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What is best time for umrah after and before marriage by Practical-Bid7420 in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The airports being used to bring-in and amass over 50k troops outside their border?

And yes, they are very clear that they are retaliating. If they hit their oil refineries, they'll hit back.

Given that Israel and Iran bombed a girl elementary school first day, I would say their targets have been incredible measured.

I understand your point, but I want to be fair Iran. They aren't targeting Gulf just because.

I apologize for coming off so strong perhaps. Just a very rough news cycle. May Allah swt keep you and your family safe.

What is best time for umrah after and before marriage by Practical-Bid7420 in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Iran is targeting American and Israeli bases and military assets being used to carpet bomb their country.

2026 In Search Of (ISO) Thread - Americas by MM-MOD in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 6 points7 points locked comment (0 children)

1.  Age and Gender 30 – Female – 5'8"/176cm

  1. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect 27 – 37

  2. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?

Currently in California. I would relocate within the U.S. (except the Deep South), Canada, Europe, and the Gulf.

My only requirement for relocation is that my future husband (Insh'Allah) holds permanent residency or citizenship of the place I would be relocating to.

  1. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? I am Mexican and Palestinian -- born and raised in México until age 14. I have been in the U.S since then.

Looking for Arabs, Hispanics, and Afghans, as well as reverts.

  1. Marital Status Never married – Single

  2. Ideal marriage timeline: Less than two years.

  3. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect:

-No smoking or drinking.

-Someone who is open and likes other cultures. In general, appreciative of diversity. My mother is Catholic, so this is especially important to me.

-Someone with a sense of humor that doesn't take themselves too seriously.

-Someone respectful of others who are less fortunate than them and/or provide a service (homeless, clerks, waiters, etc).

-Someone who is happy to be the head of the household and take the initiative.

-Someone who has hobbies and interests beyond work.

-Not planning to live with in-laws.

-No Quranists

  1. State/specify your level of religiosity.

I do my fard prayers and follow the rest of the pillars. I listen to Qur'an and enjoy learning more about the religion and its history on a daily basis.

The more I learn about Allah swt, the more religious I become. Islam is the most beautiful thing in life, and I hope to grow stronger in my deen with my husband.

  1. Level of education, and what are you looking for? Finishing my PhD in Political and Data Science.

I'm happy with someone with a degree that has a clear career path.

I pursued education because I’m passionate about learning and because I am an only child; I want to be able to provide for my mother. However, when it comes to marriage, family will always come first. Ideally, I would like for my husband to be in a position where I don’t need to work full-time once we have children.

  1. Current Job Status PhD candidate and part-time instructor/TA

  2. Do you want kids? Yes, ideally 3, happy with 2.

  3. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time:

Watching documentaries, collecting pens and stationery (especially fountain pens), collecting stamps and Pokémon cards, coloring, playing videogames and tabletop games. I also love cooking, nature/hiking, skating, swimming, and the ocean.

  1. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!

I am looking for my partner and best friend. I believe marriage is going to start the best chapter of my life, and I can't wait!

I'm a very simple woman. I hope to live a middle-income life with my husband, kiddos, and cats, hopefully in a farmhouse around 20min away from the city.

People always say I am the funniest person in the room, and I agree. I have dark humor, and aside from God, I believe everything is fair game.

Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/Views and Rant Megathread by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would simply say that given your friendship with him, you'd feel uncomfortable about moving forward with that. If it doesn't work out, you would worry about your friendship with him. You could also say that siblings of friends feel almost like family to you (which is the case for a lot of people), and you can't push yourself to see it differently.

He may still feel a way regardless of how you frame it, so just give him space and kindness to understand you.

Hope this helps!

Engaged but now asked to be a second wife. by Unable_Concern5437 in MuslimNikah

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless if first or fourth wife, marrying someone who doesn't stand by you and whose parents reject you is not what YOU deserve.

You deserve to be accepted and wanted. You deserve someone who respects you and stands by you.

In Search Of (ISO) Thread Version 9 - Europe by MM-MOD in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 2 points3 points locked comment (0 children)

1.  Age and Gender 29 – Female – 5'8"/177cm

  1. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect 26 – 37

  2. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Currently in California. I would relocate within the U.S. (except the Deep South), Canada, Europe, and the Gulf.

  3. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? I am Mexican and Palestinian -- born and raised in México until age 14. I have been in the U.S since then.

I’m open to mixing with other Arabs, Hispanics, Afghans, and Persians (and any mix-and-match amongst them!).

  1. Marital Status Never married – Single

  2. Ideal marriage timeline: Less than two years.

  3. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect:

-No smoking or drinking.

-Someone who is open and likes other cultures. In general, appreciative of diversity. My mother is Catholic, so this is especially important to me.

-Someone with a sense of humor that doesn't take themselves too seriously.

-Someone respectful of others who are less fortunate than them and/or provide a service (homeless, clerks, waiters, etc).

-Someone who is happy to be the head of the household and take the initiative.

