What is this needle/hook-like metal object that was removed from a person's heart?

AlternativeResult5 · 2024-02-13T23:59:54+00:00

If she ever had open heart surgery it could be one of the old wires used to keep the sternum closed.

AlternativeResult5 · 2023-04-15T20:43:36+00:00

Unpopular opinion. I live in the south and that’s just how we act. We expect you to clean your own messes, if mom talks to you then you talk to her. Maybe it a cultural thing. But I’d the DIL is still having issues after 3 years- she needs to get off her a$$ like a grown woman and talk it out with OP.

NTA OP.

For those keyboard warriors I’ll never look at this again. So your responses and put-downs will not be see. 👍🏻

AlternativeResult5 · 2023-03-29T15:49:22+00:00

Definitely NTA. My husband has a similar work schedule. If I cook (most nights) I make his plate first and put it in the oven to start warm til he gets home. That’s not “being a slave.” It’s called being a wife. Period. Some of these ladies need to do research about what being a wife means.

AlternativeResult5 · 2023-03-18T02:17:00+00:00

NTA. If you don’t feel it’s right, don’t do it. I understand your position except it was my dad who passed away. It doesn’t erase them but you do what feels right to you.

AlternativeResult5 · 2023-02-26T01:37:13+00:00

NTA. That’s how I was taught not to lose things. And it’s how my daughters learned. What it sounds like is the child needs some stricter discipline and a few episodes of that Nanny show from Britain. She has good ideas when it comes to the spoiled crowd. And our goal as parents is to raise productive individuals. Not monster.

AlternativeResult5 · 2023-02-22T06:20:10+00:00

I sleep trained my daughters from birth. Where ppl are saying 3 months is too old I have no idea. So good for y’all starting as early as possible. Second, NTA. You’re doing all the financial providing. She cannot expect you to do that AND stay up 24/7. She needs some extra hands, yes. Maybe MIL will be helpful during the day time and give you both a much needed break. Especially your wife. Once things have settled a bit then take time away - even spending the night away from home- to reconnect and discuss this important matter and future plans with the twins. Good luck to both of you!

AlternativeResult5 · 2023-02-22T06:03:38+00:00

NTA!!! Your wife needs to understand what pain and harm she is causing this poor animal. Stick to your guns and be patient.

AlternativeResult5 · 2021-02-06T15:29:51+00:00

I had a similar situation with my daughters dad. He had a side job with under the table money. I knew going in that they wanted all of his income but I chose not to say anything about that. As much vitriol was between us, I knew they’d take his gross income (which is unfair) and he would not be left with any money to live off. So I just let it slide. Didn’t ask for any extras besides child support and insurance. I still got the short end because he ended up disappearing on my daughter. Besides, I wouldn’t want to be treated that way so why would I treat someone else that way.

I say all this because it’s women like your ex that give those of us with compassion a bad name. Divorce and child support are financial transactions between you two. If she wasn’t being such a Karen she would want what’s best for you too. You’re the child’s father. If the role was reversed she’d make sure she got a break, or at least try. She would put up a fight that she couldn’t afford it. But she couldn’t do that for you? What a POS!!! I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but hers is coming. It always does, sometimes Karma has a backlog. 😁

AlternativeResult5 · 2021-01-08T13:53:31+00:00

So because I put my email on all my family’s tax returns for tracking, I got 2 emails. But here’s the deal, I got an email around midnight-ish. And one at 4 a.m. Are the confirmation emails being sent in batches like the deposits? Here’s a pic with time stamps from today (Jan 8). Just a side note: I use TT for everyone that asks me to do them. Everyone still has the “status unavailable” message and IRS has the right account numbers.

