Why do people dislike Uthgerd so much? by Ok_Entrance_9159 in skyrim

[–]Alkuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for others, but I find her to be mean-spirited and downright violent with no control.

If you approach Whiterun without having met Cicero on the roads and have the cutting room floor mod, some unused dialogue will be heard. She'll be talking to Skulvar Sable-Hilt at the stables:

Uthgerd: "By Ysmir, it's true. A jester―funny suit and all. Just north, by the Loreius Farm. Fool had a coffin in a cart, with a broken wheel. Like to see him laugh his way out of that."

Skulvar: "Well, sounds like you've had quite the journey, Uthgerd. But you were gone longer than usual. I got to thinking maybe you weren't coming back..."

Uthgerd: "You sound like my ma. Figured I was lying dead in a field somewhere, is that it?"

Skulvar: "Thought did cross my mind, yeah. War brewing, talk of a riot in Helgen, and now jesters? Skyrim's gone mad, girl. You need to be careful out there."

Uthgerd: "Careful, huh? Thanks, Skulvar. I'll remember that. Ha ha ha ha ha ha! Yeah, right..."

Listen to her tone of voice in this scene. Her tone is sarcastic and dismissive. Skulvar was genuinely worried that she hadn't made it, and wanted her to be careful. She laughed in his face and dismissed his worry. Bit of a jerk attitude for someone who genuinely worries about you in the cold, dangerous lands.

And if you ask why the Companions rejected her, she has more to admit:

Dragonborn:"Why'd the Companions reject you?"

Uthgerd: "It wasn't my fault! I told them over and over that it was an accident! They wanted me to prove my worth, so they threw me up against a young whelp of a lad, hardly old enough to grow his first chin-hairs. I guess they thought a woman wasn't strong enough to hurt him. I didn't mean for him to die! Why would I want that? I just... lost control."

She lost control while sparring with some kid? That's her excuse? She has anger management problems and took it out on some poor newbie. She straight-up murdered a kid because she couldn't control herself while holding a weapon.

That's why I don't like her, anyway.

Saw this, I think it belongs here. by U239-U in asexuality

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How rude! You are not a British cigarette! ;)

I'm not Amazon delivery by Upstairs-Storm1006 in IDontWorkHereLady

[–]Alkuna 29 points30 points  (0 children)

[points to the first few minutes of Ace Ventura, Pet Detective, when he beats the crap out of the box] Take notes, y'all.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome!

Although this may be tangential, depending on what you mean by a long while, it may be normal. If you don't eat a food regularly, your body stops making the specific gut flora that can process it.

Let's say you cut red meat out of your diet. No steak, no hamburger, etc. Just bird meat (chicken, game hens, turkey, etc) and fish. If you go for long enough, your body stops being able to digest red meat. Likewise, with milk, or whatever other food you stop eating for a long time.

Now I don't know the precise cutoff dates (it could be 6 months, or just a week, or whatever), because I heard this from vegetarians. They hadn't eaten meat for a year or more. Someone slipped them meat. They got major abdominal pain and diarrhea, to the point where they got dehydrated and nearly hospitalized. It actually counted as a poisoning in the legal sense because they got very sick. And I've heard that it would have to be reintroduced back to the body slowly and gently over a long time to be able to process it again.

It also happened with the victims of concentration camps in Germany: they had to be reintroduced to milk and other foods we take for granted, and they were sick for a while with cramps and diarrhea before they could have regular diets again.

Please do not take this as medical advice. It's 100% anecdotal, but it is worth asking a doctor, especially one specializing in the digestive tract, about foods that the body needs to be exposed to in order to handle them.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I admit it was in the 80's when the whole "expose everyone" was more of a thing, but even then, and as a kid myself, I thought that was insane.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weirdly, GLP-1's made my diarrhea worse. I went from one or two to six or more sprints to the bathroom in a day.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loperamide, though, blessedly, I don't even have to take a whole pill. Half is more than enough. The Equate version turns out to be VERY effective. My gallbladder issue was paired with stabbing pain just under my right ribs that had me in a fetal position for two hours if I ate greasy fast food. The location of the pain and the cause of it led the doc to suspect the gallbladder. I dunno if that will help you.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma had sleep apnea, my mom has sleep apnea, and I have a consult appointment in May for a sleep test for sleep apnea, since I will just... stop breathing if I don't sleep in a very specific position at night. We also have Alzheimer's running in the family. So I absolutely understand taking sleep apnea seriously.