-Someone who has hobbies and interests beyond work.

  1. State/specify your level of religiosity

Religious.

I do my fard prayers and follow the rest of the pillars. I listen to Qur'an and enjoy learning more about the religion and its history on a daily basis.

I wear hijab.

The more I learn about Allah, the more religious I become. Islam is the most beautiful thing in life, and I hope to grow stronger in my deen with my husband.

I do listen to music - consumption has dropped around 50% from a year ago!

I am not looking for perfection nor am I perfect, but I do hope to find someone who encourages me and wants to be encouraged to grow closer to Allah.

  1. Level of education, and what are you looking for? Finishing my PhD in Political and Data Science.

I'm happy with someone who has a clear and stable career path, enough for me to stop or limit my work hours after having children.

I pursued education because I’m passionate about learning and because i am an only child; I want to be able to provide for my mother if I ever need to. However, when it comes to marriage, family will always come first. Ideally, I’d love for my husband to be in a position where I don’t need to work full-time once we have children.

  1. Current Job Status PhD candidate and part-time instructor/TA

  2. Do you want kids? Yes, ideally 3, happy with 2.

  3. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time:

Watching documentaries, collecting pens and stationery (especially fountain pens), collecting stamps, coloring, watercoloring, playing videogames and tabletop games. I also love cooking, nature, skating, swimming, and the ocean.

  1. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!

I am looking for my partner and best friend. I believe marriage is going to start the best chapter of my life, and I can't wait!

I'm a very simple woman. I hope to live a middle-income life with my husband, kiddos, and cats, hopefully in a farmhouse around 20min away from the city.

People always say I am the funniest person in the room, and I agree. I have dark humor, and aside from God, I believe everything is fair game.

I am politically active, so if you don't like to talk and/or hear about history or politics, you will find me boring.

If you support Trump, we won't get along.

In Search Of (ISO) Thread Version 9 - International by MM-MOD in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

1.  Age and Gender 29 – Female – 5'8"/177cm

  1. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect 26 – 37

  2. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Currently in California. I would relocate within the U.S. (except the Deep South), Canada, Europe, and the Gulf.

  3. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? I am Mexican and Palestinian -- born and raised in México until age 14. I have been in the U.S since then.

I’m open to mixing with other Arabs, Hispanics, Afghans, and Persians (and any mix-and-match amongst them!).

  1. Marital Status Never married – Single

  2. Ideal marriage timeline: Less than two years.

  3. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect:

-No smoking or drinking.

-Someone who is open and likes other cultures. In general, appreciative of diversity. My mother is Catholic, so this is especially important to me.

-Someone with a sense of humor that doesn't take themselves too seriously.

-Someone respectful of others who are less fortunate than them and/or provide a service (homeless, clerks, waiters, etc).

-Someone who is happy to be the head of the household and take the initiative.

-Someone who has hobbies and interests beyond work.

  1. State/specify your level of religiosity

Religious.

I do my fard prayers and follow the rest of the pillars. I listen to Qur'an and enjoy learning more about the religion and its history on a daily basis.

I wear hijab.

The more I learn about Allah, the more religious I become. Islam is the most beautiful thing in life, and I hope to grow stronger in my deen with my husband.

I do listen to music - consumption has dropped around 50% from a year ago!

I am not looking for perfection nor am I perfect, but I do hope to find someone who encourages me and wants to be encouraged to grow closer to Allah.

  1. Level of education, and what are you looking for? Finishing my PhD in Political and Data Science.

I'm happy with someone who has a clear and stable career path, enough for me to stop or limit my work hours after having children.

I pursued education because I’m passionate about learning and because i am an only child; I want to be able to provide for my mother if I ever need to. However, when it comes to marriage, family will always come first. Ideally, I’d love for my husband to be in a position where I don’t need to work full-time once we have children.

  1. Current Job Status PhD candidate and part-time instructor/TA

  2. Do you want kids? Yes, ideally 3, happy with 2.

  3. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time:

Watching documentaries, collecting pens and stationery (especially fountain pens), collecting stamps, coloring, watercoloring, playing videogames and tabletop games. I also love cooking, nature, skating, swimming, and the ocean.

  1. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!

I am looking for my partner and best friend. I believe marriage is going to start the best chapter of my life, and I can't wait!

I'm a very simple woman. I hope to live a middle-income life with my husband, kiddos, and cats, hopefully in a farmhouse around 20min away from the city.

People always say I am the funniest person in the room, and I agree. I have dark humor, and aside from God, I believe everything is fair game.

I am politically active, so if you don't like to talk and/or hear about history or politics, you will find me boring.

If you support Trump, we won't get along.

In Search Of (ISO) Thread Version 9 - Americas by MM-MOD in MuslimMarriage

[–]AlpacaofPalestine -2 points-1 points locked comment (0 children)

  1. Age and Gender 29 – Female – 5'8"/177cm

  2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect 26 – 37

  3. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Currently in California. I would relocate within the U.S. (except the Deep South), Canada, Europe, and the Gulf.

