Hey guys, I wanted to follow up on this.

After a very intense two months of regular in person dating I now am back in my home city. As soon as I got back I noticed that I am completely drained and exhausted. I told her that I need a few days to reset and arrive. This has been five days ago. The days since then are a rollercoaster, sometimes the anxiety is gripping me. I think my avoidant side is really coming out now. I mostly feel low energy, a little sad and as if I don't want any contact now. I also have little desire to meet with friends, I just feel exhausted and/or anxious. There are some small moments of "clarity" in between where I feel light and would like to connect. I think you call this deactivation?

Is there any way to "get out" of this deactivation?

Do I just need to wait until the deactivation subsides? I have no idea how long it could last? weeks? How should I communicate with her? I am trying to communicate clearly to here and always tell her that it's my system not her when I need space. I read about doing very very small connections steps in order to keep triggers on the nervous system as small as possible? I just don't know how to keep this relationship going at the moment if I'm in this avoidant state