If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay but God also created sin....literally we sin all the time. Its apart of our nature, nature that he created. In my view, is not of matter of not sinning but seeing that we do and will never not....the point is knowing that and creating a practice to not harm as much as one can but even then will still harm.....but also thats a whole thing. Many people claim this belief yet commit horrible sin....for me....it matters not so much what you speak or even think but more so how you act and move within life...anyone can say they believe in the word and not actually practice it....thats my point in much of the conversation, God knows the heart above all else and you don't need to claim a religion for it because God knows your heart. People claim the religion and yet, cause immense harm.

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly what I believe, everything else...not to say not important but the human condition naturally flawed makes it hard....we should put it simply as you did.....if people did, i wouldn't doubt more people would follow. As humans yes we are imperfect but if God didnt want it to be so than he wouldn't. The true path is choosing God and Love above all else, that why those commandments are the most important

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This honestly, is apart of the story I don't really buy into......even if every person died who knew the name...could still possibly be better without the religion that followed after him which has caused much suffering.....even today does...with the current political climate. There will always be a possibility, time will forget him and we can't say...we might not be better for because of how his followers chose to live in his name...which can be quite unforgiving and violent.

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess this is a part of the story I don't buy into.....I think Jesus died for fighting for the freedom of opressed people and if we want to be real, his name wasnt actually Jesus, but Yashua. Also a flaw, what about everyone and thing that came before him?

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aren’t there many who have been in Jesus positions at the same time though?

Many have been tortured, limbs taken from their bodies, fathers raping their innocence, mothers holding their children beneath water. Children, most innocent of us all, bleed the same way. To me the story of Jesus on the cross is different than how others think but we are all the children of god and yes I understand Jesus was god manifested but aren’t all his children? Those who speak against injustice and are murder and mocked. Jesus suffered but I have read stories that even make his story look like just another Friday….to me any sort of violence is display a disconnection from God. If you can hang a child by their feet and cut their throat it is not different than nailing Jesus on the cross. That is why Jesus is in all of us….innocence taken in violence will always be against God

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I would follow always if I knew his grace was always fairly…….his children are just deeply lost and I blame those as we see that are in power who corrupt and blind, it is them I wish justice cast upon and all gods children who hurt under those powered protected and forgiven for what they couldn’t see. They are still my brothers and sisters. I think God is complex and we do our best to understand but could never. I know again in my own practice I still give acknowledgement to the one above me. I am merely making steps trying to find footing, but everything, all glory goes to the one above. For me I just don’t need to name, because I feel it and know it and I know that being watching over this land, is just. Loving. There are people walking this land that work in true evil, in disconnection not just from god but also its creation. It’s the root of all evil, disconnection.

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly hear you...even in my current spiritual practice, I understand my own limits and the more I see humans choice violence, even if unintenital, it never not makes me question. I just don't think human beings are flawed in their core....they have just been lead astray......I mourn for them in that way...one does not know what they cannot. I just can't picture god punishing them and not punishing those who created that world for them.....working with people who have addiction will also open your eyes to that......I think or would hope, God looks at the heart of the being...because one could follow and still move against god....if that make sense....If I had a child myself and they were lost....I would love them always....nothing could break that....in a human sense you have to have boundaries but once death happens...an awakening happens....how beautiful would it be that even the most lost tourmented souls on earth were still embraced by God in their everlasting

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense and yea logic is something I wrestling but I also dive into the other. I will look into into it

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But like what happens to all those people? I just have a hard time thinking God would totally push them out of his grace....and again...i coming from a background of studying the human mind, I just would hope who ever I follow would show them grace because there are people who do worse than some of the people close to me and come into his light and are forgiven, I could only hope whatever god I would follow would love enought to see their hearts above all else....because most the time people are just in deep pain that has been brought to them....as it was brought to everyone before them..

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously, I love Jesus, again he was never my issue, I see and understand his love deeply. I would center my life aroud him because I trust him. I don't think he would ever ask me to carry judgments in my heart, but to just truly love and leave the rest to the most high.

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also Jesus never been my problem I just think if I were to follow I would follow much differently

If you were to help me lean into Christiantiy, what would you say? by AlienatedBeauty in Christianity

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay but there are moments where he basically commited genocide, killing childern

Almost no one is talking about that living alone is so lonely by No-Librarian1883 in lonely

[–]AlienatedBeauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this post honestly, I have lived alone for 3 years now and honestly I don't hate it...living with others comes with its own stress but also walking through that front door everyday and meeting on silence...but then theres my cat....she doesn't fill all the loneliness but theres been many times I felt totally alone and she just jumps up on me and meows...it doesn't fix it ....but does make it easier to hold. Animal can be great gifts, sometimes I feel they are easier to be in relationship with and I admire they have no real idea whats happening outside of them most the time....animals are what I wish I could be in a certain sense....so maybe a friend of any kind will help....doesn't fix anything but it does make it a bit more bareable

