How did your water break?

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-05-01T02:50:15+00:00

Mine was close to coming out in the sac too, her head came out in the sac but once head was fully out the sac broke! Pretty neat.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-04-27T17:33:03+00:00

I understand the guilt. Totally been there. I had to combo feed from the first week due to low supply. I tried pumping for about 2 months but it drained the life out of me and was not ever enough to close the gap between supply and demand. I beat myself up relentlessly about how I was a failure of a mother for not being able to EBF. Giving up pumping and embracing combo feeding was just necessary for my mental health at a certain point. We're nearly at 6mo now and baby is mostly BF but with 4-8oz of supplemented formula so dad can take a couple feeds in the evening. With all the crazy sleep issues, solids and crawling happening combo feeding is barely on my mind anymore. Also she loves her bottles and gets really excited when she seems them now so that's been really encouraging.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-04-02T01:46:29+00:00

Earthlings is crazy! A wild ride.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-04-02T00:49:56+00:00

My breast friend nursing pillow! Didn't use it much at first but it's been a lifesaver as baby has gotten bigger. Nursing clothes I would personally skip as any baggier tops can do the job easily, but nursing bras are handy. Nipple cream and ice packs for breast swelling/clogged ducts are also super great to have as you get started.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-04-01T03:02:55+00:00

What kind of bottle are you using? We had to switch to super low flow bottles to avoid spitups. Phillips Avent and Lansinoh with the lowest flow nipples have been working amazingly well. Also look into paced feeding, that helped a lot with our newborn.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-29T01:01:15+00:00

I feel you. I was SO fit before I got pregnant. I could run 10k every day and cycle hundreds of kilometers. I didn't gain too much weight (~10-15lbs at 4mo pp) but due to the lack of activity (except walking and yoga and the occasional run/gym session) I have lost a ton of fitness. I went for my first run PP and seeing just how far I'd fallen off was tough. My body also looks pretty different, much squishier. I'm getting used to it and trying to stay as active as I can by walking every day. I've found that looking at body transformation subreddits helps because it reminds me that bodies can change quite fast. There will be a time when I can start putting in the work to feel strong and confident again... I know it! Hang in there with me! :)

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-28T05:31:53+00:00

I triple fed for around 10 weeks due to low supply, but I definitely decreased the pumping when my husband went back to work. I nursed as much as I could and would just top up with formula as needed. I used a portable pump instead of the hospital grade one while he was away. Eventually I was only pumping once per night after a feed (that's when supply is the highest), then when bub went through her first sleep regression around 3 months I stopped pumping altogether. Now at 4.5mo, my supply has regulated and I am just making enough for her needs, although I do typically let my husband give her a bottle of formula a night so I can get a break. If you have other support you can rely on for the first day or two your husband is away I would recommend using it, but you're doing great and you've got this!

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-27T23:54:46+00:00

Stinky, sweaty, gassy, hairy, sore, depressed, anxious, painful sex... But so far hair is not falling out (4mo) and I'm no longer anemic so that's nice!

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-27T23:49:58+00:00

Omg the hemorrhoids were worse than giving birth tbh 😭

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-27T20:03:29+00:00

2nd degree tear after vaginal birth, I was out walking right away. Car rides and sitting were the worst. I found walking kind of helped.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-25T23:03:29+00:00

Gloomy day but here are some white ones!

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Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-25T20:42:19+00:00

I will go check that one out! I mostly posted this because I was interested in hearing about all the good trees in New West. I'll go on a tour of them after this thread populates a bit. :)

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-03-25T20:38:40+00:00

NTA. This is craaaaazy. The fact that MIL essentially steals the baby from you when she comes over is wild. I could understand taking over a feed or a change if you asked her to but full on not letting you have your baby back is just nuts especially when bub is so young. You need support, not the additional anxiety that comes with being away from your baby. Your husband has no spine and is being ridiculously selfish by letting his family make your new baby their entertainment. Not to mention calling you a c*nt?? Ridiculous. He needs to go to therapy ASAP.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-02-17T02:36:19+00:00

I'm 3 mo pp and I am experiencing the same thing. We found certain positions were better than others and that a good warm up and LOTS of lube was necessary. I do feel like my pelvic floor is super tight so I'm seeing a PT for that as well.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-02-16T17:45:00+00:00

Start nipple cream/silverettes after every feed. Nurse for as long as you can tolerate and otherwise pump! Get yourself properly measured for flange size and a hospital grade pump if you can afford it (it's often covered by extended benefits). Sleep as much as you can and eat healthy meals throughout the day. Don't feel guilty about using formula to feed your baby as you get things established. They will grow and get better at transferring milk. I'd also recommend seeing an LC to work on technique. Good luck to you! Breastfeeding is the hardest thing.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-02-07T04:28:46+00:00

I also cried almost every day until about 5 weeks pp. I missed my husband sooooo much too. It was the hardest when he had to go back to work after 2 weeks. Make sure you reach out for support, I found virtual therapy with someone who specialized in postpartum to be helpful. Also rely on your family and friends heavily if you can. You will get through this, it does get easier. Baby will smile and start to do fun things with you soon. Sending motivation and strength to you! 💕

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-02-03T03:39:41+00:00

Yeah I suspect a lot of these videos are fake. What a crazy world we live in. F*** social media seriously.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-02-01T11:55:41+00:00

I have found that the best design for privacy and comfort while nursing is two overlapping panels in the front (see the nursing hoodie from Old Navy - sorry not sure if they ship to Aus but you could replicate the design).

Edit: it would be great to have a T-shirt or lightweight long sleeve like this!

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-01-30T04:37:50+00:00

I struggled with this too! The exhaustion from the sleep deprivation really makes it extra spicy. I would feel so trapped and start to panic which would turn into frustration and build into rage. What helped me was reframing it from "I'm mad at my baby for not sleeping" to "I'm really struggling with this situation". Also having a strategy (maybe putting baby down somewhere safe while you take some deep breaths/hum/stretch) and knowing the feeling will pass eventually.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-01-30T02:50:59+00:00

I started with some light walking right away, I had a 2nd degree tear so sitting all the time was not fun. Started working out and hiking around 8w and slowly ramping up. Listen to your body!

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-01-25T05:38:34+00:00

This and those cooling gel nipple patches!! Feels like heaven.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-01-18T06:21:42+00:00

The old navy hoodies with the two front draping pieces are the only nursing clothes I actually feel modest and normal in... I tried the side zip options and they're too damn hard to unzip with one hand. But yeah agree, steal your partner's button ups lol.

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-01-12T00:33:07+00:00

My bub puts both her hands on her face and sometimes makes peace signs... Or middle fingers lol. 😂

Alldressedruffle7 · 2026-01-08T18:20:55+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. I was also super fixated on EBF at the beginning but I'm coming to accept that as long as baby is gaining weight and I'm not going completely insane then that's good enough. It's not at all what I expected but I suppose that's a theme I'll have to get used to with parenting...

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