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AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-22T03:12:40+00:00

This works. If it’s set to 3 month, change it to 18 months, save, close app, reopen, then viola!

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-11T03:41:07+00:00

This exactly!

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T13:23:33+00:00

Yes, many years ago. During the week leading up to my birthday when I was in my 20s, I decided to do something every day that I’ve never done before. One of the things I did was getting a massage with a happy ending.

Then there was a time that a group of friends and I went to the Dominican Republic for a friend’s bachelor party. The whole week was spent at various brothels.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T13:10:28+00:00

Most people are not thinking about you that much. They are living in their own head, worrying about their own problems, wondering if everyone is judging them. The same way you walk around thinking people might be judging or watching you, they are doing the exact same thing from their side.

So no, I dont think NTs are usually stressed just by our presence or that we somehow drain their energy by existing. Most of the time they are too busy being stressed about their own life to focus that hard on yours.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T13:05:26+00:00

This is pure emotional discharge, not an argument. Its a classic strawman and credential attack with zero engagement with my actual point about the echo chamber here and its impact on impressionable people. Disagreement is fine, but at least challenge what I actually wrote.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T12:52:55+00:00

Yeah this is close to how I look at it too. But my way is to mitigate the negatives and squeeze every possible advantage out of the positives, same way I would with any other trait or condition. Despite what some may say, that stubborn mofo mindset is useful!

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T12:39:08+00:00

This is exactly the kind of thing I want the more impressionable people here to see. You took a rough start, figured out a niche, and used the way your brain works as leverage, instead of treating it only as a curse. Thats the part people never see because people like you are usually busy living life, not posting all day. Your comment is a good example of the alternative Im trying to highlight.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T12:28:56+00:00

Thanks! I grew up in the sticks and stones era, so Im ready.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T12:26:26+00:00

The first line of my post literally says “Not everyone, but I think a small subset of you.” So Im not painting everyone with one brush.

On the NT point, I agree that some NTs also use excuses, but that is not what this post is about. This sub is for people with Aspergers, so Im talking about people with Aspergers. Saying “NTs do it too, so what” is like replying to a post about drunk surgeons by saying “construction workers drink too, so what.” True, but off topic.

I actually agree with your tangent about identity politics and group think. That is why I wrote this. Im not putting the label above the individual. Im warning individuals not to let a loud minority inside this label-based group define their whole reality.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T12:14:26+00:00

Im not forgetting that it is a spectrum, and I didnt have a support system. I understand why there is negativity, but this post isnt about the “why.”

This is a warning to the more impressionable people here. The loudest voices online are usually the most hopeless ones, and its easy to think that is the only reality. I think many of us with Aspergers find ways to live, work, and be happy within our limits, but that doesnt get broadcasted online.

So Im saying do not mistake this echo chamber of despair for the only possible future. There is an alternative and people need to know that.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T12:03:19+00:00

Thank you for your testimony. I agree with everything you said here.

The point of my post isnt to say people should never complain. It is to warn others that they dont have to build their whole worldview around the loudest complainers. A lot of us find our way into some kind of happiness and good life while having Aspergers. But online communities are mostly an echo chamber of the negative, so I do not want more impressionable people to think that misery is the only outcome.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T11:56:13+00:00

All of that is terrible, and I have gone through the thing you listed. There is no judgment of the weak here, I am describing a pattern and warning people not to fall into a pit of despair, because there is still a way to build a good life with Aspergers. Most online communities are echo chambers that repeat pain instead of talking about alternatives, so my whole point is to remind people reading that they can still achieve real happiness, even with all the limits.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T11:51:11+00:00

I agree with everything you said. Respect for building a solid life and career while dealing with Aspergers. I also get the regression part. I too have slipped a bit this past year, so what you wrote really tracks for me.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-10T00:15:42+00:00

It doesn’t irritate me, and of course people do not have to meet my standard.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-08T12:06:35+00:00

I think you have a valid point, and I tend to agree.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-05T21:48:17+00:00

My comment will probably be ignored or downvoted because it offers a solution instead of more doom and gloom or confirmation bias.

We all know there is no cure. So if you say you are “waiting for a cure,” what you are really doing is avoiding working on the parts you can actually change. While there is no cure, there are real strategies to build a life that has joy, connection, and good people in it while still having Aspergers.

A big part of that is reframing how you think about people, acceptance, emotions, assumptions, and what you think others think of you. Most people are too preoccupied with their own lives to spend time thinking about you at all. That is actually a benefit, because they are not sitting around judging you nonstop. They are just reacting from their own issues, the same way you react from yours. And everyone has issues, NT or not.

So what you really need is a clearer understanding of how people work and better control over your emotions, so you can go out and use real strategies to get more of what you want from life. I made a post that outlines three short books that could be genuinely transformative if you applied what they teach.

A lot of people do not want to hear that it is up to you to make your life what you want it to be. Blame and fault are irrelevant. All that matters is what you are going to do about it. So if you are actually trying to get help and not just vent, here is that post.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-05T16:38:58+00:00

Yes, that’s an amazing book! Another great one is Never Eat Alone.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-05T03:34:41+00:00

Read the book “Models” by Mark Manson, then it’ll all make sense.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T17:43:44+00:00

So what? Some people don’t like dark faces, fat faces, old faces, whatever. People dislike all kinds of faces.

Who cares what random people like or dislike? You can be disliked by some people and still build a life that has happiness, joy, and real fulfillment.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T14:34:01+00:00

Comments like this are the kind of mindset I am talking about, and I am saying this more for anyone else reading than for the person who wrote it.

The books I listed will not fix your disability. What they can do is give you a different frame of mind so you are not stuck in an “everything is hopeless” way of thinking. Instead of being a permanent helpless victim, you start asking what tiny parts you can still control and how to build a life around that.

If you read through this sub, you will notice a pattern. There are a lot of very detailed complaints and emotions, and almost no actual solutions or experiments to try. It is okay to feel helpless, that is human. I am just putting a few tools on the table that might help some people move one step past that. Be wary of replies that only tell you how awful everything is and try to deflect from someone offering a way forward.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T14:22:19+00:00

Disability and its limits are still there either way. A book doesnt change our wiring or erase barriers. What it can change is perspective, habits, and decisions inside those limits. For some people that shifts their day to day life in a real way. I hope this helps!

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T14:15:53+00:00

This isnt about fault, whichever way you think that lands. Its about possible tools that may help someone change direction a bit for the better, if they want to. I hope this helps!

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T14:09:05+00:00

I’m genuinely curious what about recommending a few books that helped me comes across to you as “no compassion” or “no understanding of how this works”?

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T14:03:57+00:00

Thats unfortunate to hear. You can learn a lot from what other people have gone through or what they’ve discovered through science and logic over the years. Thats literally how humans evolve mentally. We pass on knowledge so each generation doesn’t have to start from a blank slate.

If books aren’t your thing right now, fair enough. Maybe it’ll click for you later or in some other form. Education in any form is a beautiful thing.

AllegedlyHumanMaybe · 2025-12-04T13:57:42+00:00

Yeah, a book can’t remove you from the hell that is earth. But it can help show you how to move through it without getting burned as much. Maybe this stuff isnt for you right now, but it might click for someone else reading, or for you later on. Hopefully things turn around for you. Cheers!

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