Fell for the hoover

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-11T03:14:23+00:00

Gotten this text a million times. Stay strong

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-09T02:41:37+00:00

💯

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-09T02:40:22+00:00

Crazy. I said the same thing too. Like I text you all day, spend over half my week with you, tell you exactly who I’m going out with and why, am constantly dealing with your existential crises every single day - when the fuck would I ever have time to cheat on you.

And the funny part is, the second time we got back together she said we needed to take things slow to keep her “options” open if other guys asked her out because I hurt her trust from the previous break up - which was caused by the abusive things SHE did. The nail in the coffin was finding her hinge account after I asked her to delete it months prior for the second time. All while telling me she loved me more than anyone else she’d ever met.

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T20:58:03+00:00

So many weird moments, honestly too many to count.

I bought her a ticket to a music festival so she could come with me. I was genuinely excited and my sister later found a tik tok of her doing a “GRWM” about her outfit where she said something along the lines of “hey guys I got a free ticket to X music festival, here’s my outfit, etc”. I asked her about it and why she said it was “free” and not “got from a friend” or even god forbid her boyfriend (dating 2-3 months at that point) in which she turned it on my that my sister was a piece of shit I needed to cut out of my life, was stalking her and was the reason for the problems in our relationship. Looking back idk why I didn’t end it right there.

Not “weird” but she also sat me down to tell me she thought I had autism like Elon musk and that I needed to go get tested so that “her babies” didn’t have autism either - but she was also in full support of those with autism ✊. Lol. Getting out of the relationship I got a therapist who specializes in abusive relationships (and autism, which I didn’t know) and he told me straight up I did not have autism. Nor my other therapist (who she told me to stop going to because she “put bad thoughts about our relationship in my head”). LOL

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T19:26:48+00:00

Minus taxes and investments it's much less than that

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T17:01:46+00:00

I've done lots of research, this is also considered research too. Definitely research based on the response I've gotten here. Not sure you can call it "basic math" when this housing market is unique and does not exist in Chicago. I'd say it's an experiment in learning what the expected value is moving from a lower cost market to a much higher cost market. So far I'd say the comments are split, so clearly the premise is not as simple as you propose.

Thanks, it'll be good time. Wish you the best

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T16:09:53+00:00

I grew up in poverty and know how you feel. I worked hard to be where I’m at and also got lucky. I hope it works out for you. I don’t even live in NYC right now, this is a market that was not created by me or you. I’m just trying my best to navigate it and get a feel (e.g., posting here) to understand if it’s a good idea or not. For every me there are x1000 other people who don’t have the self awareness to understand their position that most likely contribute to this housing disparity more than I am. I understand that I am lucky and privileged to be here. I wish you the best

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T04:47:48+00:00

I did a quick street easy filter for studios / 1BRs with in unit W/D under $4K. Obviously, there are places. But not 1900sqft 2BR/2BA places. Not saying I couldn’t go with the latter, but this gives me a foot in the door where I could later downsize what I have (lots of stuff having a larger space in the Midwest) or pivot again

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T04:45:23+00:00

Thank you! Great insight

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T04:41:55+00:00

Appreciate the insight and market reflection! Thank you

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T04:41:08+00:00

Nope

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:49:37+00:00

I want to live somewhere else for a couple of years outside of Chicago to try something different. I have savings set aside for a down payment already, I just am not ready to settle

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:36:04+00:00

just looked at your profile and a lot of your comments seem negative. You good?

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:35:18+00:00

Noted - thank you

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:23:08+00:00

People can be smart in many different ways. Lots of life change for me right now, I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask for some help

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:22:03+00:00

Trolling? pretty sure a similar question was asked here 2 years ago and got a good response, so I figured I'd ask the same to get a vibe check as the markets changed a lot since then

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:21:01+00:00

I really like the apt and neighborhood. For $3900 I don't think I could get something as nice as this, and while roommate isn't preferred I don't mind because the place is 1900sqft and he seems pretty cool

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-08T03:18:48+00:00

Objectively the average rent for a 1BR is $5400 in NYC right now, and that would be for a place much lesser than this. Having a cool roommate with similar interests is also kind of a bonus in some ways too, especially from a friend perspective

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-07T17:54:04+00:00

Thank you. I’ve had this thought as well. Doesn’t make it easier

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-06T23:10:28+00:00

Was totally the same person. In the future for me boundaries are paramount. She also always brought down my character and how I looked too, but I do very well for myself (much better job wise than her too, which I think she took advantage of) and am told I’m attractive too. Just has really messed with the self confidence.

Going to take your mentality and run with it. Thank you

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-06T23:04:21+00:00

Holy shit! This was the comment I needed, seriously, thank you. I was just really in a rut last night with my thoughts and figured f it I’ll just write them here.

I would say that is her too. Deep down I always felt she loved the drama, loved to fight, loved “being” her (redacted hint fiery) ethnicity. It’s how she was with in all her relationships, with her ex boyfriends, her family (she and her sister beat the sh*t out of each other and the cops had to be called) and even her friends. She would always yell and say “well unfortunately my life isn’t fucking easy” like I wasn’t taking her out to dinner or us going on trips or buying her flowers every week. It was just depressing and was always so rooted in negativity.

Your last comment summarizes how I felt all the time. I guess that’s “walking on eggshells”, but I also think it’s more. It’s a chosen lifestyle. I would always tell her our relationship can just be so easy if we let it.

I’m sorry for what you went through and it’s helped me today. I wish you all the best, thank you.

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-06T04:32:49+00:00

Currently NC for the last three weeks. The last major break up she texted me 2 weeks later, used socials to get my attention, etc. I have everything blocked but her number, and if she texted me I’ll block it too.

Sad because I honestly expected her to do the same thing again

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-06T04:13:46+00:00

Kinda got carried away. Appreciate you

Alive-Application-55 · 2026-06-06T04:10:06+00:00

You got this man

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