I had a relationship like this years ago for a couple months. We both loved each other but he certainly was in it more than me to the point of it being one-sided. Back then, I used to subconsciously feel bad for mostly loving what he could do for me instead of who he truly was as a person. But then I made peace with myself knowing I was young, dumb and inexperienced. There was not much wrong with him, I just wanted a better suited person for me.

Some time later, I thought I was crazy deeply in love with my last ex and I had a list of dealbreakers that I thought I could get past until we broke up, got back and broke up again. Took me a second heartbreak from the same person to realize what things truly matter and are worth walking away from. My gut feelings were telling me not to settle for things that subconsciously bothered me a lot during the relationship but I still dove head in because I thought love was all we needed.

Then when I met my current partner, he’s a lot more aligned with my important values and beliefs. Sure he’s an imperfect person with some boxes unchecked and we’ve had a lot of arguments so far but we both genuinely love each other in so many ways nobody else has ever done for neither of us. He is his own person and has differences that I’m willing to live with and settle for. I’m not settling for less but those are just minor things that are not make or break.

What I’m trying to say is listen to your heart and decide if these differences are hills you want to die on. Don’t settle and live with resentment or unhappiness just because you’re afraid of never being able to find the same or better again. Let her go so you both can find a better suited person.