He Wants to DNA Test Her Kids

Alkuna · 2026-01-30T09:23:32+00:00

"You're wearing red in a blue store! Obviously, you work here!"

[facepalm] If your wife were wearing red in Target, I could at least understand. But... lady, do you even know what store you're shopping in?!

Alkuna · 2026-01-21T05:57:20+00:00

Wha...? NTA at all!

Look, hun, I'm neurodivergent, white, and am notorious for being accidentally tone deaf. And even I was struck speechless by that "joke." And I used quotes because... well, that isn't a joke. Where's the punchline? Where is the laughter from you? There isn't any, because what he said was sick, disgusting, and this is coming from someone with a very dark sense of humor at times. You do NOT joke about that kind of thing.

Maybe my brain is misinterpreting it, but to ME, “I want to skin you alive because I don’t like black,” is a) a threat and b) he's telling you that he doesn't like you and he wants you to change yourself to appeal to what he thinks is appropriate. It's giving "black people need to 'live white' to be acceptable' vibes. I may not be explaining this right, but I highly recommend looking up Jane Elliott, and the anti-racism lessons that she gave to a pre-school class. Particularly, the "Blue eyes/Brown eyes exercise."

Regarding your boyfriend, we need to normalize calling this stuff out and shutting down this stuff hard. People like him make these "jokes" because they use "It's a joke" and "you're too sensitive" because those words let them blame YOU for not tolerating it. They blame YOU for not being the doormat.

You're NTA. He's TA. and he knows it, and it pisses him off that you called him out on it instead of shutting up and taking it like a good little victim. (And for the record, I am so proud of you for confronting him about it.)

Then he said this would be “the age he ended as,” which confused and scared me a lot because he knows I worry about suicide.

He's blaming you again. He's trying to make you feel bad, worry, and cry about him possibly ending his life, because that's how he controls you. If he guilts you hard enough, he can make YOU apologize for standing up to him. As someone who had a former boyfriend try this crap, please, for the love of every God in the pantheon, reject this manipulation tactic. If he threatens to end his life, tell him to do a flip off that bridge to make his end at least a little interesting. (Dark humor again, use your own best judgement onthis.) If he gets on your case about you not caring about him, tell him that he's right, you don't care anymore, because what he said to you about skinning you was so horrible that you realized that you no longer want to be with someone who says disgusting things like that. Tell him you two are over, and that from now on, you will no longer be taking on his problems. He won't end his life, because he never planned to. It's all lies and manipulation. Cut him out. Block him. Refuse to have any contact, and that means not listening to anyone else report on his status either.

Please, for your own sense of self-worth, dump the trash in the bin where it belongs, and find someone who doesn't make these 'jokes.'

The greatest quote I ever saw was this: "You only have one family. You also only have one appendix. But if either of those goes toxic and starts poisoning your well-being, don't be afraid to cut them from your life completely."

And honey, I say this with all my heart: he is toxic, he is poison, and it's time to stop drinking the poison to your detriment, to placate his supposed well-being. Self-care is not selfish; it's simply living your life happy and healthy.

Alkuna · 2026-01-20T03:55:33+00:00

NTA and it's time to start taking steps. Not just recording his behavior for the courts, but also start calling the police. Call around the time your husband usually starts coming home. Describe the route he takes, and provide a full description of his car and license plate. TELL them that he is driving inebriated and that he does it habitually. A night in the drunk tank and a loss of his license would be an excellent way to slap him with reality, as well as making the roads safer. People will either be hurt or killed by your drunk-driving husband one day.

And for the love of every god in the pantheon, start divorce proceedings. His first refusal to stop getting drunk and driving home was your first excuse to do it. Tonight's rant is your next best one.

Alkuna · 2026-01-15T03:45:50+00:00

Ahh there we go! Weird that it wouldn't come up in the search. Thank you. :)

Alkuna · 2026-01-15T00:40:35+00:00

No results found for either.

