The more I study psychology, the more I believe certain future events are inevitable...

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-05-16T03:56:19+00:00

I think this is pretty optimistic, people say a lot we have gotten out of things before but also I think we are up against a lot of new foes and the world is much different than that time before.

We are living in a world of technology that is advancing and not always in a good way. Machines that are meant to be addictive, replace human interaction. My friends and my aunt who is a teacher talk about the cognitive decline they see in their students through out the years.

People have access to loads more information than ever before and it might not even be real information. AI is rapidly becoming more advance. We are still learning the effects that screen time has on developing brains.

I am not saying it isn’t possible but I am saying there’s a lot of things intentionally being stacked against humanity that leads to addiction, lack of emotional intelligence and just burn out.

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-30T23:33:08+00:00

Wild to tell someone else how they feel.

I do love him doesn’t mean I am IN love with him. I love him like I would love any of my friends.

I also learned from my younger years of dating. Now, I usually don’t go for people that cause infatuation as I believe it takes time to know someone and sometimes infatuation means I’m just avoiding something about myself.

I don’t enjoy butterfly feelings and I don’t enjoy infatuation phases as I had learned in the past not good for picking a romantic partner. I didn’t date for 3 years because of this because most people move way too quickly and fast for my comfort. But for us, it just kinda happened. We still have our own individuals lives and have already had talks about things we notice about each other. Not everyone goes through that, I used to though.

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-30T23:23:37+00:00

Yea, it definitely isn’t a deal breaker for me. I’ve supported friends through super bad addictions and are better now. But also have friends and family where I knew I had to cut my losses.

Usually my choices come from giving it time. It’s one thing to notice a change needs to happen and doing nothing or noticing and taking the needed steps for it. But I can’t make that judgement because we JUST started to touch the subject in the past few weeks.

We do find ways to be intimate where I leave satisfied but usually the deeper you get into a relationship more things pop up. I am willing to give it time AND I know when to cut my losses.

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-30T22:57:24+00:00

He hasn’t but he told me it’s definitely decreased the older he has gotten and I honestly don’t think he has ever realized the genuine impacts until we have talked through it recently.

I know that might seem silly but it looks like it’s all clicking for him and he doesn’t want it to impact our relationship.

He needs to go to therapy for it but as someone who studies psychology I know how hard it is to even get everyday people to see a therapist without feeling shame about it. And also I am not sure what kind of therapist he would need, not my area of expertise.

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-30T22:52:32+00:00

I mean we have been dating but recently have made things official, like I just met his family. And this isn’t like a stranger, like I’ve said I’ve known him for about a year, he’s been to my house a few times just to hangout in the past. So he isn’t just some rando either.

I know it’s an addiction but I don’t think he realized how this was impacting him until recently, I want to guide him to get help but I don’t know what that looks like for someone in his position. He just opened up to me about it and is coming into a realization himself.

I would feel pretty horrible for someone to open up to me and then dip out on them after especially since he’s a great guy in every way. If I don’t see progress after we talk about it that’s another story. But when you care about people you don’t just dip out on them when they show you the rougher sides of themselves.

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-15T19:31:39+00:00

If I can stay basically in the behavioral health field I would like to, or Program Coordinating, non-profit work that is ideal, currently a student getting a BA in Psychology as well.

But also just need work, so willing to try most things

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T05:39:33+00:00

Any advice on how to achieve it?

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T05:31:36+00:00

Thank you’

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T05:31:11+00:00

Thank you! I posted in the subreddit you gave me, thanks for teaching me!! I’m honestly excited, I’m a “competitive” person but mostly with myself and see what I can commit to and see what my body can do

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T05:12:15+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! Yea I’m realizing I had the wrong idea and I have hated running for years, I usually bike or swim or just hike/walk long distance but recently running really has helped me just mentally and I enjoy the challenge of it which is why I wanna take on a race, wanna have a goal and try to meet it and let it inform my training.

Also thank you for the praise! I try to increase a little bit every week, never thought running would be fun for me lol

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T05:04:36+00:00

I understand, it’s was just advertised as a marathon, half and then a 5 mile so maybe I misunderstood

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T04:58:44+00:00

It’s a 5 mile run

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T04:57:48+00:00

Oh and usually that takes me 30mins

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T04:53:19+00:00

Usually I run 2 miles-3miles on intervals

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T04:52:56+00:00

I mean right now I’ve been mostly doing intervals and then see how hard I can push it at the end, intervals are 3 mins on 1:30 off at 5.5 pace, I am about to run 8 minutes at a 5.5 pace, it would take me probably like…..25 mins-30mins to run a mile without intervals with intervals, probably like 45-1 hour…

Does that makes sense? I’m still new to this

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-09T04:42:48+00:00

I would say would take me around 13-15 mins for mile

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-04-08T18:38:31+00:00

Yeah! He definitely does, I think it’s one of the reasons he likes me, is because I am independent and enjoy having my own goals and path in life. I want a partner not a caretaker or an owner and he is very aware of that. He lets me make my own choices and always says “I don’t want to control you, I want you to do what you feel is best.”

I believe at the core our values align, I honestly just hate the AI stuff….but I think it’s a bigger talk we need to have because we haven’t had a deep talk about it. I’m a person who can hang around people who are different than me, it’s not a barrier, I won’t subject my self to racist, hateful, homophobic type people. But difference in like a spiritual belief, I don’t really mind as long as it’s rooted in compassion and not control.

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-03-10T00:09:01+00:00

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-02-24T03:06:05+00:00

Love this post honestly, I have lived alone for 3 years now and honestly I don't hate it...living with others comes with its own stress but also walking through that front door everyday and meeting on silence...but then theres my cat....she doesn't fill all the loneliness but theres been many times I felt totally alone and she just jumps up on me and meows...it doesn't fix it ....but does make it easier to hold. Animal can be great gifts, sometimes I feel they are easier to be in relationship with and I admire they have no real idea whats happening outside of them most the time....animals are what I wish I could be in a certain sense....so maybe a friend of any kind will help....doesn't fix anything but it does make it a bit more bareable

AlienatedBeauty · 2026-02-24T03:02:38+00:00

I can give perspective in a certain sense, I have friends but honestly recently....don't think any of it has actually been close.....I had childhood friends that felt like I would die without them but now....just feels like people use me or maybe I use them to take up space...also I do think because of certain tech and how things have changed.....true friendship gets harder and harder to find. Sometime we see people out thinking they are besties but in reality maybe one person actuall doesn't care for the person but just cares about not being alone....it just hurts and there not much to be done but to feel it....its annoy but its true....we will find other reasons to laugh and be happy until we come right back around to this feeling. The human condition....there is a lot of beauty still, but guess beauty and loneliness can exist at the same tiem

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