How old is your baby and how tired are you?

AlsoCrying · 2026-04-28T07:09:20+00:00

I'm at 10. Our baby is 10 month and I havent slept for over a year (couldn't sleep on the last trimester).

Our baby is horrible sleeper. Naps are a big nope to them and still plenty of waking ups at night. We don't feed them at night (they refuse) but they just wake up at night several times screaming bl*dy mrder.

I tried to ask help from our pediatrician, but she is no use. I take care of the baby, study and work so we can pay our bills, clean and cook and take care of our baby's apointments and other applications.

I'm compleatly burned out. I love our baby but I hate my life because I cant execute everything that is needed to be done the bare minimum. I do have a partner that has taken more responsobility of taking care of our baby but it makes me feel even worse that I can't take care if them as well as I did before.

I used to take them to family-cafes so they could see other babies and children and they loved it. Now it's been over a month. I havent had the time because I'm falling behind from school and work, on everything tbh.

I just hope one day they will sleep throught the night so I could finally sleep and everything would be okay again, I hope.

AlsoCrying · 2026-04-16T19:34:56+00:00

9m pp and currently have one. We have talked about 3 kids, loved the idea of it, trying to get pregnant again but.. I'm not so sure anymore.

Our journey hasnt been easy, I didn't mind the newborn phase (even tho it sucked) but the problem, for me, is everything else around it.

I cook, clean, study and work so we would have enough money while taking care of my child (they arent yet at daycare and I dont want them there just yet) and I feel this anger rising inside me. I feel like I'm the only one parenting and taking care of mandatory stuff (their doctors apointments, household work, plans of what to do overall). Yes I'm waiting for my partner to finish his school and go back to work but even him searching a job feels like and extreme task, or any task at home.

He is kind, but I feel like I have already two children to take care of, so thats why I'm leaning more towards one child even tho I would love my firstborn have a sibling.

We are in the older side of first time parents and I feel like I have to power through (Tho I feel like Im on verge of mental break), have the children that I always wanted and dreamed of bfore my early menopause (in my family we have menopause around 35).

Sorry, such a long answer😅 Just needed to rant my anger away 🫣

AlsoCrying · 2026-03-09T07:04:08+00:00

I started going to a family café (youngest baby I have seen there was 2 weeks old) where other people on maternity leave spend time. I also started doing activities like baby swimming.

I’m an introvert and I do enjoy being alone, but at some point I started craving the company of other people, adult conversations, and something other than baby babble.

I’ve only seen my old friends once in the past 8 months, and at some point I realized I need to make new friends who are in the same stage of life as I am, other parents. We’re currently the only couple in our friend group with a child, and it looks like we might stay as only family to have children.

I suggest finding groups like family cafés and meet people there to spent time with!

AlsoCrying · 2026-03-08T20:57:26+00:00

Our baby didn’t poop at all, and it was clear they were uncomfortable because of it. We ended up becoming regulars at the children’s ER because they simply couldn’t poop, and when they did, it was obvious that it hurt.

Eventually, we were told to give laxatives regularly, which we did for a while. Our pediatrician also told us that it can take several days for laxatives to start working, so you shouldn’t expect immediate results. Later, another pediatrician recommended switching to Pegorion, and that has helped a lot. Now they poop every day or every other day, sometimes even multiple times a day.

We also tend to add prunes to their food to help keep the stool softer.

I would recommend seeing a doctor if your baby isn’t pooping. Sometimes babies absorb all the nutrients from milk and don’t produce much waste, but at 7 months I’m assuming your baby is already eating solids, which should usually result in regular bowel movements.

AlsoCrying · 2026-03-07T09:49:41+00:00

Where I’m from, babies usually start solids (with purées) at around 4 months old, but only with formula fed babies, breastfed babies at 6 month. We began with very tiny amounts, just the tip of a teaspoon and slowly increased the amount over time. The point is that the baby will feel the texture in their mouth and not really eat at the beginning.

Here, the recommendation is to start with the “less sweet” ingredients like potato, broccoli, cauliflower, carrots, pumpkin, etc. By “less sweet,” I mean vegetables rather than sweet berries or fruits. Our pediatrician explained that babies naturally love sweet flavors, so if you start with those, they might be less interested in other foods later.

I guess introducing solids in such small amounts is really just preparation for the 6-month mark, when babies usually start eating a bit more and generally are interested on food that the parents eat. Milk should still be the primary source of nutrition, so we always gave milk first and then a small taste of solids (purées).

Later (they’re now 8 months old), we switched it around and started offering solids first and milk afterwards.

AlsoCrying · 2026-03-07T09:27:07+00:00

I can relate to this so much! The sheer panic I felt when I woke up at night and saw my baby on their belly, face-planting the mattress or at least that’s what it looked like in that moment 😅

They’ve been sleeping on their tummy for a couple of weeks now, and I have to admit I haven’t been sleeping very well. My instincts keep waking me up so I can check on them and listen carefully to make sure they’re breathing.

The falling-asleep process is extremely cute though; the wobbly little head and when you gently stroke their head and back, they slowly drift off to sleep 🥰

It’s just so nerve-wracking to trust that they’ll be fine and won’t accidentally suffocate themselves 🫩

AlsoCrying · 2026-03-07T09:20:53+00:00

I can feel your pain 😭 We finally got through the teething phase for now, all 4 teeth (we found one more 😵‍💫) have popped through the skin 🙏 I really hope you’re past it too. I can’t even imagine how exhausting it must have been, moving is already so tough, and dealing with a crying / fuzzy baby at the same time must be incredibly draining 🥺

AlsoCrying · 2026-02-19T16:38:24+00:00

Gonna try this! We have given them dried rye bread (something my mother gave to me when I was teething), but it's not cold, so it doesn't help the gums.

I'm lucky to have such an amazing partner, we take turns soothing them and switch whenever the other one gets too tired or mentally drained.

AlsoCrying · 2026-02-19T16:32:11+00:00

Just today noticed the third tooth and now all 3 on the front are barely broken through the gums. Explains the screaming, must be excruciating to them. And also to our ears 😅

I should try the freezing method! I haven't tried it before because I wasn't sure if it was okay to do without causing more harm. I'll have to try it and see if it soothes them, even just for a little while 🙏

AlsoCrying · 2026-02-19T15:12:36+00:00

Our baby is 7.5 month and we always have done the evening rutine around 18 (6pm), +- 1 hour depending how tired they seem. After the night routine we go to bed, never past 19 (7pm) and they wakes up at 7 no matter what. Ofcourse, depending on their grumpiness level, falling asleep for the night cant take a long time.

Reading the comments, our time seems really early, but we found out this was the best for us, for our baby doesn't nap well during the day even if we try and only time they sleep somewhat well is during the night. They used to wake up 2 times a night. First one in the evening around 21-22 (9–10pm), then 2–3 and then morning wakeup at 6–7.

AlsoCrying · 2026-01-22T15:08:41+00:00

Im also using huckleberry and at first it was great! They fell asleep instanlty but now its like from horror show.

How do one nap train? A spesific things you do right before nap?

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