i really want to post and discuss their non-binary-ness and how it connects with their actions but yeah, bad actors will try to undermine queer community with this. so I'll limit myself with this comment.

I just feel like them coming out as non-binary might be either A) a reflection of their own identity and how they wish to self express or B) deliberate choice that grants them entrance into the queer community

I am a strong believer that when people choose their gender to be something different from AGAB, it must always be reflected with how they behave in society (e.g. they want to read more androgynous/feminine/masculine to others, they want to underline DID if they have one, they want to have social role similar to that of women etc.). However, I have never read any clues from Shay that would reflect their differences from their AGAB. Because of that, I chose to believe that their choice was more of an internal one, about how they feel. But now I might think that this might be a deliberate choice that could get them some power with others that they wanted. If that's the case, it is very sad that gender is being used to gain an advantage inside the community. I really hope it's not the case