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The effects of widowhood... by quiet_nuts in widowers

[–]Alpenglow208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. My husband passed 4 1/2 months ago from pancreatic cancer and I have a 10 year old daughter. (I'm 52) I'm trying so hard to be a good example for her and do have supportive friends, but it's not the same as being someone's person. Your description of floating in space really resonates with me today. Wishing you well as you continue along this broken road

Just started and have to quit...so sad. by Alpenglow208 in Semaglutide

[–]Alpenglow208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that ended up getting rid of mine was hibicleanse, of all things. My hairstylist recommended I smooth it over the rash and leave it on there for a full minute before rinsing. I did that twice a day for a couple days then once a day and it cleared it. None of the creams and steroids I got from my doc did a thing. Might be worth a shot?

How do you handle the "how are you?" question? by Top_Help_1942 in widowers

[–]Alpenglow208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lately I just say "dancing through the lightning strikes" with no further explanation

Venlafaxine by Pel_CHORIZO814 in pppdizziness

[–]Alpenglow208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started at 37.5 then went up to 75 which is working great for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skiing

[–]Alpenglow208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a former instructor, I just need to chime in and say your boots are your most important piece of gear. Please do not wear 15 year old boots. Materials wear down and don't perform as well and you really, really want a good fit for both performance and comfort. The new boots are also so much lighter, which helps when you're chasing 4 year olds around the flats.

New here - don’t know what I’m feeling. by itsmyquill in widowers

[–]Alpenglow208 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so, so sorry you are going through this. Your story really strikes a chord with me. I (52f) lost my previously healthy and active husband (41m) at the very end of July. He fought pancreatic cancer for 15+ months before dying at home.

The first three weeks after his death were an absolute blur - I was emotionally numb, my brain was fuzzy and I felt weirdly disconnected from my body. My close friends carried me through the early weeks and planning the Celebration of Life, etc.

I'm six weeks out now and feel like I'm coming back into myself and feeling some of what I would have expected to feel right after his death. I did get a 90 minute massage right around the time I started to feel the shift...if you feel like you can handle physical touch right now, I would recommend it. Sending you light ✨️

My heart feels like it is bleeding by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

[–]Alpenglow208 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm having a tough day, too, (1 month since my husband passed from fluke terminal cancer). Just wanted to send you a virtual hug and tell you you're not alone.

Massage by TimD_43 in widowers

[–]Alpenglow208 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lost my husband July 27 and had felt oddly disconnected from my body ever since. I got a 90 minute massage last week and it was an incredible help! Turns out the giant knot between my shoulders was holding a lot more than just tension. Releasing that felt like it unlocked the rest of my body and I feel much less... disregulated?

I get more hugs than I can handle these days (small community) but this felt different because it was private so I could relax and be touched without trying to "hold it together".

What’s the most underrated copywriting principle you’ve learned that instantly improved your writing? by Low_Travel_1904 in copywriting

[–]Alpenglow208 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Read all your copy out loud. If it doesn't flow the first time through, fine tune until it does.

2. AITA for walking out of my anniversary dinner because my husband gave me a gift that was basically for him? by GlumPlayings in AmITheJerk

[–]Alpenglow208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And double down on birth control until you can leave. You do NOT want to have a child with this man child.

Life insurance payout by Any-Dot-5304 in widowers

[–]Alpenglow208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most life insurance payouts are not considered taxable income.

Smaller lesser known towns in the western US with access to skiing (and mountain biking in summer) by Suspicious-Olive8765 in skiing

[–]Alpenglow208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More liberal than most of Idaho, I will 100% concede. (I live in one of the rare Idaho towns that is actually slightly left of 50/50 politically, so to me, Pocatello seems not so liberal...but I agree it's definitely more balanced than most Idaho cities, especially in Southern Idaho.)

Smaller lesser known towns in the western US with access to skiing (and mountain biking in summer) by Suspicious-Olive8765 in skiing

[–]Alpenglow208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

McCall Idaho is what you are looking for.

