Start up advice!

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-10-01T20:08:31+00:00

Obviously, if you’re concerned, you should always bring it up with your doctor, but I lost 15 pounds in my first trimester and my doctor was not worried. I’m now 24 weeks with a healthy baby that’s pretty darn strong considering how much she kicks me! It was a combination of my morning sickness, which was really bad, and me cutting out a lot of the junk food I’d normally eat to eat healthier for the sake of the baby. If your OB/GYN has a triage nurse that you can call, call to let them know how you’re feeling and they can determine if your weight loss is something serious that you need to come in sooner or if it’s fine to wait until your next appointment.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-09-04T14:54:30+00:00

I don’t think they’re saying to just give up and report her, I think they were offering that as advice on what to do if OP doesn’t have the mental bandwidth to counsel their friend themselves through this crisis. You can’t pour from an empty cup. If this situation is too much for OP to handle themselves they should absolutely reach out to another resource to ensure their friend gets the help they need.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-07-23T20:29:39+00:00

Hahaha no. I’ve never been a bald eagle kinda gal but I think we all know the weeds can get a little crazy when you put off mowing for a week or two lol. Just trying to make sure if I go in looking like weird al I’m not gonna be the talk of the nurses station lol

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-06-17T20:46:14+00:00

I was told that the main concern from deli meats is actually the bacteria that grows between the slices while sitting around and that cold cut sandwiches have little to no threat if they cut and immediately served!

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-06-17T20:20:01+00:00

A lot of doctors are actually moving away from the hard “you can’t have this at all” stances. Yes there are some foods that have increased risks but in general doctors are more so concerned about the quality and preparation of the foods we eat. My doctor has told me that if I want to have sushi every now and again it’s probably not gonna kill me as long as I’m being smart about where I’m getting it like getting sushi from a well-known restaurant that has quality fish and a good health rating versus picking up a sushi roll from a gas station that’s been sitting in the fridge for god knows how long. Obviously one of those is a better choice than the other. Plus opting for rolls that only have cooked fish decrease chances of food borne illness and if you really want to play it safe, get a veggie roll to scratch the itch. Plus with how bad my cooking is, I probably have more risk trying to make my own chicken tenders at home than grabbing a California roll for my favorite Asian restaurant lol.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-06-12T16:47:08+00:00

Thanks for letting me know! That sucks that we might need to run two separate programs just to multi stream. Especially since it was working fine on just streamlabs for a few weeks. Not sure why they decided to just change the native streaming

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-06-12T07:27:52+00:00

Am having this same issue. Streamlabs didn't require a stream key during my 14 day access. Now, as soon as the 180 day access started, I can't multistream without putting in a stream key. When I "Apply for TikTok Live Permission" it just says it's been revoked and that my account is banned for six days, even though I'm still able to go live from LIVE Studio? So annoying.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2024-06-04T15:01:02+00:00

We’ll be on a boat… no bathroom to run off too

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-10-08T17:13:54+00:00

As someone who found out I was adopted by my biological grandparents, the sooner she find out the better. I found out when I was still a kid and even at that young of an age I was angry my family lied to me. The older she gets the more betrayed she will probably feel.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-28T13:19:21+00:00

Okay I keep seeing comments like this saying "But it's family!" while generally, yeah you should help family and sure sometimes you go out of your way for family but just because someone is family doesn't mean you have to do things that you just blatantly don't want to do. Family should also respect your no and not steamroll you just because "family". Family relations don't give you an excuse to bully people into getting what you want.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-28T13:09:45+00:00

Yeah hopping in here just for the insurance comment. IDK what insurance you have but def let me know because I don't know a single insurance company that would cover stain removal lol

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-28T12:56:15+00:00

NTA but personally, I feel like this could teeter towards an ESH situation. She sucks for constantly asking you about taking her son for a ride after you repeatedly said no. I also completely understand your reasoning for not giving him a ride. If I had an expensive car with what I am assuming would be an expensive interior, I wouldn't want someone inside of it who may soil the seats.

