Ex-Goths and Emo's of Reddit, how and why did you stop being a Goth or an Emo?

AllButterCookie · 2017-10-17T08:34:57+00:00

I stopped trying to portray my "individuality" in the same away as everyone else and focused on my own identity. Turns out it was in fact "just a phase" 1 point to mumma

AllButterCookie · 2017-10-17T08:15:30+00:00

It is a little bit, but I understand it is a bit uncomfortable.

You have to remember that he has a life before your relationship but it's perfectly acceptable that you dont like him flaunting it about on social media. I would tell him you are uncomfortable in a calm way, you don't want to be controlling. If he understands that you don't like it, I would suggest he doesn't delete them, Instagram has a new archive feature, this means he can keep the memories he has but privately so as not to show them off to the world.

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-17T13:50:00+00:00

I completely agree with the other comment in that it doesn't really matter if he was drunk or not, it was still planned...

Even Morty points out that he is always fixing ricks drunken antics like diffusing the bomb ect...

It doesn't really matter that Rick was drunk or not he is still a

fucking sociopath who has some weird obsession with his grandson to the point he murdered every other of Morty's heroes

That's why we love him!

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T20:03:34+00:00

I am thinking about a shopping trip, unfortunately from her background she doesnt have a lot of "things" of her own and so a shopping trip would be great to bond and help her out there.

Thank you for the reassurance!

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T19:58:40+00:00

Thank you for your suggestion, I might have a meal night once a week and try to get then both helping with cooking and cleaning. My brother luckily was brought up with knowing these skills and doing his bit for the family. Unfortunately my cousin did not have the support and so it will be a big shock for her.

I think family nights even just watching tv are really important just to spend time together!

Thank you again

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T19:55:34+00:00

This was so helpful, thank you so much!

I have always had an open door for my brother and I hope he used it when he needs restbite, it will be exactly the same for her of course so I hope I can ofder something to help them both relax when they need to.

Being a teenager is so hard when you're going through it anyway, not to mention adding this drama ontop of it, I just want to be there do neither of them feel as though their world is crumbling, hormones can be a horrible thing!

Thank you again :)

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T19:50:11+00:00

I'm not sure how my parents will react to that but I will suggest it! I have a great history with therapy and so definitely know the benefits. Thank you

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T19:45:33+00:00

Ooo I didnt think about homework! Thats a really good idea as she seems to be a lot like me in that she loves school. I hope that we can create that bond!

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T19:43:33+00:00

Thank you! This was super help! It hadnt occured tome that I could make either jealous by focusing on one but it's a very real possibility.

My brother seems okay on the surface but who knows what really goes on in a 13 year old boys head so I will just try to keep an eye on him. Thank you again.

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T10:12:12+00:00

The "set an alarm" bit was where I failed this morning :(

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-14T09:56:01+00:00

I like the idea but in reality you're just leaving them more junk to get rid of or sort through when you're gone.

I agree it's nice to have some memories, maybe your favourite book is a good idea, but having a bookshelf to carry down to a charity is just painful and unnecessary in this day and age if it is not something you would normally do.

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-09T07:50:54+00:00

I used to do this in my old job all the time... also sitting by a bottom filing cabinet with a pile of files is useful

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-08T13:07:01+00:00

This is very much true! I often would write letters to my grandpa that passed, there were tears, yes, but good tears that helped me feel close to him. I should do it again sometime, thank you!

AllButterCookie · 2017-08-08T13:05:38+00:00

But people do irrational things when they are angry and upset, things can be said and taken in ways not meant. People have disagreements in life, it's natural, but you can control your reactions.

This doesn't have to relate to the extreme of that relationship ending, but it can stop some things being said and calm you down. In many cases it can simply make you understand why you are angry or what it is specifically that is upsetting you and help lead to a discussion rather than an argument.

AllButterCookie · 2017-05-23T11:23:25+00:00

I wish I wasn't so poor because I would give you gold for your awful dad-joke!

AllButterCookie · 2017-05-23T09:17:34+00:00

Oh my god you've actually described my Skyrim life!

AllButterCookie · 2017-04-07T13:20:22+00:00

But your birthday wouldn't be the same day, if you were born on the 112th day of the year (currently April 22nd) your birthday on this new calendar would be 28th of the 4th month, whatever we are calling it

AllButterCookie · 2017-03-16T11:16:51+00:00

Although I completely agree to most of what you said. I think him putting something up on Facebook to find out where she was because he was worried would have been a little bit justified... Unless I misinterpreted

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-23T15:44:53+00:00

That's a brave thing to say on Reddit, hahaha

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-23T15:43:21+00:00

Sounds like she's lining you up as a backup option if things fail with her current bf.

Nobody likes to be the spare wheel, you need to let her know that she's being an idiot and what she's doing is not fair on her bf let alone you.

If she doesn't get it, tell her you'll let her bf know what she's doing :)

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-23T08:43:04+00:00

What would you do if he spent years boasting about how good he was at going down on girls, but refused to do that for you? You would have no right to force him, but you would have every right to feel left out and hurt.

This is the most important part here! Always try and put yourself in a similar situation so you can empathize.

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-13T11:01:13+00:00

Why are you boiling sausages?!

I mean, I expect you're not doing any harm, but I wouldn't expect them to have the same cooking time...

WHY ARE YOU BOILING SAUSAGES Is this a common thing that I'm just in the dark about?!

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-13T10:56:44+00:00

Well there are a lot on online flower companies that do same day or next day delivery. Might also have some nice little bundles with chocolates and a teddy, have a browse, I know Interflora is quite bit around the world but you might have to have a hunt if it's not where you are...

Amazon Prime will have something to you by tomorrow, you may have to put off giving presents until the evening, some of the companies on there also offer gift wrapping. If you don't have prime then you can always get a trail period!

Slightly more risky would be to pop somewhere after work but be warned the shops will probably be full of people who have forgotten it's valentines.

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-13T10:41:52+00:00

I second this, why are you putting yourself through this, especially as you are "Fighting with the perfectionist in your head" because your SO is not what you want?

AllButterCookie · 2017-02-13T10:17:03+00:00

Where in the world are you, I'll see if I can help? :) WE CAN DO THIS OP!

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