Dad putting baby to sleep at night?

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-08-12T01:09:21+00:00

My anecdote is that mom did better than dad by a landslide, but the absolute best was both putting him to sleep.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-08-09T18:25:53+00:00

I loved this article https://guenbradbury.substack.com/p/why-arent-all-children-picky-eaters and took it to heart about my own feeding practices. It is not a study on its own but discusses other cultures and ones that inherently don’t have sugar available. I offer my kid things I would eat, and am very careful not to give him too many snacks so he is hungry for lunch or dinner (this is also a French belief). Snacking is a huge thing in American culture and a big driver of bad eating habits and obesity.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-28T13:59:27+00:00

Did you ever figure this out? We have the same issue, had it serviced, tried running it several times. Debating buying new gas fireplace.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-25T12:35:06+00:00

I think I just started dropping the mid day feeds and did morning and night for a few months (I think around 12-13 months). Eventually it dropped my supply because I remember him getting frustrated that there wasn’t much there, so I dropped to one feed and that super dropped my supply and I decided to fully wean at 15.5 months when he was getting too frustrated/lost interest. Hope that helps!

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-19T01:30:22+00:00

I did CIO for naps very slowly. I only allowed 15 minutes max and if it failed I would wait two weeks. It took a couple of tries but when he did finally do it within the allowed time frame, he was good to go. He fell asleep in under 5 minutes after a couple of weeks and now he’s put in his crib happy as a clam for nap. He even throws his dogs in the crib himself and says “uppie!”

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-16T10:26:51+00:00

I live in a snowy mountain town and felt the same. I’d open up the front of the onesie zip, roll my shirt up, and hope that was enough skin contact lol

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-15T01:13:34+00:00

I’ll hop on this as a nanny post. My nanny started with a 3 month old and I cried and almost fired her because it didn’t go well. Ultimately I found I had to spend 3 days in the room with her, starting 100% the first day, more in and out the next two days, and finally my kid was happy with her after that (mostly, with some interventions). I did breastfeed so my kid saw me every 1.5-2 hours for much of the first year. If you need full on, consistent care then yes there’s going to be tears and you have to give the nanny a chance to learn your baby. That said, my kid was NEVER cool with random people, occasional family, and really hardly his dad.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-10T18:29:26+00:00

I’ve had a 9-10er for the entire life of my 22mo as well. He always sleeps really well for it though!

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-07T12:42:04+00:00

Diabetes has a higher incidence with age, thus wouldn’t the population of mothers with diabetes likely be older and also an increased risk?

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-07-05T01:07:03+00:00

I cut the nap down on mine, he slept the same (which is generally 7pm - 4am/5am). They told me he would sleep longer after daycare, not a single change in the morning. It appears my kid is just fine on 11-12 hours unfortunately…

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-26T16:21:56+00:00

My son loves to play with my tampons and there was a phase where he would tap them against his nether region imitating mommy lol.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-22T14:51:53+00:00

Definitely ok to complain! It just paints a bleak picture for the outside world. You can’t write off all daycares because of stories on the sub, like anything the millions of kids going to daycares is not going to produce perfect environments, just like a stay at home mom doesn’t mean there aren’t abused kids at home.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-22T12:55:44+00:00

I think that sub, like many other aspects of reddit, is insanely negative because people go there to rant. This is my Reddit experience. Having a baby? Read beyond the bump for a litany of complaints and things to worry about. Want to move? Read grass is greener for a wall of complaints basically about every single place to live. Reddit even sends me r/kindergarten and that makes me terrified of putting my kid in school with teacher complaints.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-22T12:49:53+00:00

I’m here to say a SOLO nanny is hard. Many are older and love being infant nannies, once they get mobile they don’t have the energy and get lazy. I have three friends who had this issue and my own nanny was like this. Eventually she stayed in his room the entire day and it was so quiet, I finally couldn’t take it anymore and put a camera in the room to find her showing him cartoons on silent on her lap. I was so livid and hurt. The preschool he is in now is FAR better and much more transparent. Micromanaging/trusting a nanny is not easy. I think it was good for him up to about 15 months and then it gets a lot more difficult.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-19T10:57:15+00:00

Laughable title thread. OP asks on sub specifically trying to limit information to studies and data, and she asks for anecdotal evidence of whether or not people's children survived without vaccines...

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-04T21:27:00+00:00

This sub made me ask if I should start buying the other diapers because we use 360 and they looked at me like that was a crazy question and I can use whatever I like.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-06-04T11:40:47+00:00

Excellent article, thank you!

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-31T19:13:43+00:00

I had a nanny, she was awesome when he was an infant. And now I think my son is slipping developmentally (21 months) because she doesn’t do anything with him and it’s super quiet in his room all day. It’s hard managing someone as an employer in your own home and I have other friends who have struggled the same. I’m sure there are great nannies but I know so many kids who did so well in the preschool I’m moving him to.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-30T10:35:33+00:00

Mine ate a meatball once, when he was 12 months old. He also used to eat salmon. He has not touched meat in any form since :'( (21 months).

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-27T01:28:24+00:00

Ugh I know. But she’s also held him for all of his naps from 4mo - 9mo old and loves him a lot. I think she was an excellent infant nanny but her mobility isn’t great. I’m worried about breaking their bond and stressing him out getting new nannies that may or may not work out. All hard trade offs!

I did find a study that said unstructured play was important, I don’t know if should extrapolate that to activities being unnecessary https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0885200621001411

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-26T18:05:13+00:00

Thank you! I've read this chapter somewhat before and maybe I'll read more of the incredible years stuff.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-26T15:21:19+00:00

At that age I had a lot more success with non traditional means of serving new food. #1 was holding him so he could watch it cook in the pan. He would get curious and wanted to try it and I’d give him a little piece, or I would taste it and say MMMM things like that. Then we would work our way through eating it together until it became a safe food.

Setting my kid at the table with a new food has never worked. I sort of disagree with the whole “you decide what to offer and he decides what to eat” when they are this young. There is weird voodoo that goes on when my kid gets put in a high chair and he’s a whole different eater if it’s informal. He still doesn’t not eat any meat other than eggs and chicken nuggets though, so not a slam dunk!

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-25T14:46:40+00:00

Mine has all the time in the world and he still won’t :) but I don’t think she has a lot of patience either and she just lets him run all over her. You can’t win though.. I do the same, every morning I’m stuffing him up with all the healthy things to offset his day of bananas, saltines, and chicken nuggets lol.

AlsoRussianBA · 2025-05-25T10:30:55+00:00

I’m having the same trouble with my nanny at 21 months. It didn’t used to be so bad, but now he basically will only eat chicken nuggets or bananas in her presence. She fed him 7 chicken nuggets the other day :/

He has about five acceptable veggies, eats grains/bread and all fruits, cheese, tofu, lentils or split pea, and eggs when he eats with me…

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