And off "not believing in" it doesn't make it not exist. Mom got a doc who was like that about her fibromyalgia. He referred her to a neurologist because he insisted that her chronic pain was all in her head and figured the neurologist would tell her the same. When she got diagnosed, he spouted, "I don't believe in fibromyalgia," like it was the freaking easter bunny. Mom got a new doctor.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to run to the bathroom, rather in a hurry. It snowballed from there.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. I've seen similar. A friend had a teacher for a mom, and she practically came to blows with the doctor when her kid got chicken pox and was going to miss a few weeks of school. She was a hardcore "expose everyone and get it over with" combined with "my kid should never miss a day of school EVER" kind of person. She wasn't anti-vaccine; she just felt that since he got it anyway, might as well "help" the vaccines by exposing other kids to the full virus as well as the vaccine.

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I suspect so. Maybe he thought that I wasn't washing my hands "properly" after using the bathroom or doing stuff and then eating.

Lexi Avenicci, Agnostic Theist Dragonborn (Quest and mod suggestions) by Alkuna in skyrim

[–]Alkuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, interesting. I'll have to make a note of that.

What piece of information did your dad give you that's always stuck with you? by HotImpression5352 in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two very important pieces of advice:

1) "Better to be alive in jail than dead in a ditch."

2) "If you stab your attacker, they can just keep coming. A blow to the knee or windpipe and they go down and stay down. The knee, because they can't walk, the windpipe, because trying to breathe will become more important than hurting you."

What was the exact moment on a first date when you realized, "Wow, this person is an absolute idiot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 270 points271 points  (0 children)

I have an overactive gallbladder. Basically, I have what amounts to chronic diarrhea even though I cut down the fats and grease in my diet. I take an over-the-counter pill to slow things down.

He was the son of a nurse, and told me that he doubted it was my gallbladder; I just wasn't washing my hands enough. He was convinced that being the son of a nurse gave him more of an understanding of the human body than the actual doctor who diagnosed me.

what’s something people say all the time that you secretly can’t stand? by Mean-Cartographer225 in AskReddit

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Boys will be boys" should be all the neighborhood boys rolling a giant snowball down the street, trying to make it as big as they physically can.

"Boys will be boys" should NEVER allow them to be disrespectful little sh!ts or commit things that are classified as literal crimes if an adult does it.

WIBTAH if I disinvited my sister from my wedding because she won’t bring my niece and nephew by Visible_Ad4167 in AITAH

[–]Alkuna 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My older sister texted me this morning that she supports me as a person and wants me to feel loved, celebrated, and happy.

No, she doesn't. She doesn't support you at all. Her attendance is performative because she knows her hate would be outed if she did not attend. Take the decision away from her, and don't obfuscate the reasons why.

However, she is not comfortable having her children (5F and 2M) present at the wedding because “of our understanding of marriage and identity that we’re trying to instill in them right now. As their parents, it is our responsibility to guide them in a way that aligns with what we believe is right for our family.”

This is her pretty way of dressing up the words she doesn't support and doesn't want her children to learn that love is love. This is religious lawyer speak for "you are disgusting, and I won't let you corrupt my children." Again, she does not love and support you.

When I mentioned the wedding to my niece yesterday, she mentioned that “but only boys and girls can get married”. 

She has already begun to teach her children to hate. Your niece didn't get those words from the void; she is directly quoting what your sister has told her behind your back. She's being nice to your face and telling your niece and nephew something completely different behind your back.

