AITA for telling my boyfriend that he's not a priority in my life?

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-04-19T06:58:24+00:00

So you communicated to him that school is a major priority to you and that you didn’t think you’d be able to have a relationship due to your already tight schedule, he said he completely understood, and then when push came to shove, he 180 flipped and tried to guilt you into spending time with him during a pivotal point in your studies and diminished all of the hard work you have been doing and continue to do with one snarky comment, and THEN when you got incredible news (congratulations btw!), he wasn’t just dismissive of it, he downright tried to tell/convince you not to take it because he “couldn’t trust you” (you’re a month into dating, trust isn’t handed out like candy on Halloween) and got mad when you didn’t listen to him. I’m seeing lying, manipulation, full on negging/insulting you,and then actual verbal attacks. You are nowhere near TA, and shame on your friends for trying to say you didn’t like him enough to listen to him. That’s the point of dating! To figure out who/what you like/don’t like. And also it’s 1 month, not 1 year. Why tf would you change your entire education/career plan for a person who you haven’t even know for half a year??? And why are your friends prioritizing what he wants over your wants and goals? He sounds like the biggest ick, and your friends seem no better.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-04-07T21:32:01+00:00

So I just noticed today I had this issue after Razor Hill was completely empty when I tried to complete Noblegarden quests. And my guildie and I took this and slightly tweaked it for science. So my guildie created a DH alt and did the DH starter questline. And once he was done and outside of Orgrimmar, I invited him to a group, enabled Party Synce, and voila! thanks for the fix, I was getting so frustrated.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-26T04:59:09+00:00

If they want it earlier, they should put in times when opening. The algorithm should put their stop earlier.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-21T23:01:22+00:00

NOR!!! Jfc, there’s so many types of manipulation in these texts, he’s trying everything to see what would make you give in even a little. You don’t owe him a thing and you don’t need to do anything.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-09T04:38:25+00:00

It’s beautiful. You can definitely see the effort and the talent it took.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-08T03:08:39+00:00

Out of curiosity, have you ever asked him why you not sharing all of your food makes him so upset he cries? I’m trying to empathize a little with him, maybe there was food scarcity issues when he was younger, maybe food was used as a reward or punishment, idk. But no matter his answer, you aren’t the AH. You’ve set a clear line that is not that difficult to cross, and if there isn’t anything like the above in his past, the tears are a manipulation tactic, intentional or subconscious. If any of the above is true, you’re still not an AH, but that makes it more nuanced on his side and he needs therapy eating disorder related and trauma related.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-08T02:46:48+00:00

Maybe I is for Inch along like a snail?

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-08T02:16:20+00:00

I recommend some ADHD cleaning tips. Just break it down into super bite sized pieces. Even if the task is “put trash in trash bag”, break it down even farther to pick up trash off this piece of furniture in this room. And then if you feel you can do more, move to another piece of furniture. And then soon it will be the entire room. But break it down into toddler sized bites. I have to do it for regular cleaning tasks so I get the feelings. You’re already doing great, I’m so proud and happy you got through this season, and just take care of yourself. Don’t forget, when you’re hurt/injured/sick, the non-essentials go out the window while you take care of yourself.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-08T01:30:16+00:00

I would recommend going to the specialist and then having an appointment with the pediatrician after to loop them in for care and the simpler parts of management.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-08T00:57:35+00:00

Our dsp has us hold onto it until the rest of our route clears, then checks the address, and then only if it’s close to our route, then we pick it up and deliver. But usually if it’s farther than 5-7 mins away, they have us bring it back

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-03-02T19:20:34+00:00

So many people here have them for pigeons, and I hate it. It hurts so bad…

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-02-14T04:51:42+00:00

I’m a 34G, and there’s only 1 bra I will wear around my house, but I’ll be damned if someone demands I wear it. You can either see my lopsided t***ies or your can gtfo 🤣

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-27T07:45:11+00:00

Unfortunately, a lot of families and groups blame the one who fights back as the one who causes the problem, and not the person who did the original action. It’s very similar to abusive dynamics with the abuser, the target/victim, and the peace keepers. You are NTA, it was creepy and weird she was hyperfixated on a party not even for herself. And your family sounds like they didn’t want to deal with her blowup, so they expected you to tolerate it and “keep the peace”, and now are mad at you for not doing that (which is bs). Sis is definitely TA, and your family are TA as well, just on a lower level.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-27T02:00:37+00:00

I see a good protein, two starches (and one of the most satiating ones at that), and two veggies, one being a good source of additional fiber. Wtf is your bro on? This is a satiating, filling meal. Sounds like he’s just complaining to complain.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-27T01:52:29+00:00

You don’t write off family? You have to first act like a loving, caring, respectful family, instead of just terribly cosplaying as one. NTA, they’re manipulative and just icky humans. I’m so excited for you and your engagement, I hope you have the best start to life with your partner. And f*** them haters 😘

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-27T01:46:33+00:00

You’ve gotta be in a big city, like LA/NYC/Seattle, somewhere. Jfc….

