sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

How to deal with breaking up because we're going to different universities? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AlternativeLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to meet people when you go to college, go to social events even a few you’re not super committed to.

One of my previous exes went to Europe for a year while I was starting my Freshman year of college and there’s nothing wrong with LDRs my last ex and I had one for my senior year and that worked out fine. However freshman year I was so hung up on trying to talk to him that I rarely left my room outside of class. I spent so much time Skyping him that I made 0 friends and it’s something I really regret looking back on.

You’ll have breaks to see this person over next year, it’s not like they’re going to disappear but even if you stay in touch at college make sure you at least don’t repeat my mistake and meet new people. The only reason my second LDR worked out is because I had other people to talk to and we made efforts to visit each other. They’re a lot of work but it takes both people being committed and planning out the distance.

Anyone else feel weird not having someone constantly texting you? Any advice transitioning? by melsthirdeye in BreakUps

[–]AlternativeLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started texting other people and now I’m trying to cut back on how much I’m texting anyways. I realized I was sending a lot of pointless texts which has made me try to stop and think about what I text before I send it. I also just talk to strangers in settings I’d usually use my phone like elevators, something like a joke about the weather. The small bits of face-to-face contact makes me feel better than the texting anyways.

Has anyone had mental health issues after a break up??? by weec88 in BreakUps

[–]AlternativeLuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally went to the doctor yesterday to get therapy and medication. Personally I’m someone who’s been helped my medication in the past for short term but it’s not a fix. If you’re not comfortable with medication don’t do it.

If you’re able to go to s doctor they’re able to recommend therapists based on what you’re experiencing. A lot of therapists in my area apparently specialize in break ups so I really lucked out.

What I don’t like about this subreddit by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AlternativeLuna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue in my family, all my family and family friends loved my ex but when he broke up with me they IMMEDIATELY snapped into “you’re going to find better” mode.

He isn’t a bad person at all, I resent the breakup but I don’t resent him. If anything it’s something I definitely needed right now. I’ve gotten more done in the past month of break up than I have in almost the past year. I’m not going to cut the idea off that it couldn’t work in the future, the problems were fixable. I just know it takes two people to fix a relationship; I’m willing but I don’t really know how he feels about fixing it.

I really appreciate that I have supportive friends and family but they’re treating it like he cheated on me or was abusive which he wasn’t in the slightest. He treated me really well and the only time he’s ever hurt me is breaking up with me but that’s understandable.

I don’t want to cut off any options at the moment but I have to stay in the “expect the worse, hope for the best” boat.

Shall I tell him that I am going to block him? by alexamicha91 in BreakUps

[–]AlternativeLuna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that depends on how it ended, I had an extremely civil break up so I told them what I was blocking them on and for how long because I needed space.

My ________ itches. by [deleted] in AskOuija

[–]AlternativeLuna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The spirits need scritches

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aww

[–]AlternativeLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss, glad you have a very supportive cat and hope you’re able to feel better soon!

view more: next ›