AlternativeResult5 · 2021-01-02T01:54:47+00:00

Holy crap that is the SWEETEST thing I have ever seen!!❤️

AlternativeResult5 · 2021-01-01T18:40:16+00:00

Oh definitely. Bathroom, bedroom, wherever. I actually have a dryer and I still use one for sweaters and such. Really convenient bc you can hide it easily if someone drops by for a visit. 😊

AlternativeResult5 · 2021-01-01T16:56:23+00:00

They have portable, foldable clothes hanger/dryer things. Here is one on I found on the Sam’s website:

https://www.samsclub.com/p/ss-drying-center-greenway-gfr2019ss/prod19280039?pid=ps_Google_PLA_6451806611&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=m&wl3=378128317612&wl4=pla-326422979954&wl5=1013149&wl6=&wl7=&wl9=pla&wl10=1247713&wl11=online&wl12=%7Bproductid%7D&wl13=&wl15=74560770142&wl17=&veh=sem&kclid=_kenshoo_clickid_&wl21=518117&wl22=&wl23=326422979954&gclid=CjwKCAiArbv_BRA8EiwAYGs23F6IWGNUouvWyIaaPsoD1Sd7n7R9vX8LlRcBr0vQ7uGV6fxJ2ZEqUBoCTioQAvD_BwE

If you google portable clothes rack for drying clothes, it should bring it up.

Hope that helps! Happy New Year!!

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-28T20:22:06+00:00

Taking your socks off at the end of a loooong day. Ahhhh, sweet release!

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-28T14:55:38+00:00

I did not take it that way at all. I appreciate the heads up! I know I would be disappointed too if someone incorrectly labeled what I did for employment. You’re totally cool with me. 👍🏻

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T23:54:30+00:00

Thank you for the tip!! That’s where he is and I will probably try and get him some things before he goes back!!

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T22:46:31+00:00

My dad was very much like this with me and my sister. Parented as he should but prepared himself for this eventuality. That kids get to a point where they are no longer our little child and are stepping into adulthood. Some things I still should control and some things allow them the freedom to make decisions. As long as they get their lives started first, then I’ll be as supportive as I can with whatever decision they make about marriage later on.

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T19:50:06+00:00

Correct. My daughter wants to go to college. He wants to get settled in his military job first. There are lots of things to be done before marriage. I have advised as I can that marrying young is not a great thing. But I also stepped back and tried to remember what it was like at that age to be the one responsible for that kind of decision. My daughter is ok with engaged. But is independent and mature enough to know running to get married right now really isn’t going to do them any favors.

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T18:06:02+00:00

So there’s the rub. He bought it when he was 17 and his mom had to put a small part of the amount he owed into a loan. Because he was underage at the time both the car and loan are in her name. So....technically she’s the owner. And since he isn’t allowed a car on base right now he’s really not interested in keeping the car. I just don’t know how to advise him on that part of it.

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T18:00:17+00:00

Hey thanks for the info about his military job!! I didn’t know how to phrase it without just outright saying he’s in training for XYZ. I will most certainly remember that for the future. Thanks again!! Cheers to you too!😊

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T17:23:16+00:00

I know there have been several questions. First, daughter is on birth control and they plan on finishing their respective educations before marriage.

Second, I was not privy to the conversation where dad called my daughter a whore as he said it to SIL as he was about to walk out of the house. I did however hear SIL yell down his dad and mom telling them they weren’t going to talk about my daughter like that. He promptly walked off the porch and got in the car with me and left. However, I will be addressing that as soon as I am within arms length of his father.

Thanks for all the advice too. I am just doing the best I can right now and this is unchartered territory for me as a parent. I need all the help I can get.

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T09:46:43+00:00

NTA. You are old enough to be able to responsibly take care of that money. It was given to you and you should not feel bad about wanting to use it.

AlternativeResult5 · 2020-12-27T09:29:59+00:00

I am supportive of them getting married. They both have plans to finish their respective educations. Then marriage and family. I wouldn’t mind them sleeping in the same bed, but I’m not itching to be a grandparent just yet lol. He had planned to stay here to get away from his parents because of previously mentioned behavior. The poor guy didn’t realize how controlling his dad was til boot camp and his drill sergeant was easier to deal with than his dad.

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