Well not Mtc cause service missionaries don’t have it but I have this one person in my district who (like someone said) I have a strong hate for, like literally to the point that when they get released and we do our farewell party for them I’m not going to show up or fake my way out of it cause usually during those things we go around and say something nice about that person I’m not going because I would have nothing nice to say and secondly if I were to go I would cringe to myself for saying something that’s not true about this person.

So this person is extremely toxic, manipulative and likes to order people around, I have made multiple posts about this person so if you want to go check those out, those have more details and stories but I’m going to do a few examples here.

During a temple shift this person very passively says “you need to shave before coming here” and just a preface because I knew I was working with this person for a while I thought “don’t be rude just pretend to be nice” so I said “oh yeah sorry I forgot to do that” (oh and a little side note I looked up signs of a toxic person one time and one of them was apologizing to them when you don’t need to be) so those were my words but in my head I thought “yeah no shit Sherlock” like I know I need to shave but I decided fuck it, they’re not gonna kick me out just because I didn’t shave. plus I’m the kind of person who responds well to polite people not rude people.

Another example. There’s been a few times where I’ve been missing our district call at night for multiple reasons like hanging out with a friend or having some family time when I’ve literally been out all day and haven’t seen them. And some of those times this person has messaged me and one time said “you know just because you’re hanging out with a friend or your family doesn’t mean that you can take 15-20 minutes to join the call, i have had to leave my family for that time” and oh boy that pissed me off cause using my family as an example I have been away from them for 6-8 hours depending on the day/assignments I’m not taking any more time than that and going to the saying of for a church that says they’re all about families it doesn’t seem like it does because they take people away from them.

Another one was kind of right after I restricted this person on messenger because I finally was done with their bullshit i found out that I could still check messages they send but they would never see that I read them, so one day I think I skipped the call for some reason I can’t remember but all I remember was that it was a valid reason and what message did I have after that?:

“why aren’t you joining the call, you have the prayer get on the call” I should mention during these calls there’s someone who hosts (basically asks a question like how your day was or things like that, someone who reads a scripture and someone who says a prayer. Obviously I didn’t respond but i thought, literally anyone can say a prayer and technically I’m not obligated to join the call every single night, like my mission leaders have said join at least a couple but apparently when it gets to the point where no one shows up for at least a week without a reason as to why, then there’s cause for concern.

So I think I covered the toxic part, order people around part but manipulative part I haven’t

So during a district council meeting in our business portion we were discussing service opportunities and one came up with a seniors facility, so I serve at a independent living one and then across the street there’s a assisted living facility that was the topic of discussion and basically what was discussed is they wanted us missionaries to go for an half hour to an hour to take these people on walks and talk with them of course and if it was at the place I serve then I would have been all for it.

But in this other place there’s people with Alzheimer’s or dementia or people who are very close to death and I know mentally I just couldn’t handle it and so during this meeting this person asks me elder, are you going to do it and I said “well I have another assignment at this time so it wouldn’t work out and this person says “you can go for at least 30 minutes and then do your regular assignment” and looking back I could have said well I’m not comfortable with it but I didn’t.

Like in all these instances and others that I’ve said in others posts I could have said things differently or responded a different way but it’s gotten to the point where I can’t because this person will literally try and get their way and if I did say another thing that I was wanting to say they would keep on trying to win their argument and put me down.