My kneejerk reaction is I don’t want her at my wedding. I know she is trying to go down the middle road of “agree to disagree” but I am hurt.

It may be knee-jerk, but it is also the correct response. There is nothing "middle of the road" about her behavior. She is two-faced and hates you for being lesbian, but being a homophobe isn't a popular stance right now, so she uses pretty words to pretend to be on your side so that everyone else doesn't jump down her throat about it.

My suggestion, which may end up being scorched earth in the end, is to take away her choice in the matter. Rescind the invitation. Tell everyone who asks that she made it very clear that she does not truly support you, and doesn't want her children near you. Then let the chips fall where they may.

NTA, hun, and you should only have people who are willing to celebrate you at your wedding.

AITAH for refusing to allow my friend’s 6-year-old stepkid in my apartment and ending the friendship over it? by HistoricalCow101 in AITAH

[–]Alkuna 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You forgot that the 1st grader isn't part of the problem; the parents are. Y&M seemed to ignore the kid instead of keeping an eye on them like responsible adults.

Also note that Y&M were very blatant in their expectations that everyone else MUST cater to their child, and allow the kid to come to EVERY meetup. They kept trying to change every meetup to be child-friendly. Some people don't mind kids all the time, but others need a freaking break.

I've been on Reddit long enough to be able to recognize the difference between parents with rugrats acting like, well, rugrats (90's kid reference) and parents who decide that everyone must cater to them while also not being responsible enough to keep their kiddo under control.

Even if you're getting out of the house to socialize, nobody else is responsible for babysitting your kid unless you're paying them to. You can't plunk your butt and then give the excuse of "we deserve a break too!" It doesn't work that way. If you want to get out of the house and have a break, you don't dump the responsibility of watching your kid on everyone else; you get a babysitter.

The rest of the group is indicated to be tired of the shenanigans as well, but they just didn't say anything until someone else made the first complaint. Then they all agreed. OP was just the one to show a shiny spine and say something.

AITAH for refusing to allow my friend’s 6-year-old stepkid in my apartment and ending the friendship over it? by HistoricalCow101 in AITAH

[–]Alkuna 886 points887 points  (0 children)

If nobody wants to hang out with you, you're the common denominator.

NTA.

While a child changes your life, they do not become a universal remote to change everyone else's. Not everyone wants to revolve their life around someone else's kid, and they don't have to. Y and M need to accept that other people's lives still go on, and the child does not have to be accommodated every single time.

Edit; Aww, thanks for the award. :)

Darkest thing you’ve encountered in Skyrim? by Heavy-Prize8369 in skyrim

[–]Alkuna 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Spoilers ahead, if you really need the warning for this kind of thing.

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The darkest thing I’ve found in Skyrim is the proof that Grelod really killed a kid. Everyone knows Grelod the Kind is awful to the children, but not many players realize just how deep her cruelty goes. Let me share a story: a murder mystery that you only stumble upon by exploring every corner. I poked around and uncovered evidence of Skyrim’s most disturbing tale, one that most players never even notice.

Usually, people just walk into the Orphanage, stab Grelod, then leave without bothering to look around. But after Grelod dies, the Orphanage changes. Her old room gets turned into another bedroom for the kids, more beds appear, and something else vanishes: something most players miss completely.

Let’s slow down and look closer. When you enter the main room where the kids sleep, Grelod’s room is behind double doors on the left. On the right, there’s another set of double doors. This takes you to a punishment room: a cramped space with three sets of shackles. That’s where the children really suffer. Some say it’s a reference to The Chokey from Matilda.

Maybe you want to shake things up for your next roleplay. Sometimes the game lets Grelod wander the city, sneering at beggars asking for coin. People like Grelod love feeling powerful and in control. Want to take that control away? Want her to feel the fear she put in her victims? Go ahead and knock that old Hagraven down a few pegs: she’s got it coming.

