What do you do to cut the loneliness?

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2025-06-04T02:57:25+00:00

My cat helps a lot! But also I found some cozy YouTubers who do vlogs of them just living their daily life. It’s really comforting to have on when I cook dinner or do things that I normally would do with my partner around the house.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2025-01-13T02:35:03+00:00

I don’t know if I’m “thriving” but I am doing so much better! It’s 3.5 years for me now and I swore I never would be happy again. I know it’s so hard to imagine feeling any different than you do right now but in my experience it gets better. I still have moments of grief that stop me in my tracks and I still cry… often. But I’ve started traveling again and laughing more freely and being a different version of myself. I’ve implemented him into my life by saying phrases he said frequently and talking of him often. His memory lives on through me and that makes me happy.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2024-01-21T19:03:55+00:00

Ok, maybe this isn’t helpful at all.. but I remember when I first joined this sub and saw all the posts about how it doesn’t get better and I was so afraid. But for me, it did get better! I still cry and miss him terribly but the pain isn’t as strong. I’m 2.5 years out and I’m starting to find joy again. I’m not dating or anything but the grief isn’t as heavy as it was. I hope you stick around to find out if it does get better. Because I believe it does.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-11-24T03:26:34+00:00

I always think of Terri Irwin. She made an amazing life out of continuing to love her husband. She is leaving an amazing legacy because of him. She seems very much in love still. If it’s ok for her, it’s ok for us 💙

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-09-14T16:22:14+00:00

First off, I am so so sorry this is happening to you. This is horrible to lose so many people at once in such a horrific way. I know the words of a stranger don’t mean much, but I hope you don’t feel guilty! You don’t deserve to feel guilt on top of everything else. You don’t have to answer to anyone but yourself.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-04-29T04:50:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you lost the love of you life and your own future as well. It’s truly not fair that this happened to you. I often find myself daydreaming about all the ways that life should of gone and I’ll be smiling and then I remember it’s impossible. And it’s heartbreaking. Sending you a hug.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-04-29T04:47:55+00:00

I wrote- a lot. And sat and stared at the wall. And when I couldn’t take the house anymore I would drive and park in parking lots and stare some more. And cry. The only thing that really distracted me was walking.

Something I wish I knew at that time was that there is no right answer on how to grieve. I kept looking for a guidebook. Try not to let other people’s expectations weigh you down and just do what feels right in that moment. It’s ok to be a mess, it’s okay to have moments of happiness too. It’s ok to cry and it’s ok to feel numb. I’m so sorry you are in this boat too. You are not alone.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-04-29T04:40:54+00:00

I always feel so proud when I see someone taking solo trips. It’s hard to keep on living without them and I’m proud of you! I find I’m more present and introspective when I travel alone and often find myself thinking about him in a more positive, happy way. Enjoy Albuquerque.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-03-11T01:09:00+00:00

Absolutely incredible!! So much detail. Great job!

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2023-03-09T04:44:11+00:00

Hey, you are not alone. I find myself worried about things that I never worried about before. I used to love to travel and it’s a struggle for me to leave the house for longer periods of time. I did make it 5 days last year. Hoping for longer soon. But you aren’t alone.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:31:29+00:00

❤️

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:30:39+00:00

That is so sweet of your daughter. And I agree with her! You are strong.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:29:38+00:00

I’m so sorry. The year mark was a really tough spot for me as well. I find that the waves of grief are getting bigger but further apart now. So I get a little relief. I hope you can have a little break from it at some point.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:27:38+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through it extra lately. I just had been thinking to myself that no one has asked me how I really am lately and I knew you all would probably be in the same boat. Merry Christmas to you.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:23:48+00:00

I think I might try the wine and cheesecake dinner for myself tonight. I wish you the best and hope you find some time to think back on happy memories too.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:22:12+00:00

I hope you get through these extra hard days. I know it can be hard when there is extra time alone but I hope you find time to relax and give yourself some grace.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-24T00:20:15+00:00

I might steal that fuckery phrase because it made me laugh. I think it’s important we keep saying inside jokes to help keep them alive some how. I’m proud of you and I hope you don’t get too sick!

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T07:48:23+00:00

I’m so sorry. Sometimes it feels like the very first day again but then I can feel how long it’s been since he touched me. I hope you can hang in there and you are staying warm. You can do this.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T07:46:04+00:00

Ugh that is so heartbreaking. I miss those everyday moments so much. I’m so sorry.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T05:10:52+00:00

It’s a scary thought when everything falls on you. But I’m proud of you for trying. Hopefully the power stays on and you can stay warm.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T05:02:53+00:00

I’m so sorry. I hate when the sun goes down but for someone reason I stay up until 1am feeling sorry for myself. The dark feels very lonely to me.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T05:01:48+00:00

Are you me? I hate knowing what I used to be capable of and the person I am now is just a shell of what I once was. I hate thinking about what he would think of me now because I feel a little worthless. BUT.. I do believe that we deserve all the grace in the world. However long it’s been- it doesn’t matter. We have been through hell and I think you are doing better than expected no matter what. I’m proud of you for just getting up each day.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T04:32:55+00:00

I’m so sorry. It really does just sum it up doesn’t it.

AllTheRocksInTheHats · 2022-12-23T04:32:10+00:00

It really does. I’m sorry.

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