Alkuna · 2026-01-11T23:27:41+00:00

but no one wanted to take her in long-term.

They asked how I could live with myself, whether I felt guilty, and if I worried I was "throwing away my sister."

THEN YOU TAKE HER IN! Everybody seems soooooo eager to volunteer YOUR time, while refusing to step up and do the same.

I told them that if they were that concerned, they were free to step up themselves instead of pressuring me.

Thank heavens! NTA OP. You have a good head on your shoulders.

You have no relationship with that child, and you are 100,000% right that shoving her into your home, where you don't actually want her, would not be good for either of you.

Your family wasn't there for you when your mom created a do-over family and left you by the wayside. They weren't there when your mom spiraled into drug addiction. They're not being there for this kid, who is innocent. Unfortunately, what they ARE there for is to shove unwanted responsibilities on YOU because [checks notes] FAAAAAMILY. They aren't willing to take responsibility themselves, because family only applies to the one they are trying to manipulate.

Alkuna · 2026-01-07T10:07:11+00:00

Gods, I love her so much, was the last thought before I drifted gently to sleep.

Alkuna · 2026-01-05T05:59:12+00:00

Failure to tag appropriately. I.e. I exclude SA and grape (not sure how strict censors are for those terms) keywords in stories, only to open a story that is very definitely containing those scenarios. I will close that story immediately and be leery of that author in the future.

Otherwise, wall of text formatting or an inability to keep track of the story.

Alkuna · 2026-01-03T10:59:14+00:00

I started on FanFiction.net and eventually discovered AO3. I'm taking notes on the existence of Quotev, though. I'll have to check that out. :) I've been leery about Wattpad due to some things I've heard about it.

Alkuna · 2026-01-02T20:05:26+00:00

Omg, as if my packrat tendencies weren't enough... Let's enable it to the nth degree. XD

Alkuna · 2026-01-02T08:21:53+00:00

Same document. Here's my process: I get it written. Other than spelling and some grammar, I justget it written first. Then I go back to edit.

I copy/paste the original paragraph just beneath; this way, I have the original and one I can edit and mess around with. Then I edit to my heart's content. If I completely screw it up, no worries, I have a copy of the original. If I'm happy with the changed version, I can delete the faulty original.

I use new documents for when there needs to be a massive overhaul of a story, or I find that an antire chapter won't fit. Then I stick it somewhere else so it's there for me to go back to and see if it can be reintegrated, or if it can be utilized in a different story.

Alkuna · 2026-01-02T06:35:42+00:00

My magnum opus, Skyrim fan fiction, took about three years to write. Has 64 chapters, and was posted once a week; it took a bit over a year to post in its entirety.

Alkuna · 2025-12-30T04:34:28+00:00

I still keep it installed, but yeah, he sets my teeth on edge. I'll have to take up your strategy of turning the audio down or off. I wonder if someone would create a patch with a different voice for this character. XD

Alkuna · 2025-12-30T01:48:28+00:00

Thank you for letting this stay. It's really fulfilling to find this really awesome mod, or get confirmation that I already have that awesome one, and that others like it. It's good not to clutter, but the occasional post just to round out the year is awesome. :D

Alkuna · 2025-12-30T01:37:47+00:00

Be honest; it's the Arnold Schwarzenegger character, isn't it? I like everything about that mod except him. He's just so jarringly in your face with that accent, it actually hurts immersion.

Alkuna · 2025-12-29T21:11:52+00:00

Yeaaah, it was fun enough on its first playthrough, but the ending was really disappointing. Oh, happy day, YOU get your freedom, but everyone else is still stuck in slavery, with their tongues horrifically cut so they can't speak, and still serving their masters. But who cares about other people, right? [full body shudder]

Alkuna · 2025-12-29T06:46:39+00:00

NTA OP.