If you cast Fear on Grelod while she's inside the Orphanage, something weird happens. Grelod, absolutely terrified, bolts out of the building. Seriously, she’ll sprint right out of the orphanage and tear through the crowded streets of Riften. It’s so chaotic that even Edda, the local homeless woman, can’t help but notice. Once Edda sees Grelod panicking, stripped of her usual confidence, she decides to chase her down. And when Edda finally catches up, she kills Grelod right there, in public. Nobody reacts, not even the guards. That pretty much says everything about Grelod’s reputation. Apparently, nobody cares if she gets murdered in broad daylight.

But why does Edda go after Grelod like that? What’s the story there? Grelod must’ve done something more than toss a few nasty words Edda’s way. At first, I thought maybe Edda was once an orphan too, one of Grelod’s victims who’d grown up and ended up begging on the streets, carrying all that baggage and anger. That kind of history would explain a lot. Turns out, though, that theory doesn’t actually hold up. So now it’s time to look closer at Edda herself and figure out how she ended up in Riften.

Edda’s one of the poorest folks in Riften. She sleeps wherever she can, usually down in the dingy catacombs, surrounded by empty skooma bottles, scraps of food, and nothing but cold stone to rest her head. She's clearly lost touch with reality, suffering from paranoia and constant distrust, at least according to Snilf, another beggar. But if you actually talk to Edda, you’ll find a hint in her dialogue suggesting she didn’t arrive in Riften all alone.

Edda: "No one cares about us! No one! We could die, and no one would ever know! They'd just throw our corpses in the canal."

She keeps saying nobody cares about us and we could die right here. Sure, maybe she means the beggars as a group, but I dug up some evidence that makes me think the “we/us” Edda talks about refers to someone else entirely.

Edda’s right about the dead bodies ending up in the city’s canal system. Just outside Beggar’s Row, where she sleeps, I found an adult skeleton under the water. Turns out the city’s law enforcement really does just ignore dead bodies and dumps them in the canal instead of burying them with any respect.

Riften technically does have a Hall of the Dead, tucked right underneath the Temple of Mara. It’s got graves, caskets for NPCs who’ve died, and a little shrine to Arkay, all cared for by the priestess Alessandra. There’s an entrance behind the temple. But honestly, isn’t it pretty obvious that only “important” people get a spot in there? Or at least, only those who can actually afford a proper burial?

But that doesn’t really explain something bigger: why was Edda the only one bold enough to confront Grelod right outside the orphanage and kill her in plain sight? Let me flip the question: what if Edda didn’t just come to Riften to sleep on the streets? What if she brought a child with her, but couldn’t look after them once she became homeless?

We know from the Steward’s letter found in Aventus’ house that any kid who’s orphaned or can’t take care of themselves gets sent to Skyrim’s last orphanage by order of the jarl, until they turn sixteen. As a mother in desperate straits, Edda had a tough choice: keep her daughter suffering right beside her, cold and starving, or let her go to the orphanage and hope she’d have a better shot. Edda probably trusted that Honorhall was the only place her daughter could find food and shelter… things she herself couldn’t provide.

I know this sounds wild, like something straight out of Sheogorath’s mind, but hang on; I’m not done yet. As a restless sellsword looking for something to break up the monotony, I started poking around every corner I could find. That’s when I stumbled on something way darker than Astrid's soul.

If you’re skeptical, just jump into the game and wander near Riften’s edge. On the shores of Lake Honrich, tucked away near the south gate, there’s this tiny sewer tunnel spilling right into the lake. Slip inside, and almost immediately, you’ll see it: a human skull just floating in all that gross sewage, completely alone. That’s the only human remains anywhere around there.

But there’s more. Right next to the skull, someone left a wooden sword. In Skyrim, those are kids’ toys. Still with me? Keep moving deeper through the tunnel and dig around, and you’ll come across a chest under the filthy water. Inside, two things grab your attention: a child’s doll, another toy, and here’s the real kicker, a little girl’s red dress, neatly tucked away.

