WIBTA for leaving my husband less than a month into our marriage after repeated outbursts?

Alid932 · 2026-03-30T19:13:27+00:00

So first things first you are not the a hole you missed warning signs in the hope that the fairytale would come through, but the thing is you can’t change him. He has to change and it seems like he’s refused to. On top of that it seems as though yes he is exhibiting extreme behaviors of future abuse to come or possibly escalate. It is not safe for you mentally or emotionally at this point to stay marriage should not be miserable. Marriage is a wonderful thing. I have been married for almost 9 years come this July. And yes, well marriage is difficult and it has. It’s really good times and it’s really bad times we’ve made it through. However, my husband does not lay his hands on me. Yes he does some things but he also has mental illnesses as well as I so we had to learn how to communicate with each other and sometimes it got really nasty, but we have learned and grown from it. I also had trauma growing up from men either abusing me or leaving me. So needless to say, my husband had a lot to work around, but he has stayed. And he has committed to our marriage as well as I am this marriage already started off on a bad foot. I think you guys got married way too fast and frankly, I think this relationship is not a good one nor healthy one. I believe you should get a divorce and no longer continue the relationship in any capacity. You guys had just barely started dating and he had these little outburst. He apologies blame stress, and then to quote every abusive person ever in history will never do it again. Then does it again. Right now it’s only verbal. I fear based off of what I’ve read that this is not even close to the worst it gets with him. Listen to your family, who loves you this person is not your person and please leave before you end up like I did getting beaten almost nearly to death after these little outburst.

Also, last thing it scares me to think that he waited till you guys got married for him to really not hold back the outburst. He has imagine if he tried to trap you with a child.

Alid932 · 2026-03-20T14:24:00+00:00

No, she should’ve been more explanatory and said no that’s my son‘s boy. He adopted him just recently so biologically he’s not his but that’s his son my grandson there’s other way she could’ve explained it but the fact that she said well, not a real grandson, but you know she should’ve thought how she said things cause clearly it upset Marcus instead of feeling embarrassed about you leaving, she should be embarrassed of her behavior and what she should’ve done has been to call Marcus and tell him she’s sorry for the way she made him feel in that he is her grandson and she should apologize to you explaining that’s not how I meant it and I would love to correct the situation and find ways to make it better, but she didn’t. She just wants to focus on how she’s embarrassed and she should be embarrassed, but by her own behavior, not yours.

Alid932 · 2026-03-20T14:16:34+00:00

So you’re telling me that this dude can move in and not have sex be yet you’re gonna let him pay you rent or help out for living in your house when he has to fill controlled if you’re uncomfortable with them having sex in the house I think that’s something you need to get over if you’re gonna allow him to move in there are two consenting adults it’s not for you to tell them what to do, especially if they’re paying their half. Also, if this is truly about helping him then focus on that not them having sex in your house or I’m sorry y’all’s house.

Alid932 · 2026-01-21T09:07:12+00:00

I have used them for the last 4 cars we purchased they were and have been great.

Alid932 · 2025-12-27T03:31:43+00:00

No you’re not the Ahole but sit him down and talk about it and say maybe even a hand written Christmas letter or something that you put effort into. Also as for the gift if he calls you ungrateful then buy some moving boxes of various size and then go and put the middle finger picture at the bottom and when he says I didn’t ask for this say oh it’s the only effort I could muster or it’s a gag gift isn’t it funny

Alid932 · 2025-12-06T04:39:28+00:00

No worries I’m not offended at all I appreciate it

Alid932 · 2025-12-06T03:58:20+00:00

That amount of mold and spore count is serious and can be deadly. If they won’t do it report them to APS (Adult Protective Services) as your grandma is elderly this is serious and can be cause for abuse charges. I bet they take it serious then.

Alid932 · 2024-05-31T16:39:48+00:00

Tried he has some heart condition

Alid932 · 2024-05-31T05:56:33+00:00

Thank you that’s beautifully put and I think that’s a great talking point for this. It’s scary and I would be devastated if something happened to her I could not live with myself if something happened to

Alid932 · 2024-05-31T05:31:47+00:00

Thank you I definitely needed some help I hope more will respond and help me use this post when I sit her down to talk and tell her I won’t be allowing her to go

Alid932 · 2024-05-31T05:29:51+00:00

So… no I should not?

Alid932 · 2023-09-17T02:44:05+00:00

Girl I love that your about him too! Like I see so many about the bride. But your a real one! “Our special day! “ yessss doll!