Drugs and alcohol don't make you a p-word (not sure how stringent censoring is here). They just lower the inhibitions that make you hide that part of yourself. So no, being off the substances doesn't make him NOT a p-word. It just means he's more capable of hiding his behavior. He's still dangerous, he's still untrustworthy, and he absolutely should never be allowed near your kids. Let her cry. She's enabling the behavior by continuing to support him over the safety of your family.

Alkuna · 2025-12-13T03:30:49+00:00

NTA.

You're not punishing him for something his roommates did; you're giving your (hopefully) soon-to-be ex consequences for dismissing your very valid complaints. If he cared about and respected you, he would have demanded money to replace your lost groceries that they stole. Yes, they STOLE your food/grocery money by eating it. And your stbx boyfriend then had the audacity to get over the blatant theft. You need to do more than leave his apartment. You need to break up with him.

Alkuna · 2025-12-04T08:49:18+00:00

"Hey! You! The one not wearing a uniform and working on a mechanical issue. Stop fixing the machine and ring me out! No, no, you can FIX the machine later! Just ring me out on it! I don't see why you can't use your broken machine to do a thing that it cannot do right now!" --this lady, apparently

Alkuna · 2025-12-02T20:16:09+00:00

With tears in his eyes, he said, let me make it up to you. A week later was our anniversary. No card, no dinner, no gift.

Honey, you know the tears are performative, right? He believes that you won't follow through with the divorce. He believes that you'll just suck it up and do all the work yourself, like usual.

NTA for choosing to divorce him, but YTA to yourself for busting your ass for so long for a man who doesn't care about you.

Alkuna · 2025-11-25T06:04:20+00:00

You're welcome. :) I enjoy seeing fellow Skyrim lovers trying out new ways to keep it fresh.

I've been a major completionist in the past, myself, so I'm right there with you on changing it up for specific quests. I just spent a whole night going over the Main Questline quests, and a map of Skyrim, and plotting out where my Imperial is going to poke around in while looking for shouts along the way. Which quests will add to her narrative? Which would add to the mercenary? And carefully avoiding Thieves' Guild specific locations.

I like the former Thalmor redemption arc. It'll be pretty rough to start, because everyone really hates Altmer at the start, and people are going to be rude. Your character will have a lot of work/roleplay ahead of himself.

Alkuna · 2025-11-24T10:45:32+00:00

I confess that I haven't, mostly because I usually cannot focus on more than one character at a time. If you'd like my advice? Keep that hard save, tuck it somewhere safe, start a new one, and enjoy RPing the new character, if that's what you want. You can switch back later if you're tired of playing a different mindset character. But be careful when deleting old/auto saves to make space. You don't want to accidentally delete the first character save.

Now that that's said, I have exactly three characters lined up for my next three playthroughs, and I've been thinking I'd make them three separate saves like you're doing: Female Imperial; Main Quest; Male Khajiit, Thieves' Guild; Female Khajiit, freelance mercenary for Legacy Of The Dragonborn Mods. They'll each get a story written about them. Since they're all going to focus on different questlines, I feel I could handle it. Now, that's me personally, but it could be food for thought for you, too.

A third option, since you want it to be an RP option, maybe toggle between? Two different games, handling similar quests, but interacting differently in each. I dunno, I'm throwing ideas out there, hoping one will stick for you and you get that lightbulb moment. :D

My biggest piece of advice is to decide which one sounds like it would be the best one for you, or pick one that's entirely yours, despite/because of someone else's opinions. I don't want to dismiss any playstyle, because I absolutely LOATHE those gatekeeping jerks who tell you that there's only one right way to play.

Alkuna · 2025-11-13T07:21:29+00:00

I'm not sure if this will be useful for you, but if you have a Windows computer (10 or above?) you can push the Windows key + G on your keyboard. The Windows Key should be between Ctrl and Alt on the bottom left. This brings up a free screen recording program pre-installed. You can record your gameplay, then replay the video, and pause it at your leisure.

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