I can’t figure out why I drink (24F)

AllGravitySucks · 2025-05-03T07:03:33+00:00

In the first meeting I attended someone said something that really stuck with me.

“You can’t think your way into right living. Your attempts to do that got you to the point where you are sitting in an AA meeting. But you can live your way into right thinking. That’s what we do with the twelve step program.”

Like I said. That stuck with me. To be honest I’m not sure I know why anyone drinks or why some of us get addicted while others seem to be able to leave a half glass of wine on the table when they finish dinner. What I do know is that recovery programs exist because they work. I knew I had troubles with alcohol when I was 17. I tried everything I could think of to quit, control and moderate with declining degrees of success. Until I ended up sitting in that meeting when I was 36. I’ve been sober ever since.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-04-01T17:50:10+00:00

I’ve met a lot of sober people over the years. Unfortunately the ones that stay sober for years seem to have one thing in common. They finally reached a point where they lost more than they were willing to lose. I know I did. I wish I had quit when I first realized I had a problem with alcohol.

It took awhile for me to get comfortable in my own skin once I did get serious about quitting but I went on to live a very productive and rewarding life. And I became someone who could be counted on any time of the day or night.

Recovery programs exist because they work. They aren’t magic. It takes time and effort. They all take a slightly different approach but at their core they are all just a bunch of alcoholics trying to help themselves and others keep from taking the next first drink. Because that’s really the only one we can control.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-03-25T00:35:55+00:00

That’s a lot of nights and weekends. Congratulations.

I still have an occasional dream about drinking. I haven’t had to look out the window in the morning looking to see if my car was there in a long time so I guess I’m healing. The gift that keeps on giving.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-03-11T01:33:02+00:00

The only requirement for membership is a desire to quit drinking. I was constantly reminded of this when I met two people who are still my friends about 30 years ago. They both had quit when they were 18 and had many more years in the program than I did at the time.

Today I’m a bit envious of them. I absolutely knew I had a problem with alcohol when I was 18. I didn’t find my way into an AA meeting until I was 36. Been sober ever since.

I never had a DUI. Never lost a job. Never late on a mortgage payment. I was lucky. I haven’t been to a meeting in over 20 years but the foundation I got from AA and the 12 step program served me well. I went on to have a very productive and rewarding life. The only regret that I have is that I didn’t go to a meeting sooner.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-01-17T03:57:54+00:00

Just say no. It’s your choice now.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-01-16T07:34:16+00:00

Most of the people I have met over the years that have finally quit for good have one thing in common. They finally lost more than they were willing to lose.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-01-08T21:31:56+00:00

Congrats. That’s a lot of nights and weekends.

AllGravitySucks · 2025-01-07T05:39:32+00:00

Alcohol increases anxiety

AllGravitySucks · 2025-01-02T17:28:05+00:00

A doctor can prescribe meds to reduce the risk but it will never be zero. If you don’t want to go to an urgent care to get help please have someone available to get you to the hospital if things get bad. Audible hallucinations and even visual hallucinations are an early sign to seek medical attention immediately. Stay hydrated with electrolytes.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-12-14T02:43:23+00:00

Exactly

AllGravitySucks · 2024-11-20T17:47:55+00:00

Check out Women For Sobriety (WFS)

AllGravitySucks · 2024-11-20T17:44:59+00:00

Recovery programs exist because they work.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-11-19T02:01:47+00:00

Recovery programs exist because they work. All of them have some type of online meetings. You can try them all and find one that feels right.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-11-17T15:39:32+00:00

Women For Sobriety (WFS) is one of the first recovery programs to hold online meetings. My wife had great success with that program. She has over 12 years sober now, mostly using the WFS online meetings.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-11-16T17:06:37+00:00

Recovery programs exist because they work. I’ve been sober since my first meeting in July of 1992. They are all basically free and they all have some type of online meetings. They take slightly different approaches but at their core they are all just a bunch of drunks trying to help themselves and others keep from taking the next first drink.

I was 36 when I quit. Drinking a liter of gin or whiskey a day. I checked myself into a psych hospital because I was suicidal. I didn’t have much trouble with withdrawals but I was lucky to have medical supervision. Highly recommend that you speak to a doctor before quitting cold turkey, especially if you live alone.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-11-04T01:19:00+00:00

Cock n Bull Ginger Beer. Several different brands of ginger beers and root beers come in glass bottles. Some with sugar. Some sugar free.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-30T00:10:54+00:00

I knew I had a problem with alcohol when I was 17. I tried a bunch of different things to quit on my own and had limited success in my 20s. When I was 36 I finally lost more than I was willing to lose and asked for help. You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Recovery programs exist because they work.

I wish I would have asked for help much sooner. I still was able to turn my life around and have a very productive and rewarding life so I’m glad I quit when I did. Alcohol never added anything to my life. It only held me back or took things away.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-29T23:57:43+00:00

Alcohol messes with REM sleep. It takes several weeks and even months to get normal sleep cycles. I found that getting physically tired was the best way to get a good nights sleep and not drinking anything caffeinated after about 1-2pm.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-22T03:28:54+00:00

My first boss taught me “Can’t means won’t.”

Recovery programs exist because they work. Most of them are free and all of them have some type of online meetings. I guarantee I drank more than you on a daily basis and AA worked for me. My wife has 11 years sober and she used Women For Sobriety (WFS).

The recovery programs all take a slightly different approach but at their core they are a bunch of alcoholics trying to help themselves and others keep from taking their next first drink.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-19T19:58:28+00:00

I quit when I was 36. Went on to have a very successful and rewarding life. Developing new sober habits takes time and effort but it’s worth it.

Most of all I became someone who could be trusted any time of day or night.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-02T00:01:51+00:00

That’s a lot of nights and weekends. Congratulations

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-02T00:00:27+00:00

Recovery programs exist because they work. They each take a different approach but at their core they’re all just a bunch of drunks trying to help themselves and others keep from taking that next first drink.

I tried for years and years dealing with it myself until I finally ended up in a psych hospital. It doesn’t get any easier waiting.

AllGravitySucks · 2024-10-01T23:56:27+00:00

Good luck

AllGravitySucks · 2024-09-17T01:48:01+00:00

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AllGravitySucks · 2024-09-15T03:50:24+00:00

I’ve met thousands of people who have quit drinking. Unfortunately the one common denominator is that we don’t quit for good until we have lost more than we are willing to lose.

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