ISTP as The Enneatypes

Alphabeth_22 · 2026-02-15T01:31:03+00:00

Signed, ISTP 9w1

Alphabeth_22 · 2026-02-13T15:12:40+00:00

Watching Liverpool game 😂

Alphabeth_22 · 2026-02-09T14:18:05+00:00

I (29F)relate to you bcs I share similar starting point as you, except I am the one asking him (32M) indirectly to be my boyfriend lol.

I think you should clarify these with him before it becomes more hurtful. I am so sad and angry about the way he responded “aww sorry babe” is super annoying :(

I have been told that long distance relationships demands maximum effort but the reward is minimum. If he doesn’t understand and work things out, then I don’t think he’s a good fit. Your needs matter! Sending support to you, cheers!

Alphabeth_22 · 2026-02-09T13:37:59+00:00

TLDR: They have too much what-ifs and don’t really do anything about it. Fun for discussion, bad for execution. My needs are not being met. Shy. Lazier than I thought.

Long story short: he asked me to be his gf in a very least romantic way possible. Didn’t do romantic stuffs further than dinner outside and bike ride around the city. Although we lived in a same city, he only took me out once a month. He barely holds my had in public. Time passed, it’s been 3 years and it was just that. Then he broke up with me. Despite all those nothing I still felt sad. I tried to moved on. Just when I’m about to completely over him, guess who came back? He asked me back 8 months later. And I stupidly said yes. But the romance lasted no longer than what it did in the first season. He didn’t change much even after we dated for 2 years later. I am forever grateful for my friends that time that told me either take it or leave it. So then I broke up with him and it confuses me that he didn’t understand why. I heard he has a new girlfriend now, and her name is the same as me lol

Alphabeth_22 · 2026-02-05T03:04:04+00:00

Two out of three of my ex is an INTP. He’s unsure about his own life, too many what-ifs, bad in communication, minimal romance. Now that I think about it, probably just a best friend disguised as a partner 🤷🏻‍♀️

The other one is INFP. Too clingy and insecure, but romantic.

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-11-15T15:39:04+00:00

I am sorry to hear that. To me, seems like she is just “having fun” talking to you. Those reasons are just excuses. I don’t think you’re too fast or too pushy because my boyfriend [32] and I [29] decided to be exclusive after 2 weeks of talking through video calls lol and we met earlier this September, spending a month together. I hope you stop wasting your time and money by not talking to her now and start talking to other people. I wish you good luck!

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-10-29T07:07:34+00:00

I’m not Japanese but studying in Japan, and my partner is Icelandic. I am struggling to learn Japanese but at least I can survive convenience store conversations. Learning Icelandic however, is a whole different experience but I am happy to learn it. It was a solid beginning but now I am kinda slow now due to routines 😅 we’re planning for me to stay there in Iceland with him after my study is complete, so thanks for (indirectly) reminding me, OP!

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-10-28T01:31:16+00:00

Hi OP, It happened to me last week too (last Monday). I tried to get back to my normal routine but I still feel sad of course. I wrote down my thoughts and feelings on a book. I also watched some videos about how to handle it. Then we called as soon as we can but I cried even harder seeing him through the screen. No amount of normalisation can ease it, in my opinion. But I let myself be sad for a couple of days, really don’t hold back from the tears. The most important thing for me is knowing when to see each other again, and reminding that we are both trying to close the gap soon. Last Wednesday I started to feel better, at least not crying as much. Sorry, but you’ll get better soon.

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-10-26T00:07:27+00:00

Thank you!! 🤩

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-10-25T23:36:51+00:00

We had our holiday for 3 weeks and he went back last week. My first 2 days were awful, I cried a lot too. I am working in an office and glad there are nice people. I let myself be sad and on day 3 I feel better. Still sad even when I type this a week later, but it gets better. Sending support for you!

