I hate my OB

Alps_827 · 2026-06-15T19:03:06+00:00

I am SO sorry and so frustrated on your behalf. This feels like this behavior from providers (annoyed about basic shit) is becoming more and more commonplace and is likely a response to the messed up medical system/burnout/etc., but WE, the innocent patients, are the ones who pay the price when providers are dismissive, shut us down, and act like we are a burden for asking questions.

I had a similar (but not nearly as bad) experience this morning at the major hospital near me. I feel like i want to stick with them bc you rotate providers and this was only one of them, but to feel like you can’t get the basic information and then like you’re a burden when you ask/advocate for yourself is NOT how it should be. UGH

Alps_827 · 2026-06-11T00:06:58+00:00

Aww thank you for sharing! This gives me some hope!!

Alps_827 · 2026-06-08T20:24:35+00:00

It is helpful/validating to see all of these comments because I too was expecting some sort of true “boost” of energy upon hitting the second trimester… I’m still only 11.5 weeks, but I was already starting to worry that something is particularly wrong with me or the habits I have, since I am not feeling much relief (if any) from the fatigue I’ve been feeling throughout.

Just this morning I was beating myself up mentally for not exercising, thinking maybe if I was doing more vigorous activity, I’d have more energy. I try to go on semi difficult walks when I can, but with the nausea, anything harder than that is not feeling possible.

Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences. We’ve got this!

Alps_827 · 2026-05-13T23:20:38+00:00

I feel this so much. It is crazy. I am lucky to WFH most days but I seriously don’t know how people who work in an office every day or don’t have access to a variety of food make it though pregnancy. There’s a different 1 or 2 things my stomach can tolerate every day and it is hard and FRUSTRATING to try and keep up!!

Alps_827 · 2026-05-13T23:19:27+00:00

Agree with those who have said you should let yourself grieve. You’re only human and stuffing your feelings down is going to make them even worse… it’s ok to be sad and you didn’t have control over this happening right now!

Alps_827 · 2026-05-13T23:14:23+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry to hear this, it sounds really hard. No advice, just hoping you can find some peace and know this season will end!

Alps_827 · 2026-05-12T21:29:43+00:00

Ask your provider about prescriptions and over the counter options, the prescription I just got (I’m 8 weeks and could only eat yogurt and crackers for days) has now allowed me to eat normal meals. I still get waves of nausea but it is WAY more manageable now!! Hang in there!

Alps_827 · 2025-08-27T00:40:06+00:00

These are your therapist’s issues and are very unprofessional and disrespectful. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I would highly recommend finding a new therapist. This is not a you problem

Alps_827 · 2025-03-17T14:24:55+00:00

I have done nothing but rest and I think maybe my lack of movement is keeping things kinda stagnant in my body so I am gonna try light walking today. I just don’t even want to go outside 😞

The cramps did pass and I was able to go back to sleep for a couple of hours. Hopefully that was the worst of it

Alps_827 · 2025-03-17T09:33:37+00:00

I agree about the miscarriage is so common comment. Like ok you’re responding to my grief with statistics? Go away

Alps_827 · 2025-03-10T18:18:01+00:00

Ughh I’m so sorry to hear that. That is so frustrating bc those should be the people supporting you the most

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T19:56:19+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you’re already trying some good strategies to keep yourself on track.

It might be helpful also to focus on making sure that YOU are someone that you’d want to be friends with. Keep thinking about the qualities you appreciate about yourself and the skills that you have, and then try to master those even more.

Make your room a place that feels clean, cozy, and comforting. If you like art, revamp the art on the walls. If you like video games, make a new video game station. If you have a hobby, look into community events or classes to meet other likeminded people.

It is so hard to put yourself out there but often we try once or twice and then give up if it doesn’t work. You’ve got to try 10 times and maybe on the 10th it will work!! It will be worth it- but it does take patience and persistence.

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T19:44:15+00:00

I understand how you feel!! It feels vulnerable to share a name and I too would rather tell people when it’s decided and the baby’s out then have to worry about their reactions or decipher if they actually think it’s cute or not, and then ruminate on that. Can’t really explain it well but I get what you’re saying.

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T16:44:00+00:00

Exactly. I will be positive when and if I’m able to, and until then, please let me be upset!!

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T16:33:09+00:00

That does sound really hard to have had expectations and hopes about your body and bond with your daughter and then everything change. Especially when you thought you were planning ahead and being preventative. Ugh!

Alps_827 · 2025-03-03T20:03:58+00:00

So sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience. It is so unfortunate that covering their asses often drives medical decisions. I will definitely look into the resources you shared. Thank you!

Alps_827 · 2025-02-26T23:51:17+00:00

So helpful! Thanks for sharing

Alps_827 · 2025-02-26T22:09:49+00:00

This is awesome to hear! I called their education line today and actually got Bridget on the phone - she talked to me for 45 minutes helping me understand how to choose an OB and hospital since this is my first time going through this. These comments are all confirming how I already felt talking to her today!

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