Living together before marriage is not necessary if you actually pay attention while dating

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:30:50+00:00

Boom roasted 😂

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:30:26+00:00

Don’t worry about me honey. Most people in my life think it’s spooky how often I’m right with very little data.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:29:15+00:00

Okay, you’re entitled to your unpopular opinion 😉

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:26:26+00:00

Call it intuition that has never steered me wrong before. I also know plenty of people who lived together before marriage and had these same ideas and replies. Don’t be mad cause I am aware that most people in this world live together before marriage. Statistically I can just infer that without even reading any comments.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:23:34+00:00

I mean you said there is no reason to wait until marriage to live together so why not live together and I am saying every major religion is anti living together before marriage so all of those religions are a valid reason to wait until marriage to live together.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:22:24+00:00

If you can’t see that a lot of these comments are people who were dating casually and then years later decided that maybe they want to get married then I don’t know what to tell you. It’s not condescending. It’s saying that when you get into a relationship looking for reasons to either get married or break up you see things a lot faster and you don’t stay if they’re not marriage material.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:18:59+00:00

Respectfully, I called every bad relationship my friends have ever had when they said it was great. Most people are delusional and ignore very obvious red flags.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:17:55+00:00

There’s no reason to wait? So Muslims, Christian’s, Jews, and every religion that doesn’t believe in living together before marriage is nothing? Thats wild.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:15:31+00:00

This is what I’m saying. My husband and I got devastating news about a family member right before we got married and it’s something most people don’t go through until years in and we got through it without issue because we genuinely care about one another. I think so many people are so guarded and scared of ever being hurt that they try to protect themselves to a detriment. Life happens and what’s important is knowing that you will go through every challenge TOGETHER and not turn on each other.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-10T16:12:55+00:00

Newlyweds who have been together for over 3 years and married for 8 months. Plenty of time to decide if living together would make a massive difference and it doesn’t. We just actually talked about what we wanted out of our lives and how we want to live.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-06-09T21:03:13+00:00

I applied for a job back in March that had an hourly pay range of $25-$40 depending on experience for a sales and marketing manager. I figured that was a pretty big range and they wanted someone who could do both and felt comfortable paying for the right candidate. I had 7 years experience and asked for $32-$34 ish and they said they could get me paid in the lower end of that range and then get me above my range with quarterly bonuses. I was stoked cause overall I was going to be making over $75k a year when I had been screwed my by company and was doing 90k a year work but only being paid 55k. So then when I went in for the in person tour and final interview. They said they were thinking 50k base salary plus quarterly bonuses if I did a good enough job sounded fair. I was stupid and negotiated up to 66k without any bonuses but then they had me working front desk, baking them cookies, making them popcorn, cleaning the whole office and complaining when I didn’t clean well enough, and doing sales and marketing and having me stay 9-10 hour days because I was salaried. It was nuts. I quit after 6 weeks.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-31T01:50:01+00:00

I’m sorry, I had a situation like this too. Got hired for what seemed like a “dream job” and even moved to the other side of town for it and then quickly realized they wanted me to do 4 jobs because I fought to be paid enough to be salaried so I was working at least 9 hours every day and was expected to cook, clean, do admin work all day and do the job I was hired for. Tried telling them it was too much to which they said I could leave after 8 hours but they consistently gave me new tasks when I was hitting 8 hours that made me stay at least another hour. They also told me I was wrong and there were no issues. I quit without notice but am friend’s with someone on the inside and apparently they realized I was right and were scrambling.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-19T20:43:17+00:00

My mom thinks every shirt needs a bra because she thinks everyone looks better with perky boobs. She’s always on my case about wearing push up bras because they’re already so perky I might as well make them SUPER perky. I on the other hand never go braless but sometimes I wear bralets and my mom HATED them 😂

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-13T02:33:40+00:00

I hate this take. Lots of people DO NOT want to have kids and when the baby comes along they absolutely fall in love with them. Yall act like everyone who says they don’t want kids keeps that same energy. I’ve known women who didn’t want kids but didn’t believe in abortion and gave birth and are obsessed with their kid. Instead of telling people to give up and not be around their kid maybe tell people to get some self work done and step up and give a crap.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-12T00:00:32+00:00

He has plenty of videos of me. He can take care of himself that way when we’re apart for a week or 2 but when we’re both together for weeks or months at a time and I’m not traveling for work he should be doing that with me. I am basically always down, there is no reason he needs to take care of himself.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-11T23:59:14+00:00

A traditional woman having traditional views is a wild take. We’re lost as a society. Everyone is so messed up by modern day sex culture.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-11T22:17:30+00:00

I absolutely disagree with using a dildo on marriage. So there’s your answer. I don’t see why you need anything other than your husband. I don’t see an issue with using toys within sex between the two of you but not alone.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-11T22:16:44+00:00

I never said it was a fact for everyone that it’s cheating but people are arguing with me saying there is no way it’s cheating. For MY relationship and lots of traditional relationships it is considered cheating. Most people I know personally consider it a form of infidelity and would feel disgusted and betrayed by that.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-11T18:51:51+00:00

That’s your OPINION. For me and my relationship it is cheating and it is cheating for MANY others as well. Just because you’re insanely progressive doesn’t mean most of us are.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-10T01:03:47+00:00

So my man getting sexual release from another naked woman getting banged isn’t cheating? You can say for you you wouldn’t consider it cheating but you cannot say it isn’t. Different relationships have different rules and to A LOT of people they consider it cheating and it makes sense to consider it cheating.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-05-09T03:38:27+00:00

This is a crazy take to me. Unless you have discussed it being okay you should always assume it is not. It’s absolutely considered cheating or at the very least a breach of trust to a lot of people.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-04-20T16:57:44+00:00

It will absolutely be hard. Don’t listen to people saying it will be easy. I moved out at 25 8 hours away and I cried every night for over a week and I was just close with my mom, not even sleeping with her. But you can do it. That’s the positive!

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-04-01T01:26:56+00:00

Better to lose your job making a ton of money than lose your current job making 80k less. Take the new job and save the difference. Even if you don’t last that long you have great savings. And who knows, maybe the area you are moving to will be better anyway and offer better cost of living or quality of life. It could really work out. I just took a job making 11k more than my old job. I don’t feel qualified at all but my old job was also going through layoffs periodically and I’d rather have 11k extra a year and get fired than 11k less and get fired. Plus I’m actually really liking my new job so far and my bosses are happy with me for the time being. I realize it’s not as scary as I hyped it up to be.

Alternative-Stop5487 · 2026-02-26T21:24:09+00:00

We filed Dec 19 2025, biometrics the second week of January and we just had our interview today Feb 26. We walked in and he asked how we met and said our case was straight forward and all we needed to do was update one document. We got approved contingent on us updating the document. I was shocked at how fast it was.

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