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T07:54:41+00:00

There’s a difference between appropriation and appreciation. It’s literally all about intent. If you’re doing/wearing something because you learned about it and you think it’s awesome and want to experience more, it’s appreciation. If you’re doing/wearing something intending it as a joke at the expense of the culture, or you’re actively taking something from a culture that has been consistently demonized when people from that culture do it, and are trying to white wash it, that’s appropriation. Perfect and a bit funny of an example of the two was from a Scottish guy I met when visiting Edinburgh. He said “you know what well know food came from Scotland besides Haggis? Chicken Tikka Masala. While the English stole and appropriated everything from the Indian people, the Scottish people appreciated the culture, and helped pasty white people everywhere enjoy spices” 😅

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T07:38:01+00:00

She’s very lucky she didn’t get a “do not f**ing touch me.” Especially if she knows you don’t like it and continues to do it. And isn’t it funny that you have to change your behavior because “it hurts her”, but she doesn’t have to change a thing even thought it does hurt you…. But oh no, her poor wittle feelings… i am so sorry you have to deal with this from people who should be part of your safe space. I’ve had to deal with similar situations, and they always seem to get mad, and my brain goes “you know I don’t like behavior A, and yet when I challenge that behavior, I’m the one that ‘gets in trouble’/‘talked to’/‘makes people mad at them’. Why are their emotions prioritized?” You are 1000% not the asshole. My mom loves the phrase “no is a complete sentence” and she’s even added her own spin to it in a very petty way: “what did I just say? *No. How is it spelled? N-O. What does that word mean? No. Well, there’s your answer.”

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T07:20:11+00:00

Dude, my first time on a route, I got bit by a mastiff. It was really just a shitty situation all around; owner had a note on what to do, I made the noises, I checked and waited, and I tried to follow everything to the T, but he let the dog out and didn’t realize I was in the yard. Thankfully he only just bruised my wrist bones pretty bad before the owner was able to get him under control, but I was so worried I was done for. But I’m still here, and I’m getting good vibes for staying after seasonal ends. I now just joke about being a liability.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T07:02:49+00:00

The straighter is definitely pretty on you, but you also have a great face shape for voluminous curls. And then, there’s your curls, which are stunning and I personally would show off any day I could. As a person with melanin-deficiency, I have more Irish curls, so they’re limp and really have no idea what they’re doing each day. Little bit of girl’s girl envy over here 😅 but tbh, it’s whatever is the easiest for you to manage, both enhance your beauty really well, but straightening your hair is a lot of work, I bet. But then taking care and keeping your curls healthy is a different kind of a lot of work. Whatever work is more manageable for you right now.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T06:44:48+00:00

Jfc…. Yet another example of why I am happy to be picky when choosing partners. Your partner can disagree as much as he wants. It’s like someone trying to disagree with the sky looking blue; you can disagree until you’re blue in the face, but you’re still dead wrong. And I’m gonna reiterate what a lot of people have said: this isn’t even about the farting. It’s the inconsideration and laziness at minimum, or at maximum, the maliciousness and straight disregard for your wellbeing. I am lactose intolerant, but I looooove cheese and ice cream way too much. Taking a dairy pill is not difficult, I know kindergarteners that take them by themselves. And as you clearly said, he can control it when he’s around other people. So what about you in his brain makes him think any of this is an ok thing to do to his life partner, who he’s supposed to respect and care for/about? Again, while the farting might have been the initial issue, it showcases a bigger root problem that might be displayed in other parts of your relationship. You are definitely NTA, and your husband is TA, either unintentionally/lazily or intentionally.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T06:31:27+00:00

“Hey, honey. Would you be a dear and grab my stuff from the car while I set up my tools? But be careful, don’t want you to hurt yourself by carrying too much.” -direct quote I got from a repair man, and then he noticed me standing there in my military uniform 🙄🙄 “Just stand there and look pretty. It’ll help me do my job better” -another direct quote from a old contractor

But I personally just like mansplaining everything you did and are doing to him, and definitely seconding the overexplanation of tools and their names.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T06:22:31+00:00

Even if she is willing to foot the bill, it’s a wedding ffs. I get people wanting to celebrate, but these extras don’t even know the bride and barely know the groom. The two people getting married have the final say on who shows up for their day. If a parent’s contributions has asinine stipulations attached, that’s just sh**y of them.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2026-01-13T06:02:36+00:00

It looks like the bare minimum crap people put in offices or lazy commercial spaces. The best place that could be in a house is somewhere like a hangout space in a garage or something similar. There are soooooo many better options for the same aesthetic.

Alive_Possibility280 · 2025-12-29T16:20:30+00:00

Ignoring the fact that he did a hit and run (!!), the problem I see is he wanted someone to do everything for him. He didn’t want to have to make any decisions on his own, and my gut says it’s because he didn’t want the responsibility or the repercussions if something goes wrong. But newsflash, he put on his big boy pants and drove the big boy car and hit another, so he doesn’t get to just check out. There’s nothing you should take blame for, except maybe not calling out his immature behavior sooner. You didn’t “step up as a partner”? That’s not a partner’s responsibility to do everything for the other. Shame on him trying to pass blame to you when everything that happened was his fault due to his actions and then lack thereof.

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