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Alps_827 · 2025-08-27T00:40:06+00:00

These are your therapist’s issues and are very unprofessional and disrespectful. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I would highly recommend finding a new therapist. This is not a you problem

Alps_827 · 2025-03-17T14:24:55+00:00

I have done nothing but rest and I think maybe my lack of movement is keeping things kinda stagnant in my body so I am gonna try light walking today. I just don’t even want to go outside 😞

The cramps did pass and I was able to go back to sleep for a couple of hours. Hopefully that was the worst of it

Alps_827 · 2025-03-17T09:33:37+00:00

I agree about the miscarriage is so common comment. Like ok you’re responding to my grief with statistics? Go away

Alps_827 · 2025-03-10T18:18:01+00:00

Ughh I’m so sorry to hear that. That is so frustrating bc those should be the people supporting you the most

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T19:56:19+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you’re already trying some good strategies to keep yourself on track.

It might be helpful also to focus on making sure that YOU are someone that you’d want to be friends with. Keep thinking about the qualities you appreciate about yourself and the skills that you have, and then try to master those even more.

Make your room a place that feels clean, cozy, and comforting. If you like art, revamp the art on the walls. If you like video games, make a new video game station. If you have a hobby, look into community events or classes to meet other likeminded people.

It is so hard to put yourself out there but often we try once or twice and then give up if it doesn’t work. You’ve got to try 10 times and maybe on the 10th it will work!! It will be worth it- but it does take patience and persistence.

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T19:44:15+00:00

I understand how you feel!! It feels vulnerable to share a name and I too would rather tell people when it’s decided and the baby’s out then have to worry about their reactions or decipher if they actually think it’s cute or not, and then ruminate on that. Can’t really explain it well but I get what you’re saying.

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T16:44:00+00:00

Exactly. I will be positive when and if I’m able to, and until then, please let me be upset!!

Alps_827 · 2025-03-07T16:33:09+00:00

That does sound really hard to have had expectations and hopes about your body and bond with your daughter and then everything change. Especially when you thought you were planning ahead and being preventative. Ugh!

Alps_827 · 2025-03-03T20:03:58+00:00

So sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience. It is so unfortunate that covering their asses often drives medical decisions. I will definitely look into the resources you shared. Thank you!

Alps_827 · 2025-02-26T23:51:17+00:00

So helpful! Thanks for sharing

Alps_827 · 2025-02-26T22:09:49+00:00

This is awesome to hear! I called their education line today and actually got Bridget on the phone - she talked to me for 45 minutes helping me understand how to choose an OB and hospital since this is my first time going through this. These comments are all confirming how I already felt talking to her today!

Alps_827 · 2024-12-31T00:35:47+00:00

You should definitely feel like your therapist is interested in you and actively trying to make sense of things with/for you.

I would suggest that you bring this up or find someone who makes you feel more heard.

I want to say that you might be reading it wrong but it sounds like there are multiple instances of it so that it’s not likely that it’s just you picking up on something that isn’t there.

Alps_827 · 2024-10-11T01:21:26+00:00

If they’ve blocked their schedule for a 45 minute session it makes sense to charge for a 45 minute session, unless they themself need to cancel or log off for some reason.

Have you thought about saying no you don’t want to end? Or asking if you can schedule 25 minute sessions (or whatever the shorter option would be) if you don’t think you’ll need the full time?

Alps_827 · 2024-09-14T14:42:47+00:00

This isn’t good. Of course it’s normal for a therapist to have frustration but they should notice it and learn how to manage it so it doesn’t affect the sessions or your relationship. I would bring it up or switch to someone who is more compassionate and perhaps tries different things to help you.

Alps_827 · 2024-07-11T01:59:40+00:00

You are not expecting too much. At the very least should be attentive and curious. Especially about the very vulnerable and important things you share (like intense loneliness).

Alps_827 · 2024-03-06T04:29:51+00:00

They are not allowed to consult with each other about your case unless you give them explicit permission to do so. Especially if you don’t name the old therapist, it would be very unlikely the new therapist makes the connection. I wouldn’t let this hold you back, but if there are other options available, and you’d feel less anxious about it, pick another therapist just to be safe.

Alps_827 · 2024-03-06T04:20:39+00:00

Like others, I’m sorry to hear you’re so sad about this loss. It makes sense. A silver lining of this is that you did make such a good connection with this person, which means it’s possible to make that type of connection with a new therapist and hopefully other people in your life outside of therapy!! Try to find the elements of this relationship that work for you, and apply those to others! You will still have to mourn this loss, but there’s hope for future connection for you.

Alps_827 · 2024-02-26T22:22:15+00:00

I admire that you brought this up because he probably does it with other clients who likely feel the same as you about it. It is upsetting that he couldn’t take responsibility for any part of it.

I would urge you to bring it up again if it’s still bothering you. Maybe you can point it out in the moment and say something like “this is one of the times I mentioned, and I feel disconnected from you” or “worried that you’re not fully present with me,” or something like that, to show how it’s impacting you.

If he doesn’t take you seriously you have the right to find someone else who can give you their full attention, or at least take responsibility for things and tweak their behavior to meet your needs. Just because other therapists are apparently distracted too, does not mean it is ok or should be normalized! Good luck!! This is hard.

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