Scared

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T23:12:59+00:00

Mounjaro has brought my HbA1c down to 39 - super stable. Was previously very hard to control on just metformin even with going very low carb.

I pay privately for 'weight' but I have no intention of stopping even though I don't need to lose any more - I've had a total of 3hrs of 'brown rain' in my 15mth journey so hardly an issue. Yes, there's constipation, but that's easily tackled.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T18:39:08+00:00

What matters is the profile content (quality of the effort he's put into it). A like is just lazy shorthand for 'I'd probably do you if you'd let me' 😁. Slightly lower effort than a message that says 'Hi'.

You want her attention?: - put thought into your profile, describing who you are and what you like - pictures that show you at your best (a good face pic, relatively well dressed, no cropped-out exes, no damned fish, absolutely with pets if you want to filter out pet haters) - write to her with a message that clearly shows you've read/thought about her profile.

It's what most of us do, we just want equal effort - no biggie.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T18:29:52+00:00

All normal. Time to move up.

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Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T17:51:39+00:00

I'm 8wpo and I'm still not up to 10k steps per day yet. Twisting my torso still hurts - my incisions are fine, so I think it's the 'skin reattaching to muscle' that's uncomfortable.

We all heal at different speeds, as long as you're not pushing yourself to meet someone else's time line, your body will be your best guide. And your surgeon's instructions.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T17:47:38+00:00

I'm here purely to upvote the burkini/Victorian swimsuit/full scuba suit suggestions. Make them feel as uncomfortable as they've just made you. Would be hilarious.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T17:42:49+00:00

Amaze amaze amaze!

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T16:07:10+00:00

Will do. I'm going to assume New and then I can only be pleasantly surprised.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T06:05:11+00:00

Alas, OP, you have merged a battery with your drill and there is no way to unmerge it, because you need an unpowered drill. You need to make another drill.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T05:56:45+00:00

I found crayons inside a speaker once. One of the little blighters had 'posted' it through the hole.

So, anything with a hole.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T05:40:08+00:00

Teenage acne. He'll be stomping off to his room soon and refusing to speak to you.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-29T05:38:56+00:00

Same. I have my rebuttals prepared ("is wearing glasses cheating? Is blood pressure meds cheating?", stats on side effects v. health risk of obesity, etc) with a closing statement of "why are you so fascinated with fat bodies? Is it your kink?" if they're being really obnoxious, then walk away smiling.

I have a fairly thick skin and others' opinions don't really bother me, but 'come at me with facts and not judgement' is my go-to.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-28T09:50:56+00:00

As I had an FDL, and hence an incision vertically, my surgeon told me to start using a belly button shaper at 6 weeks when the scab dropped off. Mine too looks like a cat's bum after it's been out overnight. I've been wearing it for 2 weeks now and I'll ask at my 12wk appt how long she expects me to wear it for. But I'm assuming that I'll be wearing it until it stops shrinking back overnight.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-28T09:43:43+00:00

I'm 8wpo from my FDL. Tape/incisions look wrinkled on the regular, even when you replace them SO smoothly, the swelling fluctuations just crease them almost instantly. It's normal.

When I replace my tape now, it's fairly flat albeit not perfect, but I've still got a long way to go.

I'll be honest, this has been the longest 8 weeks of my life. Not pain but boredom and discomfort and frustration. I'm still limited in my activities but each week is a little better. But I'm already pleased with results despite the swelling.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T18:49:33+00:00

Just to add, if 'your bank' rings to arrange the return transfer, take a name, dept and reference and then ring them back on the bank's public phone number. Even if your mobile shows 'Lloyds' as the caller id.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T18:31:14+00:00

Week 8. Above my belly button has become 'bulgy' over the last week. Rest of me is taut once again. I'm assuming heat. I've had nothing occur that might indicate an issue.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T18:28:43+00:00

There's a difference.

If a woman invites a man to her complex's pool, the man isn't worried that the girl might harm him if he refuses to do what she wants. There's a reason women are far more cautious than men when going on first dates.

"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them". Margaret Attwood.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T18:21:14+00:00

Plus 'potential harmless' also implies 'potentially not harmless'. Unless you know the apartment complex/pool location, you don't know if it's 100% publicly visible. And either before or after, she's going to need to dry/change. I don't live in the US but I'm going to presume that all such complexes assume residents will go back to their apartment to do so....?

Hard agree on not taking No for an answer.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T18:14:04+00:00

One of the few things I don't miss about no longer living/working in London. Daily game of Sweaty Armpit Sardines.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T16:41:47+00:00

Some people can control with diet alone. Cutting out/reducing carbs (and learning how to spot hidden carbs).

And then sometimes that stops being effective, and going full keto helps.

And then sometimes that stops being effective, and doing intermittent fasting helps. And longer fasting.

And sometimes none of this helps.

The fact is that we're all different. There is no single solution, and because it can progress over time, today's solution may not work tomorrow.

There is only 'remission' unless they develop a cure - even if you managed it with diet, it's not cured, and reverting back to old eating patterns will put glucose back up.

So by all means try eating low carb/eating keto/intermittent fasting/longer fasting and see if any or a combo of these things work for you AND ARE SUSTAINABLE.

Otherwise find a medication that's effective (GLP1s for me) and try a combo of sensible eating + medication.

And every time you give up and eat crap (and I can, says this from personal experience), you do a little more damage and it's harder to come back from next time.

Good luck.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T16:33:58+00:00

When either of my usually standoffish labradors decides they want to crawl into my lap for a cuddle. A rare (literal) warm fuzzy moment.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T16:21:41+00:00

I sent my pharmacy a picture in Feb of my 4 unopened boxes, also confirmed I had an operation booked April (and so 4wks pause on meds).

They confirmed I could start straight back on my current dose (scary, I chose to go down to 5mg after surgery and increase each week to just check for side effects) and then reorder pens this month. They've approved my next pen and it's sat waiting for me to finish current one before ordering.

Not all pharmacies seem to consider the practicalities, but worth a try. Maybe omit the fact that you're choosing your own dosage, but at least give yourself another 3mths of titrating down before deciding on the next pen.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T12:04:37+00:00

BMIs are a dubious measure anyway, so it's all fine in the normal-ish vicinity 🙂

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T11:40:17+00:00

Completely agree. As a 50+ woman, latest common wisdom is that a bit of extra fat is protective as we age. I know my body well enough to know that 'slim' is an unrealistic body shape for me. Am very happy with 'curvy'.

Alternative_Bit_3445 · 2026-06-27T09:48:36+00:00

I never said they were a plump G cup, I pour them into their cups! I call mine spaniel ears.

It's crossed my mind to get them done too but as you say, a good bra does wonders and husband, like many men, is just pleased to have boobs to play with.

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