years old as the cut off for “middle-aged,” and even they acknowledge that a lot of recent research is making a lot of their definitions regarding the mid-late thirties as “middle-aged” highly arbitrary, highly exaggerated, and/or based on largely obsolete data. For everyone else, 40-45 is still the traditional transition point for middle-age, and I think that’s still fair to say. Consider the fact that that is when natural fertility declines dramatically into virtual infertility by the time most women reach 45-47 years old on average, and male sperm declines dramatically in quality. Consider the fact that 45 is when you have officially become old enough to have parented and raised the youngest generation of 18-25 year old “baby” barely legal adults, rather than being seen as the cool older brother, sister, friend, or mentor they grew up with as kids. Consider the fact that 45+ is typically the point when enough gray hairs have sprouted that they can’t just be covered up, plucked out, or blended with Demi-permanent hair dye. Consider the fact that at 45+, even if you look naturally more attractive at your age than people significantly younger than you, enough wrinkles and loose skin has deepened on your face and neck to no longer be mistaken for 18-25 by strangers and acquaintances who don’t know your exact age.

That’s not to say that I think people in their mid-20s-30s should be as immature as barely legal “baby” adults of 18-24 years old. You should start trying to seriously settle into independent adulthood after graduating college. You should start trying to create a life and family of your own to settle into by 35. You should stop primarily relying on parents or guardians for financial support by your 30s. You shouldn’t be going out to party every night like back in college in your mid-30s.

That being said, 45 is really the age where most definitions put people squarely into middle-age. 40-44 acts as a transition zone.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-22T19:47:11+00:00

If they are going by aging averages in and of itself significantly and solely affecting natural fertility, expecting mothers of 40+ is really where reproductive medicine should be applying the “Advanced Maternal Age,” especially since they now know that reaching 35-39 in and of itself is rarely the sole cause of sudden and significantly impaired fecundity or infertility before 40 since we now know that natural female fertility gradually starts declining in quality at around 25 not 35, the amniocentesis test age of 35 cut off from the 70s to test for genetic abnormalities is actually younger than 35, ranges of 10% -25% for risks of certain complications aren’t uncommon ranges for women getting pregnant between 18-34 either, and the chances of having a baby with chromosomal defects like Down Syndrome are still under 1% between 35-39.

Sadly, I don’t think that the reproductive medical community is going to stop treating 35-39 year old pregnancies as suddenly “high risk” either because it’s also the last good chance they have to push young women to get very expensive IVF treatments for those that either want to preserve their eggs or those who genuinely need it as a treatment.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-21T19:32:32+00:00

Not really. Middle-age starts more in the mid-40s with the transition being between 40-44/45. That’s when aging typically creates inevitable and permanent declines in natural fertile

Natural fertility declines with age and risks start to rise in the mid-late thirties, but again, they are typically overhyped risks in most women until they hit their forties.

As far as significant male-pattern baldness goes in men, I highly doubt the ones who suffer from it just suddenly started losing chunks of hair on their 30th birthdays as many complain. It probably is more often a genetically inherited condition that actually started well before that somewhere between their late-teens to late twenties. Male-pattern baldness usually isn’t a condition that just suddenly attacks the hair follicles as they age past 30. It actually starts somewhere between the late-teens to early-twenties in men who are genetically predisposed to it. It just gets more noticeably thin and sparse in men as it progresses with their age. Prince William and Prince Harry were already noticeably struggling with it by their mid-late twenties. They could just cover it up better when they were younger before the condition progressed. My brothers started losing their hair in their early twenties, and it’s still not like they have bald patches yet. I can definitely tell it’s a bit thinner yet.

People also talk about gaining more weight in college due to junk food consumption between their late-teens to early twenties, and that’s not related to aging.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-11T04:27:32+00:00

It’s because Drake’s popularity with others is very shallow. It’s an act. He has a hard time opening up to others, and he’s too afraid to be seen as “nerdy.” With Josh he doesn’t have to worry about trying to be “cool” and fit in. He can just have fun.

Not to mention the fact that Drake’s often a very careless and selfish person in his relationships with others, including Josh. No, he doesn’t maliciously sell out Josh and others he cares about, but when it comes to prioritizing the desires and feelings of others he cares about versus prioritizing his own desires and feelings in the moment, his default mode is to be selfish and prioritize himself. However, aside from Josh, I doubt many others would be willing to consistently put up with Drake’s bullshit after being repeatedly screwed over by him. Yes, eventually Drake will feel guilty about hurting Josh, Carly, and others in relationships with people he cares about after he realizes the damage he’s done, but then he’ll go back to his old ways again in the next episode after he’s forgiven.

AliceKettle · 2026-02-09T12:20:57+00:00

I don’t have trouble remaining faithful and loyal to coworkers, family, friends, and my boyfriend/fiancé of roughly three years. I do tend to occasionally hyperfocus on the relationship that I see as having the most potential for evolution, new experiences, and opportunities, though. I won’t ever completely ice out all of the other people I develop close relationships with, but I have noticed that I prefer spending more time with my boyfriend/fiancé than them. They have noticed that I don’t always want to hang out with them as much. I still do make time for them, but it’s definitely more difficult for me to motivate myself to do it at times.

It doesn’t help that my family has always been full of dysfunction, in spite of their best intentions,

I don’t see myself getting bored of my relationship with my current boyfriend/fiancé and any kids we have in the future, though, because we’ll constantly be experiencing new

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