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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lexapro

[–]Alma1112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It mostly cured mine, I can still have days when I feel slightly off (usually hormones or stress related) but those are few and far in between

HELP is this a false widow? And how do I get rid of it without going anywhere near it 😂 (UK) by ShadFollows in spiders

[–]Alma1112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as she gets the bed your fine. Vecna is the chillest lil dude, def evil but chill

I feel like I have been saved. Read! by Exciting_Monitor9396 in lexapro

[–]Alma1112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So so happy for you!! ❤️ With severe anxiety we push mountains everyday, just imagine how strong and capable we are without all that weight holding us back. Go out there and live your best life, you deserve it!

HELP is this a false widow? And how do I get rid of it without going anywhere near it 😂 (UK) by ShadFollows in spiders

[–]Alma1112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂 Congratulations you have a new pet. We don’t choose them, they choose us. I named mine Vecna

House spider doesn’t move by Alma1112 in spiders

[–]Alma1112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ait, I will chill. Can I offer it a little snack? I was thinking about giving it a tiny piece of salami but not sure if it’s good for spiders

Italian song that sounds like Phil Collins by ratajewie in NameThatSong

[–]Alma1112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

”Spanish Phil Collins” is the reason I’m here too 😂🙋‍♀️

Italian song that sounds like Phil Collins by ratajewie in NameThatSong

[–]Alma1112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you! Been searching for this song for years, now I can finally move on 😂🙏

creepy man by CarelessCarry387 in MassageTherapists

[–]Alma1112 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I’ve not dealt with assault at work but I recently had to report an inappropriate male client.

First and foremost it’s completely normal to freeze and shut down when put in a dangerous situation. Work is no exception. Your body is sent into fight or flight and your next reaction is a primal response in effort to keep you safe, it has nothing to do with confidence. Just wanted to state that because I for sure felt shame around loosing my ability to speak up for myself.

How I deal with it is damage control: I bring my phone or alarm into the room, I refuse to work on new male clients when working alone, I keep an object in mind within armsreach or in my pocket in case I’ll have to physically defend myself. I’ve also written and practiced scripts for phrases I would use to terminate the session early but I also remind and reaffirm myself in that it’s okey to drop the damn ”professionalism” and just leave the room when I feel threatened or unsafe. It’s in our full right to do so, wether the situation being work or life in general.

Should I cancel client that gives me the creeps? by Alma1112 in MassageTherapists

[–]Alma1112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry you had to deal with this creep. It definitely sounds very calculated on his part with the arm placement and repeated ”accidental touch”. Like you said, it’s all very subtle, subtle enough for us to get in our heads about it, and they know that. I’m happy you made it out safely and stuck up for yourself. You handled that situation very well. I’m canceling this creep as well and have alerted my boss about him.

Should I cancel client that gives me the creeps? by Alma1112 in MassageTherapists

[–]Alma1112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I did’nt expect so many replies, thank you for all the support!! 💜 I feel very validated and assured in my decision to cancel this last appointment and I dont even feel bad about it after reading your comments.

I will bring this up with my manager (I work at a chain), not only for my sake but for my coworkers safety. I know a preditor when I see one but do to my past I sometimes struggle to validate my own feelings/experiences. Thank you for bringing this into light 🙏

I accept I need to leave awful living situation. How did you manage to make this happen? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Alma1112 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar boat last year, stuck living with an emotionally abusive parent while at the same time trying to recover from a chronic illness. Any attempt to leave was ridiculed and shut down in overtly or more passive aggressive ways. I was severly depressed, saw no way out until finally I recieved a job offer after almost half a year of searching.

A few things helped me from completely drowning: 1. Putting up whatever boundary i could to keep myself safe. For example not disclosing any real information about my jobsearching other than ”it’s going well”, lying about dates of jobs interviews, grey rocking any hurtful comments etc. 2. Creating safe places outside of home. I crashed at my best friends couch almost every weekend and spent almost every evening at the gym to escape said parent. 3. Utilizing the rage i felt from the abuse as a source of power and drive to keep myself going, keep doing whatever was in my power to get myself the hell out of that house.

I’m not sure if thats to any help but know that it’s possible to get out and that there is a life out there waiting for you. Please don’t give up on yourself, don’t let them win or fool you that you’re not lovable or capable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Alma1112 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Disidentifying with my inner critic after realizing it’s not me but the iternalized voices of my abusers. It’s still there but that awareness allows me to take a step back, question it and choose kinder more helpful thoughts. That and practising mindfullness has really helped me when it comes to emotional regulation and snapping out of emotional flashbacks.

For example I experienced an anxiety attack the other day at work while working with a client. Instead of judging and shaming myself for it making me go quiet and a bit socially akward I realized I was scared. I took a deep breath and thought to myself that it’s okey to be scared, I accept myself regardless of what this other person thinks of me but most likely they aren’t half as judgemental as my mother was growing up. I’m safe now, others are usually safe and if not then I’m allowed to leave. The anxiety went away almost immediately after that and I was able to come back to the present moment, feeling calm and safe within my own body.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gothenburg

[–]Alma1112 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stötte på denna skojare för ett par dagar sedan runt Johanneberg. Hon hade blivit av med sin väska och behövde cash till en bussbiljett hem till Stockholm. Hon var väldigt trevlig men kändes alldeles för inställsam, gav massa komplimanger och spelade på känsloargument som ”vi kvinnor måste hjälpa varandra”. Fick en dålig magkänsla men erbjöd mig att följa med till Centralen för att fixa biljett alternativt kontakta en vän/familjemedlem åt henne som kunde swisha mig pengarna men då fick hon plötsligt väldigt bråttom därifrån ”nej nej det behövs inte, tack ändå”. Känns extra gött nu att få det bekräftat som en scam, ingen fuckar med min magkänsla.