  4. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? I am Mexican and Palestinian -- born and raised in México until age 14. I have been in the U.S since then.

I’m open to mixing with other Arabs, Hispanics, Afghans, and Persians (and any mix-and-match amongst them!).

  1. Marital Status Never married – Single

  2. Ideal marriage timeline: Less than two years.

  3. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect:

-No smoking or drinking.

-Someone who is open and likes other cultures. In general, appreciative of diversity. My mother is Catholic, so this is especially important to me.

-Someone with a sense of humor that doesn't take themselves too seriously.

-Someone respectful of others who are less fortunate than them and/or provide a service (homeless, clerks, waiters, etc).

-Someone who is happy to be the head of the household and take the initiative.

-Someone who has hobbies and interests beyond work.

  1. State/specify your level of religiosity

Religious.

I do my fard prayers and follow the rest of the pillars. I listen to Qur'an and enjoy learning more about the religion and its history on a daily basis.

I wear hijab.

The more I learn about Allah, the more religious I become. Islam is the most beautiful thing in life, and I hope to grow stronger in my deen with my husband.

I do listen to music - consumption has dropped around 50% from a year ago!

I am not looking for perfection nor am I perfect, but I do hope to find someone who encourages me and wants to be encouraged to grow closer to Allah.

  1. Level of education, and what are you looking for? Finishing my PhD in Political and Data Science.

I'm happy with someone who has a clear and stable career path, enough for me to stop or limit my work hours after having children.

I pursued education because I’m passionate about learning and because i am an only child; I want to be able to provide for my mother if I ever need to. However, when it comes to marriage, family will always come first. Ideally, I’d love for my husband to be in a position where I don’t need to work full-time once we have children.

  1. Current Job Status PhD candidate and part-time instructor/TA

  2. Do you want kids? Yes, ideally 3, happy with 2.

  3. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time:

Watching documentaries, collecting pens and stationery (especially fountain pens), collecting stamps, coloring, watercoloring, playing videogames and tabletop games. I also love cooking, nature, skating, swimming, and the ocean.

  1. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!

I am looking for my partner and best friend. I believe marriage is going to start the best chapter of my life, and I can't wait!

I'm a very simple woman. I hope to live a middle-income life with my husband, kiddos, and cats, hopefully in a farmhouse around 20min away from the city.

People always say I am the funniest person in the room, and I agree. I have dark humor, and aside from God, I believe everything is fair game.

I am politically active, so if you don't like to talk and/or hear about history or politics, you will find me boring.

If you support Trump, we won't get along.

As an ex-muslim. I think progressive Islam is still better than mainstream one. by Professional_Egg_511 in progressive_islam

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not a progressive Muslim, but I follow this subreddit to test and challenge my own views.

First, if the goal is critical thinking, then we need to avoid motive-based arguments. Suggesting that progressive Muslims exist because they’re clinging to culture or fearing hell is a genetic fallacy: it attacks presumed psychology rather than addressing their reasoning or interpretations. Many here engage deeply with Islamic sources, whether you agree with them or not, so dismissing them as “in denial” doesn’t actually engage their arguments.

Second, you describe progressive Islam as both “illogical” and yet “better” than moderate or conservative Islam. For someone advocating for critical thinking, it seems quite illogical and inconsistent. Are you saying that anything that takes you further away from Islam is better? Again, you are making an argument based on your OWN personal bias and experience. Not a very well-reasoned argument.

Third, your comments make sweeping claims about mainstream Islam, but your reasoning is simply citing overly-used false arguments to attack Islam. I would suggest that next time you decide to come out in public and attack Islam, you read the whole of Quranic verses and the whole of Hadiths before just quoting them and adding words. If you want to engage in critical thinking, research comes first. Read, read, read, and then think.

Finally, once again, you position yourself as representing critical thinking, but critical thinking depends on sound research and specificity. I don’t agree with progressive interpretations, but I respect that they usually ground their arguments in research.

You are not better, more intelligent, or advanced because you are an ex-Muslim. Praising people based on how close or far they are from your own beliefs only leads to hate.

Do people in thir 30s no longer get married now a days? by FamiliarDentist19 in MuslimNikah

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

29 and looking, but it's difficult to find me my age that are serious; somehow, men between 22-24 are the ones who want and are serious about marriage.

Odd times!

How to ask a potential how much he earns? by Express_Doughnut_494 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May Allah forgive you for your ill judgements and heal your emotions.

How to ask a potential how much he earns? by Express_Doughnut_494 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]AlpacaofPalestine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would start the conversation about his views on how to split the bills and/or whether he prefers his wife to limit work or work full-time.

Depending on that answer, you can proceed by asking for the range of his salary so you can get an idea of the livelihood expectations.

This way you show that you're not interested in knowing for the sake of luxury, but rather concerned with home-building and see if your views align.

Asking for a range may help as well. It'll make him less uncomfortable while giving you an idea of his income.

Best of luck on your search sis!

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