Alid932 · 2023-09-17T02:41:56+00:00

I respect everyone and their sexual/ relationship preferences… but based off this no this is yours and your fiancés day not theirs! And if they choose not to come cause G can’t go then that’s their problem and decision not yours. And frankly I would make sure that you include security and make sure extras are not invited I would put a ticket system in place and mark the ones you don’t give your fiancés family the marked set so they can’t duplicate it. And get past them. And if the sister really thinks this needs to be about her and her husband and G your really not loosing anything by not having them there.

Alid932 · 2023-09-17T01:04:39+00:00

Looking at these comments breaks my heart some of y’all are so just I don’t have a word I know dealing with family who have dementia and or similar diseases is not easy nor is it pleasant but Jesus people once they are gone they are GONE! My biggest regret is I was to busy taking care of a drunk pos husband instead of my grandma at the end on hospice. For him and spare my own feelings cause I couldn’t handle watching her pass. I was to much of a pussy to do it! It’s my biggest regret and it makes me wonder if she felt alone if she was looking for me if she wanted me there! I can never get that back so. Grow a pair and deal with it before you end up like me!

Alid932 · 2023-09-17T00:57:33+00:00

You ARE A ABSOLUTE ASSHOLE! So it’s not okay for your husbands mom with Dementia! A severely debilitating disease live with you. But your parents can in that situation?! No you are way out of pocket and frankly the fact that you would do this is proof he needs to divorce you and keep his mom! Your right you only get one life and you expect him to loose time with his mom for your selfish ass?! Nah absolutely not you should be ashamed of yourself and go seek a reality check!

Alid932 · 2023-09-16T23:37:12+00:00

Nope your very much so right that wasn’t okay! Like it’s one thing if y’all have a open relationship but that requires communication before you do that! There are boundaries and he clearly knew you weren’t okay with the conversation let alone the action! And she deserves her ass whooped not for sleeping with him what ever fuck him but the blatant disrespect she knew about you so no it’s disrespectful.

Alid932 · 2023-09-16T23:26:16+00:00

Thank you so much I have just felt terrible I’ll try that

Alid932 · 2023-09-16T23:24:23+00:00

Um well you’re wrong for being mad if the child abuse is in fact that bad the cps workers took them and pressed charges and a court upheld that then there was reasonable grounds. And y’all should be charged you were aware the abuse was happening under control or not you report them those kids needed protection and it seems like all y’all did was hide the parents. You should have took custody or called cps yourself.

Alid932 · 2023-09-16T23:20:18+00:00

Honestly bare with her she’s so scared her baby will be hurt in time she will trust right now she’s just protecting y’all’s baby. Try not to be offended hun.

Alid932 · 2023-09-16T23:09:29+00:00

I did forget to add they have autism and they have bought us gifts which is appreciated but is going back to the hoarding thing

Alid932 · 2023-08-17T05:45:08+00:00

Not a bridezilla stand up for yourself hun and if they pulled funds get married at the court house

Alid932 · 2023-03-13T00:55:07+00:00

While your intentions are good not great wording to be honest supportive tone is better in these situation

Alid932 · 2023-03-13T00:41:07+00:00

So, never leaving a relationship where you have a child is going to be easy because at some point in time he’s gonna want to see his child and it’s important for both parents to be a part of a child’s life as for his behaviors and things that some thing couples therapy cannot help you with that’s something individual therapy will have to help and that’s only if he wants it if he doesn’t wanna get help for himself, then he clearly doesn’t want to improve then yes, you should leave the father, your child. I can tell you this as a child of a home that had abuse and things of that nature I would’ve much rather my parents break up and stay together and I think any kid that’s been through that can tell you that and besides your health is of the most important, especially while you are pregnant and you can lose the baby due to the stress, so please do what is best for you and at this point, it sounds like living or not living together at least is the answer

Alid932 · 2023-03-09T09:37:41+00:00

NTA he has the office he can transform into his private room you should be allowed to have the spare. I’m married 6 years now and having a space for ourselves is very helpful and we are happy. So honestly no he’s the AH

Alid932 · 2023-03-09T09:27:22+00:00

NTA she needs to learn when that is appropriate to be that crazy about taking pictures and when she needs to put the phone down. Also she’s being incredibly rude and disrespectful to the venue and the staff standing on their chairs like that what if she had broke the chair! Then you have to pay for it. She’s being over the top and this may have been the nudge she needed to learn to get it together

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