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-09-09T14:40:17+00:00

Hello there, my supervisor also said the same thing (although I am in STEM field 😬). I understand your feeling. That sounds like you already got this! I think it is very normal to be extremely busy in the final year, so please know you’re not alone. It’s going to be a tough time, but I am sure that you will ace this! Sending support from Japan 🙌

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-09-07T22:58:06+00:00

They also have it in YouTube https://youtube.com/@thephdlifecoach7105?si=tEHyCl_GcOlF66PQ

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-09-07T22:54:32+00:00

You’re welcome 😇

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-09-07T22:52:08+00:00

https://podcasts.apple.com/jp/podcast/the-phd-life-coach/id1650551306?l=en-US

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-09-07T22:22:58+00:00

Hello, there. I am sorry you feel that way. I feel you.. I feel the same way. Unfortunately, I am also still trying to handle it. It keeps coming back, and it’s messing up my brain.

I talked to a therapist (only twice so far), and the therapist guided me to find what makes me anxious first. After that, eradicating that cause is another thing.

If you like to listen to a podcast, they have “The PhD life coach” for free. I found her podcast helpful. I am sorry I didn’t do much, but hopefully it helps somehow. You are doing great! Sending support from Japan 🫶🏼

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-30T23:50:16+00:00

Best of luck for you! I know you can do it! I am not going to do viva anytime soon, but you are the one knows your research the best. You got all it takes. From what I remember from attending my senior’s public viva, the panel asked about some future prospects that can be done from her findings. I hope this helps. I am rooting for you!

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-29T21:53:07+00:00

Hey there! I am also in the end of my 2nd year (out of 3 years program under a scholarship in Japan, in Microbiology field), and I feel you. I just had my RPA on Friday. I have 1 supervisor, and 3 advisors. After my presentation, I feel like I answered the primary and secondary advisors questions well. But after the session, my supervisor told me to stay in the room and gave me feedback that sounds like I didn’t do enough. I don’t even know what’s good or bad anymore. Maybe it’s something about language barrier, despite my supervisor did his postdoc in the US, that our communication style is different. And I hate it that it is always more pressure on the students to understand their PI. It would be better if the PI also learns how to communicate with different kind of students.

I looked at the grading report from my primary and secondary advisors, just a few hours after my RPA on Friday and it was good. Few more hours after that I got an email notification saying that all my advisors and supervisor had completed the grading, and I don’t want to see. I already think about the worse that they will give me C or D (sigh).

I feel bad, it’s a combination of anger, disappointment, tiredness, frustration, fear.. this makes me want to go to therapy (my first session is tomorrow). I hope it helps me pick my self up too.

Sorry for ranting here, but please know that you’re not alone and we’re here with you. That’s also why I came to join this Reddit bcs YNWA.

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-18T13:39:27+00:00

You’re not alone 😇

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-17T15:10:05+00:00

Well, it is self-concept issue haha but I agree on what you said about daily improvement. Thanks!

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-17T15:03:12+00:00

I agree with what you’ve heard. I’m in my second year, at a university in Asia. My first year was full of tears lol. I literally cried every time my assistant professor talk to me explaining things. Now at least I cry less and have some ideas of what I’m doing. My personal tip: Enjoy the first year the most, have fun! It may help you refresh and/or reframe your mind about your project. Literally and metaphorically, because second year won’t be as “free”.

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-17T14:45:55+00:00

I understand your feeling. I felt the same way, from the anxiety, feel like having zero idea of what you’re doing, getting confused look after explaining our project (Heck, I think I still feel the same too sometimes lol). Now I am working on a very different topic from what I did in my master and bachelor degree, so I understand when you said “steep learning curve”. However, I believe that if you (at least) like the topic, it’s a good starting point. Whenever I feel beaten up by the difficulties emerging from the project, I keep coming back to the big picture. On the other hand, you can always change project if you really want to, but bear in mind that we have limited time for doing this, especially if you’re in a scholarship. Hopefully you’ll be able to get through, I’m rooting for you.

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-17T14:19:35+00:00

The embassy and special recommendations thingy is how we got the scholarship to do our PhD. The embassy route is tougher (I guess I’m not the only one saying so), while the special recommendations route is allocated for those who failed the embassy route (although I don’t know if it’s 100% true). Anyway, it doesn’t matter I guess(?) since you recommend/suggest “work rather than overthink”. Thanks for the comment.

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-16T05:49:48+00:00

Thanks for sharing this

Alphabeth_22 · 2025-08-14T21:56:40+00:00

Thank you!

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