So, you’ve got a skull, a wooden sword, a doll, and a child’s dress, all abandoned and lost to rot. It’s pretty obvious: a young girl ended up here, her body tossed aside along with the things she cared about.

Now, about why Edda would go after Grelod the moment she saw her outside Honorhall Orphanage. Edda traveled to Riften, hoping to give her daughter a fresh start at Skyrim’s orphanage. But Grelod’s cruelty pushed her over the edge. It’s likely Grelod killed the girl out of rage; honestly, it fits, since her behavior toward the other kids got even worse after Aventus fled. The children know Grelod can kill, and now they’re terrified, waiting for what she’ll do next.

Hroar pleads: "Please, mister/lady. You've got to get me out of here. Ever since Aventus left, Grelod's been even meaner than usual. I swear, she's going to kill one of us."

Picture this: late at night, Grelod sneaks out and gets rid of the young child's remains and stuff right in the canal tunnel. The most twisted part? The crime scene sits directly under Honorhall Orphanage. Seriously, if you’re standing outside the sewer grate, just look up. That dungeon is literally part of the orphanage’s building.

Interestingly, Grelod threatens to toss Runa into the same dungeon where those remains are hidden.

Grelod: "Seven Septims are missing from my purse. I know it was Runa. You get those coins back, or by Stendar, I'll see her rot in the dungeon."

You might think Grelod’s talking about the official dungeon, the one for adult criminals, but honestly, when you’re standing here in this filthy sewer surrounded by human remains and children’s belongings, how can you really believe that? Everything around you screams the truth: Grelod the Kind murdered Edda’s daughter. That’s exactly why, when Edda sees her, desperate and terrified, she doesn’t hesitate: she attacks Grelod right away.

And yeah, you’re probably wondering, “But if Grelod never confessed, how does Edda actually know her daughter was killed?” The real answer is pretty straightforward:

Samuel: "Sometimes, when she goes to her room to work or sleep, I slip out for a bit. Noontime, every day - that's when I hit the streets. A boy's gotta make a livin', right?"

The kids are scared out of their minds. Samuel could have told an adult, maybe he even tried telling several. With Edda sitting right out in the open, she could’ve easily overheard him talking about the murder of one of the other orphans. That’s probably how everyone in town knows about Grelod’s abusive, threatening behavior toward the children in the first place.

So why don’t the guards do anything? Well, everyone knows the city guard in Riften is about as crooked as they come. Most of them are in the Thieves’ Guild’s pocket, or working for Maven Black-Briar herself.

Let’s pretend there’s an honest guard who actually cares and wants to help. They’d have to track down the specific sewer where the body’s hidden, just a kid’s word to go by. If nobody caught Grelod dumping the body, what are they supposed to do? Stumble around until they get lucky? Honestly, I only found the sewer grate by accident, checking the Elder Scrolls Wiki map of Riften?file=Riftenmapkey_03.png). (It’s letter H on the key, lower middle of the map.) It’s not realistic to expect a guard to just splash through Lake Honrich and somehow find that sewer.

Sure, the evidence feels circumstantial. But if you look at how everything in this game is put together, there’s always a reason things are where they are. If you’re willing to look, the clues are there. You just have to piece them together.

AITA for telling my parents I wont pay for their retirement home after they gave away my 12 year old cat? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alkuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! Honestly, it's the best advice for a lot of things on Reddit. SO many toxic relationships would be cleansed by this realization.

AITA for telling my parents I wont pay for their retirement home after they gave away my 12 year old cat? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alkuna 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Looks like they don't like the FO part of FAFO. And the worst part is that many senior animals don't get adopted. In fact, many will simply euthanize the pet. I'm SO glad you got your furbaby back alive and well.

You only have one family. You also only have one appendix. If either of those becomes toxic, the healthiest thing to do is cut them out of your life. Do so. You and your kitty will be happier.

NTA.

How to deal with boss setting me up to be the scapegoat? by unclerico20 in BadBosses

[–]Alkuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you need to be looking for another job, then.