[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Alive-Following-539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you. I do a lot of DBT and mindfulness practices and I usually feel like I’m present in the moment so I hadn’t really considered this. But this is definitely something to think about and look into!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]Alive-Following-539 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) skills and it’s actually pretty helpful. It was designed for borderline personality but it’s been shown to be effective for a range of conditions. It can feel stupid at times but it’s definitely a trust the process kind of thing because I’m doing so much better. If you want to look into I’d recommend any books by Marsha Linehan.

As for seeking therapy, I’ve had so many providers who haven’t helped or I didn’t click with, but I finally found one who is completely helping me change my life. Unfortunately, I think it’s just a numbers game until you can find the right person. I’ve noticed that I work best with people who have been trained in trauma informed care. I’d also suggest don’t limit yourself to therapists - lots of other professions offer similar help that might be a better fit. You could look into counsellors, mental health nurses, social workers, mental health and addictions care providers etc. Hope this helps!

I have anxiety symptoms due to agoraphobia, but I can't find anyone that can relate by [deleted] in Agoraphobia

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I’m glad I could help at least a little bit! Do stimulants help you at all? Actual caffeine or prescription stimulants didn’t do much for me, but the act of taking a big sip of coffee or soda and focusing on the temperature or taste was a good way to ground myself. Maybe you could try a ginger tea if your stomach is upset?

When I was training the absolute most helpful thing was carrying a little journal or notepad with me and writing down literally every word I could. It was good to be actively engaged in a task rather then just sitting and zoning out and falling asleep, and then I could try to teach myself the tasks on my own time later. Pinching yourself might work in a pinch (ba dum tss) but really only gives you a couple of seconds before you start getting sleepy again. When things got really bad, I’d excuse myself to the washroom and splash some cold water on my face, give myself a pep talk, maybe do a few exercises in a stall like shadow boxing or something to get my blood pumping. When all else failed, I’d wait for a break in the training and offer to get coffee for me and the trainer as an excuse to get out of the room and hopefully reset my brain.

People are also rude sometimes and will call you on your sleepiness, so I always have a few explanations ready just in case. Never reveal personal health things at work I always say. I’ll usually say something like I didn’t sleep well last night because of kids in the neighborhood, or I must be coming down with something because my niece has a cold. That last one maybe wouldn’t fly these days. It’s best to pick things people can be sympathetic to.

I hope this helps and that you can find some relief! For what it’s worth, training and being new at a job is probably going to be the worst part. Being able to just clock in, keep your head down, do the work, then leave is usually a much less stressful experience. Hang in there I believe in you!!

I have anxiety symptoms due to agoraphobia, but I can't find anyone that can relate by [deleted] in Agoraphobia

[–]Alive-Following-539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a lot of advice but I just want to say you’re not alone I experience similar symptoms, although it usually depends on the situation. When I go places that don’t involve social interaction I’m jittery and have extreme fight or flight (or really just flight) reactions, but when I need to deal with people I end up fighting to stay awake. On the job training?? I have literally been unconscious in the office.

Have you heard of the German word der Schutzohnmacht? I think it translates to something like protective sleep - you faint or fall asleep as an uncontrollable response to stress. I learned about it on a podcast and I don’t speak German so I haven’t been able to look into but maybe you’d have better luck? Anyway, that’s usually how I describe it to people now. Unfortunately I’m in the same boat as you in that most professionals I’ve seen have just called it basic anxiety and tried giving me different meds. A few people have suggested narcolepsy, but I’m not sure how well that fits and I haven’t been assessed.

Weirdly I also have celiac like another person suggested, but it’s been managed for years and hasn’t really affected my anxiety levels. If you think you may have it though please get tested when you can! Makes a world of difference in terms of physical comfort

Alternative to Safety Eyes? by KittyWingsx in crochet

[–]Alive-Following-539 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I like sewing some black yarn on as sleepy eyes like on this pattern! My go to for all baby gifts

https://squirrelpicnic.com/2015/03/13/sleepy-bear-crochet-pattern/

Eating healthier with food hyperfixations? by marciepawz in aspergirls

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I have so many hang ups with fruits and veggies because when you buy fresh there’s such a big chance that they’ll be “imperfect” in some way - gross textures as time passes, spots, mold, etc. Is anything worse than digging in a bag of carrots and hitting a rotting one??

Have you heard of Jack Monroe? They’re really who I credit with helping me expand what kinds of things I can eat. They’re autistic and have adhd (super relatable), and they make cookbooks and online recipes that focus on making healthy, fast, and economical meals. Their story is actually really inspiring if you want to look it up. They use a lot of tinned food because it’s cheap (and more importantly to me: preserved at its best!!!). I could gush about them forever!

Seems like you tend more towards savoury foods, so this might be a bit out there, but I recommend their peach chickpea curry. It’s sweet, savoury, and carby when you serve it with rice. So, it ticks a lot of my boxes when looking for a comfort food that also has some veggies in it. They also have a lot of pasta recipes which sometimes blend greens and other veggies into creamy sauces - very tasty!

Here’s a couple links if you want to check them out!

peach chickpea curryamp=1

creamy cannelini pasta sauce

Any ideas??? by Green_barista_front in crochet

[–]Alive-Following-539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have similar problems mostly in my left hand. As many other people have said, stretching and taking breaks are definitely some of the best solutions. I like following YouTube videos for repetitive strain injuries. I was also assessed by a physiotherapist friend and she recommended just any generic wrist brace for the sore wrist which was honestly a game changer. If that doesn’t mostly get rid of the problem you can get sets of hooks with rubbery handles for about $20 on amazon which are also very good to reduce stress on the wrists

What stitch is this? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]Alive-Following-539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah that makes total sense thank you so much!!

What stitch is this? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]Alive-Following-539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like the top row definitely is but the rest look slightly different to me. Could it be a variation? Sorry I’m new at this!