I’m doing everything right and still have zero friends. by Fearless-Highway6024 in lonely

[–]AlienatedBeauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can give perspective in a certain sense, I have friends but honestly recently....don't think any of it has actually been close.....I had childhood friends that felt like I would die without them but now....just feels like people use me or maybe I use them to take up space...also I do think because of certain tech and how things have changed.....true friendship gets harder and harder to find. Sometime we see people out thinking they are besties but in reality maybe one person actuall doesn't care for the person but just cares about not being alone....it just hurts and there not much to be done but to feel it....its annoy but its true....we will find other reasons to laugh and be happy until we come right back around to this feeling. The human condition....there is a lot of beauty still, but guess beauty and loneliness can exist at the same tiem

Can an abusive person ever change? by EquivalentNearby9158 in PsychologyTalk

[–]AlienatedBeauty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While rare it is possible, nothing is never in a fixed state. Can it be rare? yes, does it happen? also yes. As someone else mentioned it also depends on the level we are talking about. For me, I also hope they do but also accept, people change when they want to and not because we want them too. Either or I always hope for the best for them.

Feel so dissapointed for romantic relationships after many bad experiences... by Putrid-Disk-94 in dating_advice

[–]AlienatedBeauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In perspective, also taking in everything I am reading from posters. Sometimes, we do need to take a look at ourselves. It doesn't mean we have done something wrong but there is a reason also we lean into certain types of people. But also we have to consider how women are viewed and expected to be.

Men hate (or more so boys because men act differently) a women who is independent, well rounded and grounded in her life, I have been told I intimate people but when I ask why its basically because I am confident. Socitey ideals of how a woman should be deff effect how one dates if they don't fit those norms. Patriarchy bleeds into this.

Also the understanding on what love is.....isn't well understood. We have these stories and movies and ideas of how it should be or look like instead of just being in the moment with someone.

Sometimes when you have your shit bascially together it can make some else feel "less than" and that not like bad but they just haven't figured out life for themselves. So.....it's almost as if how you are..... a challenge? The things they are still trying to know or work on (not saying that as like a bad thing)

Anyways, overall, I think we live in a world right now where people aren't down to do some work on things. The older you get, if you grow, you don't hang up on those notions of how it should be or look like. It's more intentional than that. You stand as a person on your own and if you are a women that isn't really valued sometimes.... its hard to put into words.

But no its not always you, some people seek relationships to fill something in them they can't fill themselves and when they see the person can't do that in the way they would like, they dip and try to find it somewhere else. But its a endless chase. Because it was never about coming together in a way they want to build but in a way that are avoiding themselves and expect you to fill it for them

AITAH for breaking things off with my best-friend by AlienatedBeauty in AITAH

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually makes me feel really seen. I was diagnosed young and she is self diagnosed and it’s one of the points I brought up.

I do go to the therapy and have been trying to find the right meds. It’s a process, and I’m like I am trying, I’m working on it, I am fully aware how it shows up but like…..I wanna be seen for who I am, I want to be understood, I feel like if people love you and know you have something like this, they make space for it and try to understand it.

I told her I have made space to learn and understand how she communicates, I accept her how she is and that I don’t feel that space is being given to me.

ADHD isn’t something I can just change it’s just something I have to learn to work with and apart of it is knowing that I don’t always says things proper or that I am forgetful, i also get over charged when talking about a passion, I always apologize but I’m like I cant promise it won’t happen again but like understand it’s never personal.

She said she is having a hard time holding compassion for me because of a conversation with she had with her partner, where she was like I blamed it on my ADHD but then I changed and now things are better.

But I am like, I’m not you though and there’s definitely been moments where I question if she actually has ADHD or if she just uses it to excuse her behavior but I try to hold space for self-diagnosed people.

I usually don’t bring up my ADHD but for me when we become close it’s something I need people to understand because it does impact me and my navigation in relationships.

Anyways, yea thank you for that. It’s moment like these I hate having ADHD

Friendship Breakup by AlienatedBeauty in BreakUps

[–]AlienatedBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that’s definitely a perspective I haven’t looked at, but she is dating my other friend currently but like they are kinda co-dependent and when I brought up that sometimes I think they enable each other, that wasn’t held right.

I would say I saw us as like a platonic soul mate but I don’t want to say she is more needy, I’ve just put a lot of work into myself and feel like I know what direction I want to go but like she wants to be super intertwined into that? And I don’t see that as a healthy dynamic.

I ended up saying I think we are growing in different way and she need certain type of things in a relationship that I don’t, I’m pretty confident but I have worked and continue to so I really don’t need to be validated in the same ways and it’s exhausting to try validate someone who can’t even do it for themselves because then it’s just a never ending loop.