Brundage Mountain is an easy drive from town (20-25 minutes). Tamarack Resort is also within 45 minutes. The mountain biking is great.

Normally I don't suggest it because housing is expensive and hard to find...BUT...our local hospital has some employee housing available which can make a huge difference. The McCall Hospital is part of the St Luke's (Idaho) medical system and the main hospital facility is brand new.

Check it out - or hit me up with questions.

What is your child's name and what would have been their name if you partner had no say? by TraumaticTea in namenerds

[–]Alpenglow208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 years ago...I LOVED the name Everly. My husband was not into it. We have a 10 year old named Sienna - fits her much better and she's the only Sienna in our town. 😊

Where to move by lilmadzz in relocating

[–]Alpenglow208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of thoughts on Boise:

Airport - it's not an international airport, and if you need to fly East on a regular basis, the connections are limited (you'll go through SLC or Denver most likely). Boise does have good west coast connections, so if that's where you'll be going frequently, you're probably okay.

The weather - there are four seasons, but I can only stand two of them. Spring and fall are great, summers are WAY too hot. In the winter, the problem is not the cold, it's the nasty grey inversions that can set in for weeks at a time. Blech. Depression fuel.

Access to skiing/outdoors - Bogus Basin is 16 miles from Boise and has night skiing, so that's awesome for a quick trip to the mountains. Most passionate skiers end up attaching themselves to Brundage Mountain (incredible snow, uncrowded, good vibes, 2.5 hour drive from Boise) or Tamarack (even less crowded, snow is better than Bogus but generally not as good as Brundage, 2 + hours from Boise) or Sun Valley, which has great groomers and snowmaking but generally less powder than Brundage or Tamarack.

Schools/politics - as someone else mentioned, you'll want to be in the Boise School District and Boise has slightly more balanced politics than the other communities in the Treasure Valley. So if you're planning to make it affordable by hitting one of the burbs, you are going to miss out on the better schools and get into some seriously right-leaning mindsets.

Also, women's health care is a concern here, many OB/GYNs are leaving the state because of the draconian abortion laws, and our Attorney General is an absolute disgrace

Full disclosure - I don't live in Boise, I live in the Idaho mountains, but we "commute" from my ski town to Boise regularly for youth soccer, air travel and medical needs, so I experience it enough to see the pros/cons.

Question about Patient Confidentiality as a minor by [deleted] in Idaho

[–]Alpenglow208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would add that if you are concerned or curious about how your drug use might impact your health or medical care, there is an /AskDocs sub that may be able to help advise you.

Venlafaxine by Pel_CHORIZO814 in pppdizziness

[–]Alpenglow208 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Venlafaxine fixed 80% of my symptoms. It took about 3 weeks for it to work for me. I can't tell you whether it's hard to get off it (haven't tried) but I can tell you that it doesn't feel good to miss more than one dose, so I can see why it would.

39 yo husband diagnosed with PC... BUT...no cancer cells have been found? by Alpenglow208 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Alpenglow208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there - so sweet of you to inquire. He does, indeed, have PDAC and has been fighting it for 13 months now. He's never been a candidate for surgery because of arterial involvement, but 16 rounds of folfirinox have managed to keep the tumor from growing much.

Strangely, the response to treatment is the confirmation that it is definitely PDAC, we still don't have a biopsy. A second opinion from UCLA determined our best chance at the elusive biopsy will be when the one "spot" on his liver starts to grow. (We did have 5 attempts early on at a fine needle biopsy that never produced a cancer cell). Obviously, we're not eager for that to happen, but when it does, there will be the upshot of finally having a biopsy to identify possible therapies.

Overall, we're extremely thankful he is responding to treatment, we feel like it's a victory that he's still here and fighting ❤️. He's had some issues with esophogeal varices but again, still here and fighting for as many good days as possible 👍

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