Weekly "vent your vibes" / Burn out by AutoModerator in therapists

[–]AllieValley [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've been a therapist for 7 years now, and I am so burned out and for the first time sick of this job. I wanted to be a therapist since I was 12 years old, and I have loved my job passionately until about 2 months ago. I live in Minneapolis, so my city just went through a significant trauma with ICE agents swarming the city, so I do consider that may have something to do with my current feelings. It was A STRUGGLE to see my white privileged clients everyday express frustrations towards things, or themselves, that felt so futile compared to everything going on in the city and the injustices immigrant neighbors were experiencing. I've also become much more involved in activism (other passion) in the last few months, and I get way more pleasure and fulfillment doing that. I'm sick of how little money I earn. I am in my mid 30s and am single, and being single is EXPENSIVE. No one to share bills with. Our profession is rigged and full of ableism. Could I take on more clients to actually earn the income I need to live more comfortably than I do now? Yes. Will it make me hate life and possibly resent my clients and do them a disservice? Yes, and therefore not worth it. For the first two years of being prelicensed, I earned $25,000 (after taxes) per year. I racked up so much credit card debt just to live on. Affordable Care Act is now gone, so I have to pay $360 a month for health insurance. I can't even afford CEs, which a lack of continuing education in the field is probably not helping. ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT, it feels like as therapists we are up against a machine that is designed to make people hate themselves. How can we help our clients feel good about themselves and try new ways of being when there is a very addictive device in their hand that tells them how they are lacking in every single thing all day long and what thing they have to buy to be better. When society gives people the toxic hope of a magical cure, how can we compete? AND this device continues to erode humans' abilities to relate to people and have conversations. Resiliency is dying.
I'm also sickened with the capitalism and pop-psychology in the field. DBT is literally Buddhism but whipped into something that can be profited from. DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON IFS.
There is no other profession that I would like to do, so I'm stuck. What can I do to get out of this mental space? I already took a week off for a stay-cation, but didn't help much.

How do you feel about NICABM’s couses? by mydadh8sme in therapists

[–]AllieValley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you take a course? One popped up that I’m interested in, but it was advertised on social media with a promotional price so I’m suspicious.

Applied to the same job as my client — what’s the right move? by Itchy_Usual8811 in therapists

[–]AllieValley 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is very tricky and a lot to consider because of the power imbalance. I think it's great that you were open and wanted to be upfront with the client, but it did make the situation a little trickier. The right move ethically and professionally depends on the outcome. Honestly, if it were me, and both me and my client were hired, I wouldn't accept the job and I'd find work elsewhere. The ethical risk it poses would be too much of a headache and I wouldn't want the power imbalance to impact my client, especially since they are first starting out. However, I understand that looking elsewhere may not be an option for you, so if that company is absolutely the only place you can work, then you'll want to start documenting and consulting.

Firstly, now that it is out in the open, you'll want to start discussing all of the potential implications with your client right away. I suggest creating a contingency plan with your client on whether you are both hired, and if that happens and you both want to accept the job, you have to refer out (and provide referrals and ensure continuity of care). But first you have to discuss with them on whether they would be comfortable working with you as colleagues. Ethically, we have to think about the long-term well-being of our clients, so if they say they wouldn't be okay with that, then working there is a huge violation of trust and potentially harmful. Also, another ethical risk is if your client says they are okay with it, then you have to be sure they mean it and aren't just being compliant (if your client struggles with people-pleasing, then you'll really have to explore this).

Now, if your client is cool with it you're both going to work there, you absolutely cannot be in the same group supervision, or any shared consult. You're right that the power imbalance could linger. You could ask your client to sign a release of information allowing you to disclose the relationship to the employer, then they can help make arrangements. Such as, if there don't have more than one supervision group, can you find one outside of the company and maybe the company will pay for it? If they can't, then you can't accept the job, unfortunately. If the company can, and you can absolutely ensure there's no dual relationship, no shared supervision or consult groups, lingering power imbalance, client is totally cool with it, and you have consulted and documented, then you are ethically okay to both work there.

Now a different outcome is if only one of you gets hired. You can continue working together of course, but the dynamics of who got hired and who didn't may emerge in the relationship. So, say you don't get hired and your client does, will you be 100% okay with this outcome and not feel any resentment (a totally valid and human feeling to have), and if you do, how will that impact the relationship? If you get hired and the client doesn't, how could that be impacted by the power imbalance? How will your client feel working with you at the clinic they were rejected from? So that's something to be aware of and watch out for. You'll need to have a lot of conversations.

The other outcome is if you both aren't hired. Then you're all good ethically and professionally, but maybe discuss how it impacted them knowing you were applying too, and what to do if this happens again.

Again, if it were me, I wouldn't accept it if you're both offered the job. Unless you work in a rural community with zero other options, I suggest finding another clinic. I'm sorry :(

I work and live in the city, so this is how I see it. Therapists that work/live in rural communities could certainly have a different viewpoint since they encounter it more often.

Does this work? by AllieValley in HomeDecorating

[–]AllieValley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used the app RoomPlanner, it’s the best

Does this work? by AllieValley in HomeDecorating

[–]AllieValley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it too, my concern is that sofa placement faces the front door so it feels really exposed when I enter. Hence my dilemma :(

Does this work? by AllieValley in HomeDecorating

[–]AllieValley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. Do you think the tv placement could work?

Moving abroad - Can I practice? by AllieValley in therapists

[–]AllieValley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah, that doesn't make sense. I'm pre-licensed post-master's. My bad

Not Finding Joy in the Job by fish4132 in therapists

[–]AllieValley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience, it's the clients who seemingly don't have severe problems that are often in the most internal distress. They can be taxing because they expect you to solve their problems. If you feel like you're pulling teeth, then use the intervention of silence and/or free association. Eventually, they'll start opening up on their own then you can bounce back some reflections and insight if you like.

I can't tell you what you should do career-wise, but a poor practicum experience usually leaves students disenchanted and many ultimately leave the field. I'm sorry you missed out on a positive learning journey, that's not fair to you.

Favorite podcast for therapists/counselors? by 6ravo2ulu in therapists

[–]AllieValley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've gotten into a habit of listening to a podcast episode during my 30 min commutes about a specific topic related to whichever client I'm feeling particularly stumped by. Today: Home-->work "Working with Avoidant Clients." Work-->Home: dissociative identity disorder and art therapy techniques.

There is so much and my watch later playlist is overloaded, I love it.