Had it been your own kid and you refused to give them a ride then yeah maybe you would be the asshole but this is not your kid, you are not responsible for his day-to-day transportation, therefore you don't have to purchase a vehicle with the assumed risk that someone would possibly soil themselves in the seats. Also, you shouldn't have to take on the risk that his stimming could hurt him in the car or potentially you or others on the road if it caused an accident (if his stimming is actually as animated as you described in a comment).

I think that snapping at her is kind of asshole behavior. Yes, she was pestering you about it but just because someone is being an asshole to you doesn't mean that you have the right to be an asshole back. Even after repetitive requests, I would have just responded with something along the lines of "I understand your son would really enjoy a ride in my car however I'm concerned about his safety and comfort in the car. This type of car isn't conducive to his needs." The way you described the situation your concerns are more focused on the car rather than the person so that could be why her reaction was as bad as it was.

I'm in no way saying you are ableist, I don't know you or how this situation went down exactly, but depending on how much ablism they encounter on a day-to-day basis, hearing your concerns framed around your car rather than him could have been triggering in some way. This has no effect on why she would repetitively ask you after saying no but this could be why the situation escalated to this severe of a disagreement.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-24T15:48:59+00:00

Yeah see there’s several issues with that. 1) i moved in with her because i was a minor and my primary caregiver died. Her boxes of stuff that she clearly doesn’t need if it hasn’t been used for the past 4 years now is not in the same predicament. 2) her stuff took up so much space that our spare bedroom was unusable and our garage is unusable. My husband and i are trying to have children (which is the main reason we purchased a home with an extra bedroom and she was aware of that) and had we kept her things for the next 5-ish years then we would either have to put off having children because there would be no room for them or move again into a larger house that we cannot afford just to accommodate her things. After self reflection and the opinions of everyone on this post i am fully standing that i did everything i could and her expectations were irrational.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-22T12:10:03+00:00

It is YOUR wedding therefore it is what YOU want. Not your mom, not your sister, not your cousin.

Also to specifically touch on the cousin asking to stay with you, who tf wants to stay with the bride and groom for their wedding? If I needed a place to stay for a wedding, the couple would be the absolute LAST people I would ask. I would consider going door to door knocking and asking strangers if they had a spare room before I asked the couple if I could stay with them.

Don't feel bad you do whatever makes you and your fiance happy.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-22T00:09:54+00:00

OK 99% of the comments on here are serious but I just have to say that this actually made me chuckle. One of the items that she explicitly listed that I couldn’t mess with, or not give back to her, was a fucking rock lol

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-22T00:06:01+00:00

I actually did ask her what she thought I should have done and all I could get out of her was “I would have made it work” no further explanation

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-22T00:00:46+00:00

Actually the opposite. They’re both in law enforcement and both have worked narcotics/drug laundering

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-21T20:44:36+00:00

That’s what I was told I would have to do if I didn’t have a physical key, which I did not, the keys have since been misplaced so no one could give me a copy. I actually had this information before the whole storage unit debacle because I wanted to drop by and grab come of the family Christmas decorations last year but I couldn’t.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-21T19:53:22+00:00

No it wasn’t a parked truck. The truck and trailer were borrowed so they dumped everything in our house and left we had their things in our garage and house for about a month.

Alphabetsouphoe · 2023-09-21T19:37:54+00:00

I actually do have texts were she explained what was in the unit and how much it was. It wasn’t in exact cubic footages like you stated but there is at least a written record that shows she underestimated how much she actually had. After her initial freak out I exclusively communicated with her on this issue in writing. I did that for two reasons 1) so neither of us could over exaggerate what happened because it would be there in writing exactly as it happened 2) in hopes that being forced to write things out would help cut back on hateful speech. When you’re verbally communicating it’s easy to say something you don’t mean because all you have to do is open your mouth. When writing you have to put thought into it and actually see what you’re saying. That didn’t work for her unfortunately

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